We're about to start potty training DD (2) and all the conflicting advice I'm getting is starting to do my head in. AIBU to be utterly confused and to not have a clue where to start because everything I read, research online and am told by other people contradicts each other? I'm starting to think I must be completely lacking in Mother's intuition and that everyone else just instinctively knows what to do.
Nursery have specifically requested that we send her in pull ups until toilet training is established but i've been told by relatives, friends etc. that pull ups are the devil and that she will still be wet in the day at age four if I use them even occasionally.
At a recent toddler group I was advised to buy several potty's and place one in every room of the house. Then (during the same group) another Mum was very insistent that potty's are "old-hat" and "everyone" goes straight to putting them on the toilet now. She seemed shocked that I didn't know this, despite DD being my first.
I have read that reward charts are a "life saver" for potty training but also that they are completely ineffective and should be avoided as they are a form of "bribery" and "send the wrong message".
I've read that I should go cold turkey on nappies and put her straight into pants as it's a good thing if they wee in their pants and feel a bit uncomfortable as it will encourage them to go in the potty next time. I have also read that this is "cruel" and an example of "negative reinforcement" which will traumatise her for life so I should continue to use a nappy but just take it off and put her on the potty at regular intervals.
I've been told to stay at home for the first 3-4 days but also that this is "the worst thing you can do" as DD needs to understand she can use the potty/toilet anywhere.
As if the prospect of embarking on this joyous milestone in a house that has cream carpets throughout (not our choice, recently moved in) wasn't anxiety provoking enough! I realise that every child is different so people will have different advice based on what worked for them but all this conflicting information is making my head spin!
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Re conflicting advice about toilet training
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yorkshapudding · 03/01/2016 11:16
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