to ask my husband not to touch me when he's angry?

[Thatsnotmyfigure]

I'm not in an abusive relationship let me be clear/. But we do bicker a lot, and at the moment stress levels are high with me looking after 2 yo and 3 month old baby, no sleep for months, and I am on verge of mild PND.
Today we were out for the day and I was b/feeding. 2 yo had a tantrum which DH found it hard to deal with. Everyone was frustrated including me as I felt stuck and helpless to do anything as I was feeding. Eventually 2 yo bumped his head a bit, DH very frustrated so took a swipe at my shoulder at which point I completely lost it and stood up and screamed at him not to hit me. It didn't hurt a lot or leave a mark but I felt he hit me. He says he tapped me. 2 weeks ago in a similar situation he 'tapped' me on the leg with a big umbrella and a week before in an argument he grabbed my wrist even when I screamed at him to let go of me. I have raised this in discussion with him and he always says I drive him to it etc, but I say he has to have more self control, as to me it feels as if he's hit me even though it's a tap to him. I have told him if it happens repeatedly I will not put up with it. I know I am not easy to live with at the moment but still. we are a normal middle-class professional couple and we can both try harder, but to me this is a No-No. What do you think?

[winkywinkybumbum]

My current partner had/has a temper and things came to a head this year when it went from emotional abusive to physical. I let him hit me 3 times before I came to my senses and made a stand. We had a really difficult 9 months but he went to weekly counselling and is now a very different man to who he was. The next step for us is couples' (?) counselling as I now need to process what I've been through.

Some people say a leopard never changes its spots. I'm still very wary, as you can imagine, but so far so good.

[Wineorcider]

My ex started like that.

'I only tapped you.
It was your fault I only tapped you'.

A push here, a shove there....

I have a dent on the side of my face. A permanent reminder of where he punched me about a year after the pushes, shoves 'only tapped'...

Get out. Now.