to think this shouldn't be an issue?

[bumblebeebboi]

DH and I are expecting our first in March. I'm only 8 weeks at the moment so very early days but we told MIL as I have told my mum so seemed like it was fair.

She was very happy but also worried as DH's DB and SIL had their first last March, and her birthday is a few days away from our baby's EDD. She thinks they will be upset and we should have timed it better.

AIBU to think this is bizarre??

[CrohnicallyAspie]

Besides, even if you are due around the birthday time, doesn't mean your baby will be born around then. I had the opposite problem- my DD's and DN's birthdays were supposed to be a few weeks apart, but they're actually on consecutive days. We just have joint parties and get the whole family together!

[CrohnicallyAspie]

fireside hard to top that as a birthday present... A different DN of mine was born on my uncle's bday, my aunt just handed the baby over and said 'happy birthday, sorry it's not wrapped!'

[Jaxinthebox]

Congratulations OP, and Im sorry re your MC. If your SIL is anything but congratulatory then tell her to poke it!

The bright colours thing made me snort my coffee!

[firesidechat]

Not a great way to spend your birthday, but the end result was rather nice. It was also the midwife's birthday and makes a great story. I think we are both agreed that it's a bit special to share our birthday like that and at least we can never forget each others.

[kissmethere]

It's a bit bizarre yes. My family share some birthdays. It does cause a bit of a palava re celebrations but nothing major. this is out of her control.

[LilyMayViolet]

Of course Yanbu! Crikey, what a ridiculous response to your lovely news. Many congratulations to you both

[bumblebeebboi]

I guess they think it will overshadow DN's first birthday.

I have no idea if they actually will be upset about this, as a PP said I think, but come to think of it SIL was a bit upset that her own DB's wife was expecting a baby around the same time she was due with DN...

[Sighing]

Massively weird reaction! In my family we're generally pleased at overlapping birthdays. It really makes our get togethers very efficient and it shares the load of hosting the family round.

[StephenKatz]

ARF! at 'sorry it's not wrapped'

OP Congratulations on your pregnancy. You should now request your induction on the special day!

My DM was most concerned our DD2 would arrive on her due date of DM's birthday, she was really put out! How bizarre! I knew all along of course she needn't have worried, I had previous form for going massively over!

My Neice turns 3 on Saturday, which happens to be my and DH's wedding anniversary, I really should've had words with DB and SIL

[emwithme]

90% of my family (or so it seems, becoming more diluted as time goes on) are born between the end of January and the beginning bit of March, which ties in with the "quiet time" for Dad's side's family business.

My nephew was born on my birthday. It's fabulous. It's one date fewer to remember when it is! I was born 11 years and 7 hours (but the day after) one of my brothers. It's just the way it happened.

Your SIL is BVU. Babies come when they're baked, end of.

[Reubs15]

Firstly congratulations!
Secondly, if she gets funny about it ignore her, she sounds like a ridiculous person anyway with the bright colours thing! My sister's birthday is 10 days after mine and I can assure you it never caused any damage to me!
Good luck with your pregnancy ????xx

[Reubs15]

They were supposed to be smiley faces not question marks! Xx

[gabsdot45]

I have 3 neices and nephews who were due around my birthday and I was disappointed that none of them arrived on my birthday. I would have loved to share the date.
5 of my parents grandchildren have birthdays in August. No one ever gave it a thought.

[Tryharder]

Lol at the bright colours thing and the possibility that the SIL might be 'a bit' precious.

I'd start crossing your legs OP

[Rosieliveson]

How bonkers! I hope you told her that was bonkers!

I have a cousin who shares my birthday, a cousin who has her birthday two days later and a niece who has her birthday a week before mine. My DC2 is due just a few days before my birthday this year too. As if it matters!

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Just try to smile and nod at the craziness!

[WineIsTheAnswer]

I would go in hard, don't support the bring coloured weirdness, fight weird with weird.

"Oh is it her birthday too. Could she delay it a month or so until I have had my calm hypno-water-birthed DC. We are planning a forth trimester where everyone needs to be available 24/7 to help nurture mother and babies bond in a quiet and calm, supported environment and a 1st birthday just wouldn't work"

[DirtyMugPolice]

Congratulations OP. Your SIL is looney tunes. Wouldn't it be lovely if we all had perfect fertility and could get pregnant whenever we liked!

[bumblebeebboi]

UPDATE: we told SIL and BIL last night, mainly because what MIL had really freaked me out and I wanted to know if it was actually going to be an issue.

They did say congratulations, but SIL also said 'oh what a shame it will clash with DS's first birthday'

So turns out MIL's fears were not unfounded!

[calamityjam]

You are not the only one with family like this OP. My sister was 6 months pregnant with dnephew when i found out i was pregnant with DD. She was irate that i had dared to get pregnant at all whilst she was expecting. Apparently i only conceived to steal her thunder

[contractor6]

Oh dear, op, you really shouldve kept legs crossed that month, only kidding, if she's that pfb then ignore.
Ps bright clothes is that a problem, I've bought all brightly coloured bouncer/rockers/blankets etc because I thought baby's cant see well initially and need colours. Am I going to have the grumpiest baby ever?!?!?!
Pps huge congratulations on your pregnancy

[NoisyOyster]

What a shame?!!

Oh op, you're going to bring us 9 months of mn-greatness



Congratulations on your little one to be!

[Poledra]

Well, my brother shares my birthday, same day, same year everything! I really do think my mother could have been more considerate and not had twins

Congratulations, OP!

[bumblebeebboi]

noisy I hold my hands up - I didn't realise she was this precious!!

I am the most laid back person in existence so I try to refrain from calling people precious in general as it always seems that what I consider precious is just what other people consider normal (particularly when it comes to babies and animals) - but seems I am right in this situation. Who knew!

My DH is quite livid though. I told him to just laugh at her and get over it :)

[contractor6]

If it is the same sex call it the same name, dress them the same etc. #hormones are making me evil

[ButterDish]

How mad. I've only ever, in a not unduly sheltered life, come across this kind of date preciousness on Mn, where there are endless stories of family members frothing with rage because someone chose to get married on their birthday/wedding anniversary, or timed a baby 'wrongly' to detract attention from the bride. But suggesting that a baby being born within a week or two of its cousin's first birthday is the oddest yet! What are they planning, a white tie ball with Elton playing a set, and guests flying in from Tokyo and LA?