who is BU ? me or boyfriend?

[maxxytoe]

So last night I fell asleep on the couch at about 9:00. My boyfriend told me to go to bed he was going to play FIFA for a bit but then he'd be in.
About midnight he comes in turns the big light on , starts asking me fuck loads of questions ; 'where's my charger' , 'orange is the new black was good wasn't it ' , 'should we go and watch Jurassic world ' , 'what you doing tomorrow'
He then turns on the tv REALLY loud and puts Russell Howard on and starts laughing his tits off!
He does it all the time !
Last weekend my son went to his dad's house at about 11.30 so I decided to go for a nap. Just dropped off when he decides to come in and announce we are going to do the cleaning and tidying !
WHY
He'd been up all morning and decides to do it now when I need a rest
Obviously I refused and lay there in bed. Next thing I know he's telling his daughter to play on her screechy hello fucking kitty keyboard (which is conveniently right outside our bedroom) and he's flying round the apartment with the bloody hoover! He had ALL morning to do this.
Everytime I go for a sleep he wakes me up or prevents me from resting
I have a 1 year old son who's up at 6 and had a terrible birth which has led to numerous blood transfusions and a suspected iron deficiency (I'm having blood tests tomorrow)
i think he's being unreasonable and he thinks I'm being boring !
(I may or may not have let my son bang on the radiators this morning to wake him up so he knows how it feels )

[Strawberryshakes]

Not uptight just don't really appreciate being called controlling because I thinks it's a wee bit lazy to lay in bed all day. I will have a nap, at night time, when it's acceptable

[DownWithThisTypeOfThing]

But as I read it, OP thinks there IS a health reason for needing do much sleep and this is being investigated.

So her DP is not only generally being an inconsiderate arse, he's actually exceeding that by not really giving a fuck about his partner' s health.

9 months into a relationship when it should be all hearts and flowers - seems a real catch!

[Strawberryshakes]

Oh I'm not including the OP in my comments about sleeping, health reasons are perfectly understandable

[Szeli]

Take the tv out of your room for a start. he is bvu though

[lottiegarbanzo]

If he cared about you and your future as a couple he'd be supporting you through your testing and treatment as the way to address your sleeping so much. Not sabotaging your efforts to make yourself feel well by waking you up - so making you tireder and less functional, for more of the time!

He'd also think about making best use of the time when you are awake and alert. So, if you both need to do some cleaning, suggest you do it after breakfast together, or at whatever time you're comfortably awake and able to give time to the task. Then that will be done and you can plan to do something nice later in the day.

He just sounds really immature.

[Gabilan]

"A healthy adult who has no medical conditions and gets a good amount of night sleep, being in bed during the day would drive me up the wall, and I wouldn't be compatible with that person"

Having two sleeps per night instead of one is fairly natural and used to be much more socially acceptable. Then there's the Mediterranean sleep pattern of going to bed late, getting up early and having a siesta which is the pattern I like at this time of year. It might seem lazy to you Strawberry but it is natural (though if you just don't like it, that's your call, obviously).

[wannaBe]

there's a difference between wanting a nap during the day and expecting the rest of the household to be quiet to accommodate said nap.

If a woman posted here that her h was sleeping during the day and even expected the kids to be quiet she would be told to A, get him to the gp, and b, that he was still being a selfish arse to expect everyone to be quiet so he could sleep during the day.

I agree the nighttime turning on of lights/television etc is unreasonable, however I wonder whether a lot of that is born out of frustration that the bf is expected to tiptoe around the op 24/7.

[Strawberryshakes]

Interesting read, thanks. It's just a bugbear of mine, though I will admit an irrational one. It would feel wrong for me personally to go sleep during the day. I mean I know tiredness, I had broken sleep for 2 and a half years every night, but I just couldn't bring myself nap during the day. Though I've always been this way, I couldn't stay in bed past 9am either though (I'm weird!)

Obviously plenty of people do and that's fine, different strokes for different folks as they say

[CarrotVan]

maxxy get checked for vitamin D and B12 too. I was horribly exhausted after pregnancy and a year of breast feeding but thought it was because I went back to work when my ds was 8 months but turns out I was massively deficient in vitamin D and B12. Took high dose supplements for 3 months and now fine again

[SideOrderofChips]

Is he on drugs? He sounds very manic

[CatMilkMan]

He was completely out of order to wake you up at midnight BUT you sleep 10 hours a night and nap during the day while only going to uni twice a week and he does all the cooking and cleaning?
If I was him and you had a go at me for hoovering in the afternoon when I could have done it in the morning you would probably never hear from me again.