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AIBU?

To bloody hate sleep training!

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LittleMissLady · 11/08/2015 19:56

DS is 11 months and I've just had enough of the bedtime struggle so I'm doing this weird combo of gradual retreat mixed with pick up put down method to sleep train him.

I breast fed him, cuddled him and put him in his cot when he was drowsy and seconds away from sleep.
He though that was hilarious and has been bouncing around in there for the last 20 minutes!!
Last night took an hour. 30 odd minutes of playing and brig put down. 30 odd of crying his heart out.

Did this with dd about 18 months ago. Hated it then, hating it now.
I'm aware the sleep issues are entirely my own fault as a wishy washy mummy but I still want to complain about it!!

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LadyFenring · 11/08/2015 21:57

I am pretty sure Disappointed lurks on MN ready to pounce on these threads. All her links saved to her favourites, ready to lob at OP's like rocks.

Really fucking sad.

Thancred · 11/08/2015 21:57

I did when we first started the sleep training and every now and then when he has a regression I have to repeat the process, it usually takes 1 or 2 nights and that's him sorted. On a typical night though he sleeps through and if he does wake up he doesn't scream the place down, he just thumps the projector and goes back to sleep watching the light and listening to the music. He's still in our room so I sometimes hear the thump, most of the time though I don't hear from him until morning.

Writerwannabe83 · 11/08/2015 21:57

I don't expect my DS to sleep through the night, that's not why I sleep trained. I sleep trained because I needed him to be able to self settle.

Following the training my DS was getting an 4-5 hours more sleep in a 24 hour period than he previously was and he was a far, far happier baby for it.

LittleMissLady · 11/08/2015 21:58

Thancred,

Your method sounds very similar to what I did with dd and almost identical to what I'm doing now.
except I don't bath every night as I'm too shattered and pent up about bedtime

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Littleorangecat · 11/08/2015 21:59

My son was a frequent night time waker and if left he would cry until he was sick. I was going mad through lack of sleep and knew something needed to change. In the end I lay on his floor with my hand through the bars of his cot touching him, with me covered up with his blanket until he drifted off and I could sneak out. Sometimes I ended sleeping on his floor for a bit too.
It was hard whilst it was ongoing but worth it in the end.

imwithspud · 11/08/2015 22:00

I am pretty sure Disappointed lurks on MN ready to pounce on these threads. All her links saved to her favourites, ready to lob at OP's like rocks.

Yep, some people are like a dog with a bone when they see the words 'sleep' and 'training' in the same sentence.

DisappointedOne · 11/08/2015 22:00

I am pretty sure Disappointed lurks on MN ready to pounce on these threads. All her links saved to her favourites, ready to lob at OP's like rocks.

Really fucking sad.

Where's the laughing smilie?

Don't believe all you imagine, deary.

ScrumpyBetty · 11/08/2015 22:00

Ha, I said scientific evidence disappointed nobody who is evenly remotely academic would give any credibility to the links you posted, it's a shame you don't have the ability to be discerning about what you read on t'internet.

Thancred · 11/08/2015 22:01

The bath is my five minutes of peace. Throw all three DC in together and I sit on the step-stool with a cuppa while they cheerfully attempt to drown each other :o

DisappointedOne · 11/08/2015 22:01

My son was a frequent night time waker and if left he would cry until he was sick. I was going mad through lack of sleep and knew something needed to change. In the end I lay on his floor with my hand through the bars of his cot touching him, with me covered up with his blanket until he drifted off and I could sneak out. Sometimes I ended sleeping on his floor for a bit too.
It was hard whilst it was ongoing but worth it in the end

Is that considered sleep training?!

DisappointedOne · 11/08/2015 22:03

There are links to studies in there.

But by all means, do dazzle us with hundreds of scientific studies into the non-harmful nature of it. Perhaps you'll find one proving the world is flat and the sun orbits us too.

LadyFenring · 11/08/2015 22:04

Wow...

LittleMissLady · 11/08/2015 22:04

The bath is fine.

It's the dripping wet naked 3 year old running around being chased by the naked not toilet trained 11month old while I attempt to catch, dry and dress them that does me in!!

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Thancred · 11/08/2015 22:05

It's the dripping wet naked 3 year old running around being chased by the nakednot toilet trained11month old while I attempt to catch, dry and dress them that does me in!!

That's my version of going to the gym :o

ThisIsClemFandango · 11/08/2015 22:05

thank you boston that is helpful and thancred I'm going to give that a go aswell. That's basically what I had in my mind of what sleep training is.
Nice that disappointed thinks I'm damaging my child though. Unhelpful, horrible comment. I just think sometimes parents do what they need to do and yes, comparing it to abuse minimises real abuse IMO.

imwithspud · 11/08/2015 22:06

I don't expect my DS to sleep through the night, that's not why I sleep trained. I sleep trained because I needed him to be able to self settle.

Yes, this is why we did it too. It's a common misconception that people sleep train to make their kids sleep through the night.

fourtothedozen · 11/08/2015 22:06

OP you left your baby to cry for 30 minutes?

You are made of sterner stuff than I am.

I wouldn't want to do sleep training. Not my approach.

Thancred · 11/08/2015 22:08

The OP has stated she was sitting next to his cot so no, he wasn't left to cry for 30 minutes as he wasn't left.

LittleMissLady · 11/08/2015 22:14

It took 30 mins for him to clock on that it wasn't a game. Then there were 30 mins of crying. During which time I comforted him EVERY time he cried. Cuddled him each time he stood. Kissed him each time I lay him down and put my hand through the bars which he eventually put his face on and drifted off.

I tried CC once with dd (about 18 months ago) but couldn't hack it. So this is my method. I guess it feels like weaning in a way?

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DisappointedOne · 11/08/2015 23:48

www.lifewithbabykicks.com/2015/08/dear-mummy-im-not-sleeping-because.html

DisappointedOne · 11/08/2015 23:50

Shame they haven't evolved to come with an "off" switch, isn't it?!

hotfuzzra · 12/08/2015 10:58

Thancred Can you recommend a star/light projector thingy? I keep thinking about getting one, but don't know if it would keep her awake while she was watching it, or help soothe her to sleep.
Atm I BF to sleep at bedtime, if she wakes in the night I try shush pat before cuddling to sleep. I'd like to see if this works!

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LittleMissLady · 12/08/2015 11:00

DissappointedOne - Shame YOU haven't evolved with an off switch

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ThisIsClemFandango · 12/08/2015 11:07

Disappointed - that links a good piece of scientific evidence. Did the baby write it?
I've been trying to get mine to write but he's rubbish at it. Probably because I neglect him.

Thancred · 12/08/2015 14:08

I've got the vtech lullaby one, it's got a bear on the front sitting on a half moon. I liked that one because you can set it so you only get the light or the music or both and it has different sound settings.

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