To ask whatever happened to personal responsibility

[LunchpackOfNotreDame]

Everything seems to be someone else's fault these days

Kids are badly behaved? Blame the teachers
Don't understand politics? Blame the government
Got a health condition that's not getting better but you're not doing your physio or taking your medication properly? Blame the doctors
The list goes on and I'm sure others have better examples than me!

Aibu to ask where personal responsibility has gone?

[expatinscotland]

Good for you, thread police.

[trapdooragain]

hence why im not indulging him over the photo thing its been two weeks that's enough and ive told the social worker he is being disruptive to the children over contact she is going to have words with him at the end of the day i want to work if i cant rely on them being collected from school regularly how can i work under such uncertainty? yes its doable with after school clubs but it costs and they like to know more than a day in advance who will be there!

[GruntledOne]

Seriously, stop reading the Mail and/or the Express, you'll feel much better.

[Youarentkiddingme]

I agree to an extent that there is a minute minority of people who will not help themselves. But I bet there is more to play in that than what it seems - eg MH problems that are undiagnosed or poor education and upbringing from a time where services didn't exist like they do now to prevent it.

Yes, there are issues with services and funding them. But that's because the countries money doesn't match up. Wages are too low for cost of living or cost of living is too high for the average income. Housing is expensive. People need tax credits because they don't earn enough to live off.

We are a nanny state to a degree - but how come we became one? Where did the issue of childhood obesity spring from or the sudden desire for term time holidays?

And YY to all the things we used to view as acceptable or normal - I'm glad we no longer accept men powering woman, that sexual abuse is in the open and people feel empowered to leave violent relationships. I'd love someone to be begging for help if it meant leaving a violent home - better than taking personal responsibility for marrying the person and staying.

Not all change is for the worse.

[LunchpackOfNotreDame]

Wow! Sorry for disappearing I've got 101 things to do and it wasn't my intention to dump and run

amanda who? I'm afraid you've got the wrong person (feel free to report me though if you don't believe me)

Other examples:

My child is failing at school but I won't do any work with them because school work should be done in school time

My child isn't potty trained, the nursery can't see why I want him in a pull up for the walk home

I've got a splinter, let's get to a&e to have it checked out

Mum has broken her leg, why should I look after her, that's what social services are for

I got stopped by the police for speeding, why aren't they catching real criminals

[yeOldeTrout]

I'd rather live in a society that was quicker to offer sympathy than to condemn. If we have to tilt things one way or the other.

Besides (I said this elsewhere): both can be true. Sympathy is due & responsibility still lies with the obvious person.
Your parents may have fucked you up, but if you're an adult now then it's time to take responsibility for what happens in future.

[LunchpackOfNotreDame]

I agree yeolde there is definitely room for both

[SmellsLikeMiddleAgeSpirit]

I think this is true to an extent, and goes hand in hand with our American inspired, no win, no fee, increasingly litigious culture. Something is always someone else's responsibility/ fault, and they're gonna pay!

This sort of attitude now means effectively there is no such thing as an accident, only fault and negligence; no such think as a forgiveable mistake, only blame. This encourages increasingly less personal responsibility... if we can blame someone else we can. Sometimes make some money out of it.

Sucks, really.

[suzannecaravaggio]

it shouldn't be allowed

[cleaty]

From some of those examples, the people saying them sound as if they are extremely thick.

[Notasinglefuckwasgiven]

As Pp said some change is good. Compensation for someone seriously hurt due to someone cutting corners or something is ok. The grabby culture is wrong though. I see it at work....We get regular attempts at claims because from people too drunk to stand and if they fall or slide off a seat it's our fault. Can't possibly be up to you to get yourself home after a night drinking. It's someone else who must. And if they don't they sue. I believe ambulance service and police get this too. Some things you do bring on yourself and trying to get cash for it is wrong.