AA has brainwashed my DM ..

[meatliqour]

Don't get me wrong I've never been happier that my DM is sober.

She was a living nightmare.

There are no words to describe the 25 years I suffered.

She is. Threw AA. Thankfully 7 years sober.

However ... She rams it all down my throat, suffocating kind. Anyone who touches a drink ... Oh they are an alcoholic, even if they have a drink once a fucking year!

It is still exhausting. She will and maybe I forget this. Is still and always be an alcoholic :(

[CallMeExhausted]

*DM - I am not sure why my phone hates me.

[PiperChapstick]

YANBU (although I absolutely agree with PrivatePike that all it takes is one drink).

My uncle is 15 years sober and condemns anyone who even thinks about drinking, me especially, as alcoholism is hereditary apparently. I rarely drink but this isn't good enough for him, he wants me to stop completely. I feel like saying "well no duck off some of us can just enjoy it for what it is and not be alcoholics". But I don't I block him from seeing my pics on FB though

OP has your mother ever apologised for her behaviour from when she was an alcoholic?

[PiperChapstick]

*fuck

[Keeptrudging]

DH is in AA. He is not preachy about other people drinking. He can be around people drinking without seeing alcoholics everywhere! He is absolutely certain that he can never drink again. He is committed to the AA because it works if you follow the steps. He will always be an alcoholic. AA saved his life. He's happier and healthier now than he's ever been, each year sober is celebrated by the whole family. Some of the language at times can be a bit 'evangelical' but what helps keep people sober is the fellowship AA offers, being amongst others who've been there and continuing to work on yourself.

Your DM shouldn't be projecting her issues onto everyone else, or possibly feeling resentful that others can control their drinking in ways she can't. I think a direct and honest conversation is needed with her, and maybe she needs to do some work on this at AA/with her sponsor.

[marfisa]

members appear to preach that anyone who picks up a drink has a problem, or is drinking for a reason.

AA as an organisation definitely doesn't preach this! This attitude towards alcohol isn't coming from AA, it's coming from your mum.

Alcoholics are alcoholics because they can't drink like normal people do. The receptors in their brains respond to alcohol differently. For a normal person to pick up a drink is fine. For an alcoholic to pick up a drink can be fatal (because alcoholics can't stop at one).

Some (but not all) alcoholics in recovery find it hard to be around other people who are drinking. If this is the case for your mum, then she may well prefer that other people not drink in her presence. Fine. But perceiving alcohol and drinking as bad for everyone is not, I repeat, not AA doctrine!

[CallMeExhausted]

What I am trying to say its that OP's DM is painting all of the people in her life with the "one drink" brush.

However - read whatever into it you choose to.