To think this is wrong? Baby milk related

[Milknamechange]

Name changed as I don't want to out myself! When my baby was in SCBU I made friends with another mum. Not so long ago she told me that she was getting more formula via prescription than she needed to put cartons by for when she would not receive a prescription any more to avoid paying for the milk.

A notification on facebook popped up saying this mum had posted something on the local baby buy and sell site and she is selling one of these cartons of milk! From what I can see it's only one carton but I haven't looked on other sites. I can't help but think this isn't right, she is receiving free milk for her baby and should not be sold on! AIBU to think this is dishonest and a waste of resources.

[ChangeIsNear]

I got pepti milk and DS didn't like it. So ended up chucking 6 boxes in the bin as no one I knew wanted them. It is cheeky to but if it was nutramigen it might help someone who can't get a prescription from GP to try out.

[MissDuke]

My dd was on prescription milk, one that cannot be bought. We got six tubs at a time but we had to fill out a slip to get the prescription repeated when we needed it - there was no limit on how often we could order it. Sometimes I ordered it earlier than needed, when I was in the doctors for something else anyway, it was never queried. Dd was very sicky, even when on this milk she had periods of it, so we did go through a lot. However I was careful not to stockpile it in case we had to change to another, and would never dream of selling it.

[SistersOfPercy]

Nicola, have you actually read my posts? Specifically the bit where I state that er, it would have, like, huge consequences for her...

[Nicola19]

Sisters, why doesn't your friend, er, you know, tell the NHS that they don't need so many Tenas, and, like, save the health service some money??

[Mim78]

I can see how y our friend has managed this op, as we were on prescription milk for dd and you could just ask for how much y needed, it was not measured or rationed in any way. With baby milk you can often end up wasting some if baby doesn't finish a feed or you are out on a hot day or whatever so they couldn't ration I suppose. Plus all babies are different and with my dd they wanted her to gain wait.


Needless to say we never asked for more than needed or considered selling it on!

Presumably it would be quite dangerous to but someone else's prescription milk, as if your baby needed it it would be prescribed for you. If you are not prescribed it it will usually follow that it is not right for your baby. The stuff we had would have been really bad for a normal baby as it was really high calorie.

I stopped asking for it once dd no longer needed it, but again that was not policed, and I could have gone on asking for more rather than going out and buying follow on milk (which was then the right thing for dd once she'd recovered from second op - long story). But would have been not only immoral but would have been wrong for dd and possibly caused obesity.

[naty1]

I think it is worse if people are getting extra prescriptions to then sell on knowing they wont need that much.
Gps seem to be cutting back on what you can have... But that means i have been picking up 2 different prescriptions at different points in the month. Probably to stop people like this.

[SqueakySqueak]

If she's not going to use it and it's going to go to waste. I assume she's selling it for a very marked down price?

I sort of feel like she's taking advantage of people by doing that. You need baby milk, so a mother would pay any price for it. Your friend got them for free, she should be giving them away for free to people that need it.

[SistersOfPercy]

I don't know tbh how many were provided. On the odd occasion I helped bring the delivery in there were around 3 or 4 large cardboard boxes which I didn't open, just took to the shed. This was around 18 months ago and I don't tend to discuss him much with friend so it could be that he now gets less.

[chesterberry]

still amazes me that he is getting so many to be able to sell the spare. goes against everything I have heard regarding supply of adult nappies by the NHS.

In my local area you get 4 nappies a day through a prescription (I know another area in which you only get three). The four a day is (in my area at least) standard regardless of how frequently the user needs changing.

I work in a school where some students need changing four times a day just during their time at school as they either wet heavily or soil frequently. At the end of the month we are usually provided with non-prescription nappies for these children as they have run out. On the other hand some students are sometimes able to use the toilet and as such may be dry for most or all of the day or they may just wet very infrequently. I could see how these students might only use 3 or even 2 pads a day. We always have an abundance of pads for these children and presumably their parents do at home too.

So for some people who are able to use the toilet some of the time or who can otherwise go long periods without being changed they may get some pads left at the end of the month from their prescription. It could be that some areas provide more than the four a day we get here too.

[SouthernComforts]

I'm guessing that the milk is special premature formula e.g. Nutriprem 1 or 2 and therefore anyone needing it will get it on prescription anyway so there wouldn't be much demand?

[SistersOfPercy]

Dia I'm not willing to say anymore for fear of outing. It would impact on her. He isn't abusive as such no, but her life is far from rosy.
Reporting anonymously isn't an option given the few friends she has I think she'd know instantly it was me.

As I say, it seems to have dropped off and I know he's been assessed in the last 6 months because other drugs have been changed so I am kind of hoping thats the end of it.

[deakymom]

problem is you get given special milk on prescription and they come in three cans at a time if the can does not agree with the baby all three cans are waste as they cannot be returned i gave my spares away but i can understand the temptation to sell especially when we were not working and the job centre sanctioned us then overturned it on appeal then still did not give us our money back because hand a said we were sanctioned hand b said we were not so hand c could not release the payment and hand d said give them a hardship payment we cant was the reply unless they are actually sanctioned! and it went on and flippin on we were almost that desperate to over order and sell for a few quid fortunately it didn't come to that (praying my husband does not lose his job ever again! )

[SistersOfPercy]

I've battled in my head over this quite a bit but I do have to think of friend who has nothing to do with the sales. Partner is mobile enough to take parcels to P.O etc so she doesn't have any input.
As I say it would have huge consequences for her. I'm hoping that as it all seems to have dropped off there has been some reassessment of amounts needed and that has stopped it.

[DiaDuit]

why would it have consequences for your friend? is her partner abusive? surely you could report him anonymously? still amazes me that he is getting so many to be able to sell the spare. goes against everything I have heard regarding supply of adult nappies by the NHS.

[ArsenicFaceCream]

This place is a constant eye-opener.

[SistersOfPercy]

Again, the person selling the items is the person that uses them, the disabled person. I am guilty of putting in my original post that it was my friend who is paraplegic but I did that to avoid any outing. It's her partner who is paraplegic, her partner who has the supply of Tena and he who sells them on.

To alert anyone would have consequences for my friend, who also isn't in the best of health.

[DiaDuit]

yes arsenic. sisters is there an authority you can report your concerns to? surely this is a form of abuse? to pressure a vulnerable person to defraud (? probably wrong term) the NHS for their profit? I'm sure there is someone you could anonymously speak to and flag up a concern for your friend.

[ArsenicFaceCream]

Sounds as though a paralysed woman is extremely dependent on a wankbadger DP Dia How difficult for you too Sisters

[ArsenicFaceCream]

Your friend's partner is siphoning off her essential toilet supplies to sell at a profit to kinky people!?

So either she is being oversupplied (on his info?) or he is leaving her short on nappies? That is more than a bit alarming Sisters

[DiaDuit]

but someone is pressuring them to sell them? is that what you meant by their partner being 'behind it' and that it would cause 'immeasurable problems' if it was reported?

[Gileswithachainsaw]

If your baby is allergic or intolerant hours can get special formula on prescription.

Same goes for high calorie stuff for preemies

[Kendodd]

Also if she's getting too much, she could just ask them to give her less surely?

[arethereanyleftatall]

So it's alright to steal if you're hard up?!?
This is stealing, don't try and dress it up.

[Kendodd]

Wouldn't this be quite a small market anyway, I'd have thought she'd have difficulty selling it it it's not regular FM?