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AIBU?

am i being paranoid

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marsia1998 · 18/02/2016 14:08

My bf and I both have friends of oposite sex and its never been a problem but a few months ago this other girl came on the scene, no one actually knew her except from him, he said she was a girl who stayed near him when they were kids and then she moved away and he met her a few months ago on a night out and decided to keep in touch.

I have met her a few times when she has came to nights out with us and our friends and she clearly does not like me, I made an effort with her to begin with but we just didn't get on so I tried to not be in her company.

He has lied about spending time with her and when I ask him about it he said its because I don't like her so he didn't want me giving him grief for seeing her. A few nights ago I found a packet of condoms with some missing that I know we didn't use, when I asked him he said he had used them while masterbating to save mess and he said that I'm paranoid. I have never ever not trusted him before but I think somethings going on with this girl but what if he's right and I am just paranoid

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Robotgirl · 19/02/2016 13:27

Only a twat would blame you for making him lie.
You can do better.

Roger that

AnyFucker · 18/02/2016 22:14

Raises both arms and both legs

amarmai · 18/02/2016 21:18

hands up everyone who has been told by a man that he lied to you because he knew you wd get mad if he told the truth? Keep them up-i;m still counting-up-up- YEP!

AnyFucker · 18/02/2016 19:01

summat like that, optimist

Optimist1 · 18/02/2016 18:39

Cockney!!

Optimist1 · 18/02/2016 18:38

Cocknet rhyming slang, AF?

BillSykesDog · 18/02/2016 18:36

I just read this out to DH, he pissed himself laughing. He wants to know if your OH thought he was going to get his hand pregnant.

He thinks it's bullshit and he's cheating too.

MamaLazarou · 18/02/2016 18:18

Sorry, OP. He's cheating.

AnyFucker · 18/02/2016 18:15

I think that's commonly known as a "Eubank "

molyholy · 18/02/2016 18:06

Do they wear a monocle during one of these posh wanks? 'Oh dear chap, one does believe one has ejaculated'

Shesinfashion · 18/02/2016 18:04

It's pretty likely he is shagging her. You can either put up with it or dump him. Who wants into a condom to "save mess"? No one. Ever.

MissLanaBanana · 18/02/2016 18:02

Came on to add that's called a "posh wank" around these parts but I was beaten to it!

AnyFucker · 18/02/2016 18:00

He is shagging her

Kick him into touch before he gets in first

eatsleephockeyrepeat · 18/02/2016 17:57

Only a twat would blame you for making him lie

A thousand times this! Well said TitClash

TitClash · 18/02/2016 17:41

He has lied about spending time with her and when I ask him about it he said its because I don't like her so he didn't want me giving him grief for seeing her.

Only a twat would blame you for making him lie.
You can do better.

Junosmum · 18/02/2016 17:40

You aren't being paranoid.

But masturbating with a condom is called a 'posh wank' apparently (or so my male friends inform me).

DoreenLethal · 18/02/2016 17:39

Female or male - come to think of it.

DoreenLethal · 18/02/2016 17:38

Who would really waste money on wanking into a condom? Unless a female is on the outside of course!

Oysterbabe · 18/02/2016 17:37

He's definitely banging her.

whattodowiththepoo · 18/02/2016 17:20

You don't sound paranoid at all but the wanking with a condom thing might be true, some men have done that and many more will.

spillyobeans · 18/02/2016 17:12

The reason the girl 'doesnt like you' is because to her your the other woman whom he wont leave for her

BillSykesDog · 18/02/2016 17:10

Well until today I always though posh wanks were something only David Beckham had.

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spillyobeans · 18/02/2016 17:09

Posh wanks

bessiebumptious2 · 18/02/2016 16:29

That excuse was used on me many, many moons ago in my 20s. Found wrappers in bathroom bin and they certainly weren't "ours". So... I actually asked the girl I thought he may be cheating with (she was a vague friend of mine) and she quite openly gave me all the details. I thanked her for being straight with me and dumped the cheating bastard. Didn't see her socially again either as I changed my social circle to include nicer people.

hellsbellsmelons · 18/02/2016 16:22

he said that I'm paranoid
They ALL say this.
Nearly every single one of the lying cheating arseholes out there.
They love throwing this line around.
He's lying, seeing another woman behind your back, cheating on you, gaslighting you and more no doubt!
Get out of this now.
You can do much better than this tosser!

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