In telling my Sister she needs to confiscate this

[RachelRagged]

Hi

My Sister has 3 DCs, DS1, 13, DS2, 10 and a DD who is 9.

Whilst sorting out uniforms for washing yesterday i the blazer of DS1 she found a small pocket knife ! The blade comes out (little ridge to get that out) She has no idea where or how he got it as she has never seen it before i her life.

Now she is dithering about whether to call him out on it, leave it or take it out of blazer which she has to be honest and see if he reacts at all come morning when he will leave for school . The boy is somewhat erratic at times and I am actually afraid he may use it . I don't want to nag at her, our Mother does a good enough job of that one (posted a thread on that subject alone) but I also do not want to see anybody injured or my DN arrested etc.

Please help .

[RachelRagged]

To the many who gave positive and constructive help , Thank You.

Signing off from thread now . The sarky ones. I suggest you read opening posts properly and don't throw in words never said .

[msgrinch]

There's no need to be rude and aggressive op. People were only stating their opinion. Also it's horrible when the whole family descend on an issue. It happened to me and I hate my uncle for his involvement now.

[RachelRagged]

I am reacting to some sarky and rather horrible posts msgrinch.

I scrolled and forget who asked but the area my DS lives is a town, a seaside town. It has its troubles Yes but no more so than any town anywhere on the coast.

[Todayisnottheday]

No you are over reacting to some people having an opinion differing to your own. I didn't say your whole family I said my whole family. As for "sarky mare" dfod. If you only want people to agree with your every word pop that in your opening post, saves people wasting their time responding.

[Atenco]

Gosh, OP, I have just read this thread from the beginning and being someone who has always loved penknives I could not honestly understand the, to my mind OTT reactions of people on this thread. Unfortunately as they all agreed with you, you found them helpful. All the people I agreed with you have been really rude to.

The idea that your nephew would attack a member of his family with the penknife for example???

[HereIAm20]

Knives are a definite no no in schools. One boy at our school had a police caution for carrying one and was excluded for 2 weeks (craft knife)

[Atenco]

It might be helpful to explain your DN that carrying a knife is no real protection and would probably just put him in more danger if his opponent manages to take it off him

[SmillasSenseOfSnow]

He came home and he told Me, not his Mother, ME . The Calvary !
Christ. While it is good for a child to have trusted adults outside their parents, it sounds an awful lot like a competition. You're like the helicopter parent that isn't even the child's parent. Do you not worry that you're undermining your sister's relationship with her son? Why shouldn't you all be trying to help her son open up to his own mother instead?

[msgrinch]

I don't understand how you're his "ONLY aunt " when you then say there's also another sister and 3 brothers.

[Teabagbeforemilk]

atenco the boy in question is 'somewhat erratic' and a knife was found in his school jacket. Youths carrying knives areorw likely to be stabbed themseleves. Certain areas of the country had real knife crime problems. In the last year at least 2 teachers were stabbed in schools and one died. My dd was attacked with a pair of sisscors that a bit brought to school.

Worrying about what he may do with the knife isn't over reacting, it's looking at the situation for the potential danger it could be.

[Lolimax]

Op his reaction (as a mum and a line manager of youth workers) worries me. I mentioned bullying in my first post. I think you are right to support your sister. Follow your instincts on this one. If you feel something isn't right it probably isn't. Don't push him into a corner (I don't think you will) but support and be open. Good luck :)

[RachelRagged]

I am his only natural Aunt . Didn't think I would need to explain it as I see my sisters as that, both of them.
Other DS and DBs are adopted , 1 DB being my blood cousin.

Have you anything constructive to say at all apart from question me like your two previous posts ?

He is going to speak to the Head tomorrow along with my DS. DS as I said earlier has spoken to the bullies parents, they are pretty upset at their sons. All turned out for the best there and Yes, a large part of the concern was knowing teachers had been stabbed in the UK in the past year alone.

[GemmeFatale]

None blood relatives are still relations. Adoption doesn't stop that

How did mum ring son if he left without his phone?

Extras are actors. They can earn rather well in some circumstances

The whole family sounds like it would be better off without your dramatic interventions and judgement if I'm honest.

[WayneRooneysHair]

Sorry OP but your explanation about you being DN's only aunt doesn't make sense.

[DoJo]

I'm really confused - was there a lot of detail in the OP's deleted post as the latest update seems to bear no relation to the previous situation? Was the boy being bullied? Is he back with his family now?

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

Ds has had a own knife since he was 8 or 9. He knows the rules and so far hadn't broken them. If he did I'd want to know why he'd taken the knife out of the house, there would be severe consequences.
I'd think it was pretty odd if members of the family turned up too.

I really hope you don't make comments about being his only 'natural aunt' out loud.