Ok, I apologise in advance as this will probably be a long OP, but to avoid confusion and drip feeding there's some background which may or may not matter.
DH and I have 3 DSs. DS1 is our biological son, DS2 and DS3 are brothers, sons of family friends who we adopted after their parents died. At the time, DS2 was 15 and having a pretty rough time of it so we always made it very clear he wasn't an outsider, that we thought of both him and DS3 as part of our family and if he ever needed advice or to talk about anything or just a hug we would be there for him. A couple of times he did, but for the most part kept it to himself.
Fast forward to four years ago, DS2 met his current girlfriend and found a kindred spirit almost.
Fast forward again to a few days ago, they had come over for dinner and I noticed something was a little off about them. When we were on our own I asked him if he was ok and he said that he was, then a while later cornered me and said (with a face the colour of the red cabbage mind you!) that he and girlfriend had had sex for the first time and he was a little unsure if it was supposed to change anything, or if it was a sign she wanted him to propose. Long story short we had a brief chat about it (pink cheeks all around), I assured him that I didn't think she was trying to get him to marry her, he assured me he had wanted to do it, we both returned to company in better spirits.
Now I'm thinking about the conversation I'm feeling a little strange about it. Not because I think he shouldn't have had sex because frankly he's 24 years old, it's his body part and his life, but I almost feel like he's grown up to the point where he simply doesn't need me. AIBU to feel like this?
AIBU?
AIBU to be unsure how I feel about DS losing his virginity?
GreenGlassLove · 08/01/2016 00:44
You're welcome 
. I'm sure your concern and love must be as obvious to him as it is on here. I really hope he gets things in perspective; he has so many years ahead and there's little that can't be made even slightly easier with a bit of professional support.
@Iborgia
I hope so, he's so kind hearted it's horrible to see him going through this, I'm sure you can relate .
He called tonight and he sounded brighter again, he didn't mention anything about therapy/counselling/whatever the PC term is but he did say he's going to the doctors next week so perhaps he'll mention it to them.
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