Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Saved Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Flip

1 2 3 4

AIBU?

Boasting about your wealth on Facebook. Why?

94 replies

tellmelies · 27/01/2016 08:58

Why are people so keen for others to see how many expensive material possessions they have.

Is this a 'thing' now?

OP posts:

Report

tinofbiscuits · 27/01/2016 10:44

Delete facebook - problem solved.

Yes, this! Facebook is only optional after all...

Report

Bluebolt · 27/01/2016 10:46

I only have real friends on FB, nothing they put on FB is any different than what they would say and do face to face. I have a child with severe learning difficulties and it is difficult to read about their children who are the same age, a constant reminder of how it could of been. But I would hate any of my friends feeling that they have to filter.

Report

Muskateersmummy · 27/01/2016 10:47

I think its each persons own fb for them to post what they like. Somethings will annoy some people. You can't censor everything you post so as not to annoy people. If friends or family visit nice places, treat themselves to nice things, I am happy for them, as I hope they would be for me. Why can't people be proud of what they have achieved/have/do without it being bragging?

I agree with the pp who said if we censored everything for fear of upsetting those who can't have it, we just would post nothing! When struggling to conceive the constant my baby is x big now posts cut like a knife but those friends were excited, I just hid them for a while.

Report

pictish · 27/01/2016 10:48

I agree to just ignore it. It is very crass of them, but imagine how insecure and/or bitter they must really be, to feel the need?
Unfortunately money can't buy modesty or confidence.

Report

BikeRunSki · 27/01/2016 10:48

It's so people know where to burgle when the show off is boasting about their foreign holiday.

Report

Muskateersmummy · 27/01/2016 10:51

Bike... I know many who won't tag whilst on holiday for fear of that, but surely if your settings are all private (friends only) and you know your friends aren't burglars, why would that happen? How would anyone find out to come and burgle?? Genuinely have never understood that?

Report

pictish · 27/01/2016 10:54

I disagree that anyone is obliged to post sensitively according to who they might offend or make jealous btw. We shouldn't have to do that.

If someone consistently irritates me on fb I just unfollow them. Then I don't have to read or see it unless I want to wind myself up.

Report

Katenka · 27/01/2016 10:57

I don't post on social media while I am away. Even though friends can only see my posts.

It ok saying your friends aren't thieves and I get your point. But I don't know everyone on my FB, to the point I know everything about them.

My FB is for my business though.

You never know what will happen though. A few years ago in Leeds almost an entire shift of police were suspended. Elderly People were going in to tell the police they were going away, thinking if anything happen at their property the police would know and contact them. Some even thought the police would drive by every so often.

Some of the officers were passing the details to dodgy folk and the elderly people were being burgled.

You wouldn't expect the police to rob you either. But it happened.

Report

cavkc123 · 27/01/2016 10:58

I don't mind generally, however a while back some friends posted pics of themselves in the BA First Class Lounge at Heathrow, really bragging about the free champagne etc. I just thought it was a bit crass

Report

Viviennemary · 27/01/2016 10:58

You often find these very boastful people have come from families who did have very much money. So it's understandable they want to show off.

Report

Viviennemary · 27/01/2016 10:59

that should be didn't

Report

Muskateersmummy · 27/01/2016 11:00

I can see that Kat.... I asked out of interest as I have considered only posting about the hols once we are back too tbh. Thank you for the response x

Report

Katenka · 27/01/2016 11:07

Muskateer me too.

Less worrying. I don't even post on social media that I am going away. I get someone to look after the business social media and then post a few pics when I get back.

Report

MackerelOfFact · 27/01/2016 11:25

Are they Forever Living (or similar) pyramid selling con artists 'business owners'?

Seems lying bragging about your wealth and work/life balance on social media is the main part of the MLM strategy...

Report

DanishBlue · 27/01/2016 11:26

I wont have FB for this reason. Closed my account years ago. A dear friend is this person, writes the biggest load of tripe on there, boasting about this and that, kids are the most amazing, clever, successful human beings ever born, how proud they are of them, what a great life her and DP lead and how happy they are, what they have bought, where they are holidaying and yet when she speaks me I know they are up shit creak financially, kids haven't done as well at school as she hoped, been sacked jobs, can't pay the rent, terrible neighbours etc etc Despite this she is a great person, she just has some kind of need for approval and thrives on the Likes and "oooo I am so envious" comments that follow.

I don't understand how anyone would knowingly want to post about insignificant things to hundreds of "aquaintances" on FB

I do accept though that maybe I am the one with the problem LOL - I am so happier when I can't read this rubbish.

Report

Vanderwaals · 27/01/2016 11:38

Fb is for boasting. (According to some people)
Or moaning.
Some might think me posting photos of my summer holiday was bragging.
I might think that people posting photos of their children saying "they are the best thing ever, my life was worthless before I had them" was boasting.
Some people might think posting uni results is bragging. (Especially if they didn't go to uni) I got a first.

Report

tellmelies · 27/01/2016 15:21

what a great life her and DP lead and how happy they are, what they have bought, where they are holidaying and yet when she speaks me I know they are up shit creak financially, kids haven't done as well at school as she hoped, been sacked jobs, can't pay the rent, terrible neighbours etc etc Despite this she is a great person, she just has some kind of need for approval and thrives on the Likes and "oooo I am so envious" comments that follow.

Sounds like people cherry pick the best bits to put on their FB page.

99% of their day is more than likely spent cleaning the toilet, ironing, cooking and cleaning up cat sick, but they will post about the one good thing that happened.

So you get a skewed pricture and it's not what their life is really like.

OP posts:

Report

pictish · 27/01/2016 15:44

Absolutely. Facebook is the ideal showcase for the edited highlights of people's lives, and it doesn't do us any harm to remember that.

Report

Katenka · 27/01/2016 15:47

Sounds like people cherry pick the best bits to put on their FB page.

Isn't that what most people do.

Tbh I would unfriend someone who posted things like

7am just got up
7.15am been for a poo and making coffee
7.20 sat drinking coffee
7.30 getting in shower
8am cleaning the toilet.

Social media is never ever going to give the full picture of someone's life.