My neighbour has a smoke alarm in her garage which is chirping every 30 sec and has been for a few weeks. I have rarely seen her (been here 2 yrs) but she seemed nice. I mentioned the chirping recently and she just started shouting, telling me to mind my own business, how could I hear it? etc and to report it to the Dept of Environment. I apologised but explained it was very annoying and could she please change the battery or I could get DH to do it but she drove off.
I asked the D of Env about it (not to report it as I don’t want to antagonize her but to see if it was a nuisance noise) but they said it may be hard to prove as a nuisance if it’s not loud.
This has really started to upset me. I am a SAHM and can hear it from the garden and have been avoiding going out with DS. It occupies my thoughts and I have been losing sleep. I get nervous now when I see her or her car at the house. Yes, I’m scared of her and can think of nothing worse than being scared of seeing her long term. I couldn’t cope with a long dispute.
So do I; a) Write her a letter and if so, what do I say? Do I put myself at her mercy telling her how much it’s upsetting me? I don’t want to give her power in case she gets satisfaction from it. Do I mention some of the health problems we have had and how this is not helping. (I hate this idea in case it tempts fate but she may only read one letter).
Or b) Ask the D of Env to write to her and risk making her angry at me.
I haven’t told my DH because I don’t want him to pick up on the noise and get irritated by it but also because I have found fault with our homes before and realised this is unfair on him and I can be over sensitive to things. Instead I am withdrawing from him being a little snappy.
Please tell me the best way to resolve issues with a big scary neighbour. I don’t want her to think she can bully me either.
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My neighbour is upsetting me unnecessarily. Any advice on how to change her mind would be much appreciated.
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NorwegianBirdhouse · 21/08/2014 11:49
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