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AIBU?

Absolutely devesated

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Beth2511 · 22/07/2015 22:02

Parents dog bit my 8 month old on the head, 2 bites marks on head and one on hand. Luckily there was only 1 puncture wound and no lasting damage but was so close to her eye! Took her to A&E who obviously need to inform social services.

I have felt a while my parents can't put my babies safety above the dog which was highlighted when all my parents were concerned about was whether the dog would be put down. Apparently I only took her to hospital to force them to get rid of the dog. For what its worth, I don't want the dog put down, I just want her caged when baby is around.

Is she likely to be put down? Am I in for a rough time from social services? I wasn't even there at the time.

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Stitchintime1 · 22/07/2015 22:31

Why would you even let a baby touch a dog's bone? Never mind the danger. A thing that had been in a dog's mouth. What stupid people your parents are.

Beth2511 · 22/07/2015 22:34

I agree its not the dogs fault, its my parents. Part of me absolutely hates them for it but they are my parents.

I've not posted about my parents before but I have posted about my awful MIL. I feel like if I react how I want to react then I'm going to be so on my own and I'm scared to do it.

I feel sick just thinking about how nasty it could have been. THe one bite is about .5 cm above her eye.

My parents neighbour just messaged to say she heard the commotion and did I know that the dog her had her dog pinned down with her teeth in its neck just days ago. Feel even sicker knowing this.

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LilyMayViolet · 22/07/2015 22:34

I agree with Vivienne. I feel very sad for you and your dd, what a horrible thing to happen. I can't believe how your parents have reacted either, literally adding insult to injury.

littlejohnnydory · 22/07/2015 22:34

You all seem more concerned about the other adults than the baby. If my baby had been bitten by a dog, that dog would never be in the same place as my children again and there is no way I would leave her in the care of people who are putting the dog before her safety.

If one of my children were hurt in my mum's care she would be as devastated as I was. She most definitely wouldn't be wanting to withold medical care because she was worried about the dog. Why would you ever consider leaving your child with them again when they care so little about her safety?

Beth2511 · 22/07/2015 22:34

They;ve not apologised once

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FarFromAnyRoad · 22/07/2015 22:35

Completely agree with manina. So sorry this has happened OP but the fault really is 100% with your parents

Quasicrystals1456 · 22/07/2015 22:35

As a dog owner with young children this absolutely chills me.

I have no idea why people think it's a character slur to put their dogs away when children are around. Totally irresponsible. 'Oh he won't hurt a fly' yeah until he does. Because he's an ANIMAL!

ShotgunNotDoingThePans · 22/07/2015 22:36

That's true, they obviously eitherweren't watching her properly or have the sort ofdisgusting attitude that sees no harm in a human being (let alone a baby) having contact with a dog's saliva. Assuming it was a toy bone - if not, that's even more alarming.

littlejohnnydory · 22/07/2015 22:37

Read the full thread now. Your parents are absolutely responsible for this and you would not be responsible to leave dd with them again. I can understand you being scared of losing them and going it alone but you absolutely have to protect your dd.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans · 22/07/2015 22:37

Was agreeing with Stitchintime.

RiverTam · 22/07/2015 22:38

My cousin was bitten by the family dog as a baby. No idea of the circumstances but the dog was put down immediately. Dreadful that they are putting the dog ahead of young baby. Hope SS give them extremely short shift.

iniquity · 22/07/2015 22:38

It is so sad when people value a dog over their own flesh and blood.
My parents also have a dog like that who has bit several people. I do not want my newborn to meet the dog at all.
I wax hoping for help with childcare too but it's not worth the risk.

areyoubeingserviced · 22/07/2015 22:40

I would want the dog put down because of the risk to other children.
How would your parents feel if their dog killed a child?

BearFoxBear · 22/07/2015 22:41

Knowing about the neighbours dog makes it even worse. Your parents have been entirely negligent and deserve to be told so.

bluejeanswhiteshirt · 22/07/2015 22:42

I wouldn't give a toss whether they decided to forgive me or not! I wouldn't be able to even visit if the dog was caged because my blood would boil at the thought of what it did. Their attitude is disgusting OP.

