fag butt in my loo?

[mrsruffallo]

Dinner party last night, lots of good friends and one friend with a husband I don't know very well. He smokes, I said fine, you can smoke in the back garden. He went a few times made jokes about how cold it was '...minus one degree now!!' etc etc. There is a small extra toilet, in a tiny bathroom, next to my back door. I went in this morning and the window was open and a fag butt was floating in the bowl! I felt sick. AIBU to ask him about it?

[whitesandstorm]

It's not worth mentioning, years ago something like this wouldn't have been a big deal. It's not nice and he shouldn't have done it but he probably did it without thinking. Smokers deserve pity (it's not their fault cigarettes are made so addictive) not condemnation. The governments hypocritical hate campaign against smokers has definitely worked.

[BikketBikketBikket]

I'd be more angry about him leaving the window open (so that my home wasn't secure and all my heat was pouring out...)
I'd lead with that - and then move on to WHY the window was open - in front of witnesses if you are likely to see him again soon, or via his wife if you see her first.

[raffle]

Oh I would be really cross that he had smoked inside my home. I'm a smoker, but never ever smoke inside. Rude self centred man. I would tell my friend.

[peggyundercrackers]

you feel sick because someone left the butt of a fag in your toilet? flush and move on... its no big deal and certainly not something worth feeling sick over.

[daisychain01]

Nehlewelly we xposted

[daisychain01]

I'm a non-smoker and would be far more wound-up by people stubbing out their ciggies and leaving the butts in the plant pots on the patio than a single filter floating in the loo. That's a lot more disrespectful in my view!

I'd have set up an area outside with a bucket of sand so people could stub out and leave the butts in the sand, then get rid the next day.

[BelleateSebastian]

Really? Tinker I'm genuinely not being facetious but i can't get my head around someone feeling sick at the sight of an innocuous little fag end bobbing around in the bog! I hate smoking and there is nothing worse than the smell of fags, but I would find it hard to get het up at a fag end, especially with no offending accompanying smell!

In fact I would much rather have 20 fag ends than someone leaving evidence (olfactory or visual) that they had shat in there!

[Tinkerball]

Belle yes I would feel sick if I saw this in my loo, turns my stomach just thinking about it, completely disgusting.

[Jenda]

I'm a smoker and would be really pissed off at this too! It is my choice to smoke therefore I must suffer the outside temperatures! I don't smoke inside my own home. I would send him a photo of the loo and with the "manky bastard" words someone said above!

[Tattiebogle]

A Turd is a natural function and sometimes they just dont go away. You think they have but then you turn your back and they re-appear. Its just one of this things and as yucky as it is - its life.

A fag end is something different entirely and its not as if the OP said to the bloke - do not do a jobbie in my lavvie and he did regardless.

[Wantsunshine]

Just throw a few sheets of loo paper on top and flush the loo again. It will be gone and so will your sickness feeling

[Carolinecotton01]

Hahahahahahahahaah that was funny

[Carolinecotton01]

Flush it away and get on with your day.

[catsofa]

Smokers just don't realise how much their smoke stinks and how nasty it is for non-smokers. They can't smell it themselves and addiction makes them minimise it. I'd go with "humiliate him in front of an audience".

I gave up a year ago and am now pregnant, people keep thinking they can smoke in another room with the window open, it fucking stinks and means I can't use the kitchen in my own house because the smell makes me want to vomit. But they assume this is fine and IABU when I tell them not to.

[mrsruffallo]

Sorry, thought the fag butt was obvious enough although gross either way! Fag butt left in loo annoys me more than him smoking in there!

[BelleateSebastian]

Do you really feel sick at a fag end in your toilet? .... Thank fuck he didn't leave a floating turd eh!

[Nelehwelly]

Ash on the window ledge - that's a fairly salient detail, you should have lead with that as obviously that is proof that he smoked in there, whereas a fag butt alone isn't.

So yeah, on the basis of newly disclosed 'evidence' he's a disrespectful twat.

[mrsruffallo]

Back door upstairs from dining room.

[ArgentinianMalbec]

Ugh how disrespectful and rude to smoke in your house when you specifically told him to smoke outside. I wouldn't say anything, I just wouldn't ever invite them again. If they ask, tell them why.

[Tattiebogle]

Dont invite them back and not because it was a fag, just because he disregarded a request from you whilst in your home. It could have been anything. And when your friend asks why they've not been invited for ages - tell her its because of your husband.

[Dunkling]

I'd have been really annoyed. Thing is, we all know those grotty black marks down pub and public toilets from butt ends going down the loos. I'd be furious is someone did that to mine.

[mrsruffallo]

The issue is that it's my house I have cleaned, cooked for him, provided alcohol and tried to engage him in some interesting conversation (bloody hard) and he throws a fag down my loo!

It was obvious he had smoked in there-there was ash on the window ledge.

[specialsubject]

dirty sod. dog-ends are not flushable. All that goes in a toilet are body wastes and toilet paper.

fag butts go in the bin after being held in the hand to ensure they are out. End of. Quite surprised you couldn't smell the smoke if he had been smoking in the toilet, though.

It is his choice to be a slave to his addiction. Cold outside? Tough.

[Viviennemary]

Yuck. Don't invite them ever again.

[CheeseBuster]

I wouldn't have him back in my house. He has disrespected your home, your wishes and basically ignored you.