to think what my colleague did was bloody creepy?

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We have an IM system at work and I regularly chat to a guy I work with (we have a couple of mutual friends so find ourselves going out for drinks as a group sometimes).

He's a lovely guy but theres no sexual feelings between us and we both have partners anyway (he also has a 2 year old son). We just chat!

Anyway I find out a colleague was watching our conversations by staring at my computer and decided to "confront" him about even though she said she couldn't see what we were saying.

I asked her politely to not look at my screen and then she started sending me huge paragraphs (on IM not to my face) giving me loads of attitude and then apologising.

I only replied with a few one words replies because I was creeped out and I'm no longer at school.

As far as I know they've never hooked up and she's got a boyfriend that I think shes been with for at least a year ... so I genuinely have no idea what her problem is.

Aibu to be creeped out by this behaviour?

I meant cool as in 'OK' as opposed to cool trendy !

It's nowt personal op but many people work in a work environment where it's frowned upon to IM people that's all ! So maybe that's her 'thing ' ?

Some people just enjoy sticking their beaks in and getting involved in other people's business- especially if they think it'll cause drama.

What was the gist of her long paragraphs giving you "attitude?"

What form did her 'confronting' him take? And why did she decide to confront him rather than you initially? Was it because she thought that there was something flirtatious about the messages and took it upon her self to police what she thought might be an office affair? Surely you got some idea of what her issue was when she was sending messages to you both, in which case I think that is pertinent to whether it's 'creepy' or not.

little and dojo OP never came back to say anything about the messages and confronting by colleague to male colleague etc which does put a different spin on things.

In fact if I know MN OP won't come back at all on this particular thread now. C'est la vie.

why dont you just get on with some WORK

Brenda didn't you see OP's posts to us where she was employee of the month, year etc... Blah blah BLAH!

what does OP want us to say?

Jobsworth sort of woman I would assume or she thinks your both having an affair and is a nosey cow,

I think she knows/suspects you're more than just friends with someone you're messaging all day and you also know that (even if it's hard to admit to yourself) so it's making you defensive