So sorry this happened to your DD.

AdoraBell · 22/07/2015 22:44

Speaking as a dog owner YANBU. Baby's safety comes first, always.

Whether or not the dog is put down is not your decisión or responsibilty.

I agree that the dog was behaving the way dogs do when someone tríes To take their toy/food but that just highlights the fact that the dog and it's toy should not have been where a small child could reach it.

Hope your poor DD is okay and in your position I wouldn't be allowing these people access To her. Is your DP on board? Will he back you up if they try To guilt tríp you?

Hexadecimal1 · 22/07/2015 22:45

What breed of dog is it OP?

Lurkedforever1 · 22/07/2015 22:45

Fuck me your parents are fucking dangerous idiots. Dd (and I and many friends and dc) grew up with dogs and only an absolute moron leaves one unattended with a baby or young toddler, at that age the golden rule should always be never near the dogs face and always so the dog would need to go through the adults hand to do more than catch the baby/toddler even if it's ears got yanked.
The dog doesn't need putting down, it's not responsible for your parents having the wit of a goldfish, nor should it die because it had that misfortune.
Your poor dd. ss will probably just check she's not going to be near it again and that its not down to your low safety standards, which of course it's not.
Whether your parents keep her away from the dog or not, I'm sorry but I wouldn't ever trust their ability to make safety judgements about her again.

reni1 · 22/07/2015 22:47

Even if the dog is not put down, your parents have clearly shown they should not have a dog, since they endangered a child's life with their recklessness. The dog needs to be re-homed to more responsible owners.

IAmNotAMindReader · 22/07/2015 22:48

The incident with your daughter and the neighbours dog only serve to highlight that your parents have absolutely no control over their dog.
This is a tragedy waiting to happen, mainly for your parents dog.

Unless they see sense and get some training for them and the dog along with a behaviourist to work out why the dog is like it is, its going to end with them being forced to put the animal down.

AvaCrowder · 22/07/2015 22:51

I'm in agreement with the pp. If your parents cared about the dog or the baby they would have supervised properly and avoided this attack.

And so avoided their granddaughter going to hospital and the chance of their dog being pts.

It's what normal dog owners do all the time, prevent harm coming from their pet.

I'm so sorry for your poor dd, lucky it didn't get her eye, I hope that she recovers well.

I'd be looking into alternative childcare tbh.

MartaTolpuddle · 22/07/2015 22:55

Keep your DD away from your parents until they recognise the problem & deal with it. My PILs dog snapped at my DD a couple of years ago (didn't bite but growled & snapped) & I was told off for being precious when i said I was worried. Since then, there have been other incidents. MIL in particular seems unable to spot dangerous situations or take action to prevent them. She was walking down stairs with DD & didn't hold her hand properly, DD fell all the way down. Thankfully just bruises & a bang on the head but it's my fault somehow, again. MIL also gives inappropriate items to play with, such as sharp items (pin badges to a toddler) and toys that are clearly too old for her/broken etc.

It's a general lack of thought that's worrying & it's not just about a dog.

HSMMaCM · 22/07/2015 22:59

It's your parents fault. Social services will want you to demonstrate how you will keep your child safe in future and your answer will be that your child will never be in the same house as that dog again.

SeraOfeliaFalfurrias · 22/07/2015 23:00

The dog's behaviour is understandable, but should have been prevented by your parents. They should certainly be apologising and falling over themselves to tell you the measures they will put in place to make sure it never happens again.

However, they are not. Because they still think their dog is harmless and this was just a one-off. But it won't be, because they have completely anthropomorphised the dog and think of it as another child, not a dog, and they cannot be trusted to properly supervise it.

Your child is not safe in that house unless you are there. If you continue to use your parents as childcare you will be putting your child in danger. Even if they promise to cage the dog, I would be willing to bet much money that they would let it out as soon as your car left the driveway.

Protect your child and make alternative childcare arrangements.

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