To still not know whether or not to go for interview?

[elderflowerlemonade]

I have an interview for a teaching position.

If I were to be offered the post, my salary would effectively be wiped out by childcare costs. I would have two very young children (both under 2) in full time childcare. There would be few if any financial benefits as a result.

But there are all the usual arguments for going back to work - I am a crap SAHM; I am bored; my pension and so on.

But DH keeps saying why don't i just leave it another year so DD has some free hours and I will in his words make a profit and I am reluctantly seeing what he means.

WIBU to pull out? It does seem a bit stupid ...

[JassyRadlett]

Congratulations! Brilliant and well done. Have a good sleep and think about it tomorrow.

[YUDOTHIS]

Yay for you OP

You should definitely take the offer if you haven't already! Have yourself a nice relaxing or when the kids have gone to bed! Good luck

[hellsbellsmelons]

Well done
As per your previous post - I went back and put my child into FT nursery when she was 3 months.
I did it because I'd have gone insane otherwise.
I was NOT happy being a SAHM.
Happier me, happier baby!
But... I only had 1 child. And I did still make a tidy profit at the end of the month.

[ilovesooty]

That's brilliant. Well done.

[whois]

Fantastic OP, well done. Proud of you :-)

[pointythings]

Well done! Take it, take it, take it. Then make sure your DH knows he has to step up - do his share of the housework, pay his share of the childcare. Simple as that.

[twentyten]

Do you want the job?

[VixxFace]

Stay at home. You will be going to look after other people's children whilst yours are in childcare.

I couldn't do. They are only tiny for a short period of time.

[elderflowerlemonade]

I don't know; I feel SICK with tiredness.

[hettie]

I know this wasn't the original question OP, but why if Gods name doesn't you other half so half the housework?
Get yourself over to the feminism boards and woman up

[Candra]

Take the job, get a cleaner, your DC will be happy because you will happy working. It's a win win. Plus you can always cut some hours perhaps once you've settled into the job.

Childcare isn't forever so even if all your wages go on it for now it really doesn't matter in the long run once they eventually start school.

[elderflowerlemonade]

It's just a habit; even when I worked full time he worked longer hours, then I went to part time then to being a SAHM. In the interests of fairness, he's actually always done a lot just not IN the house?

[fastdaytears]

That's brilliant! Well done! I wouldn't try to decide tonight- just get some sleep and see how you feel when you've got a bit more energy.

But meanwhile congratulations!

[dragonfly007]

Congratulations on the offer

However I wouldn't accept, if the stress of an interview wipes you out how will you juggle ful time work and the demands of 2 small children? What will happen when the children are ill? Can you get a job share or do some supply instead?

[Purplepoodle]

Could u ask for job share if u can't face ft. Perfect time as they have been interviewing?

[froggyjump]

congratulations!

(I was cheering you on on your other thread about the application)

take tonight to think about it, and say yes in the morning

the childcare costs are only for a short time, your littlest one will just accept it as the norm, and you will be building your family's future x

[fastdaytears]

If you're not enjoying being at home then you shouldn't feel guilty for a second about putting the DC into childcare. You will be gaining because of the long term career benefits, but more importantly you'll (hopefully) be happier.

And you won't be pregnant (probably...) so difficult to compare how you'll feel when you started to how you feel now. Oh and it won't be 35 degrees in January!

[KoalaDownUnder]

Okay, I'll say it (and get utterly flamed).

I wouldn't put a 5-month-old in childcare for no financial gain, even without taking the other two children into account. I think it is madness.

[SkodaLabia]

I would take it. If you're not loving being a SAHM then it's short sighted to ignore a step forward in your career being offered to you.

Whether you work isn't going to impact on your DH in the slightest as it seems he lives in a bubble, however it will impact you hugely.

I second the poster who said investigate childminders - much more flexible than nurseries, cheaper, and, IMO, much more 'home from home' when it comes to tiny ones.

Don't let DH guilt trip you.

[DinosaursRoar]

I hate the "childcare is half your DHs cost too" as it presumes separate finances, when a couple share the income, as in this case, the family "pot" only increases by £100 - whoever pays the bill.

I'm not sure I could put a 5 month old in full time childcare for no financial gain (once you factor in petrol/commuting costs).

[tobysmum77]

I agree with that dinosaurs it's utter bollocks if as a household going to work makes your family worse off. Where working is cost neutral and upwards however, I think it is a way of looking at it at least.

Good luck op in making the right decision.

[DorisLessingsCat]

Congratulations Elderflower, best of luck to you.

[Springcleanish]

I put both of mine with childminders from 4/5 months, I had no choice financially, but equally being at home drove me mad, I hated being a SAHM, even for that short time. The kids haven't suffered, the childminders loved them, treated them as one of the family and became really good friends. They went to nursery at two and loved it there, and settling into school was a breeze for them, they couldn't understand why they had a term of half day nonsense. Now they are older the kids are nostalgic about their time with child minders and nursery, they love it. We all also really appreciate the school holidays as that gives us large chunks of quality time.
You would be worn out from a teaching interview they are exhausting, task after task, but work, once a routine is established is easier. Once you sign up to childcare vouchers, that will make a massive difference to childcare costs too. Think what will be best for you.