So yesterday was my birthday outing. to a pub to drink but outing sounds civilised I told my friend months in advance. She promised she'd get someone to look after her two DC and her and her partner would come out with me and DDs DF who are still good friends.
When it came to a week before she said, I'll see if I can get the money. The day before, they have no money. On the day she asks me what I'm doing and says she can't leave the house as she has DC.
She says she simply cannot leave the house and look after 2 DC. This is always her excuse. I tell her I'll look after one/both and she says no. Then, she won't let her partner socialise because she 'cant'.
I don't think kids are a reason to not go out. She won't go to the park with them. She won't Do anything.
Her eldest (2.75) says two words. No and door. Because she always says no and shouts door when someone knocks because she's too lazy to get up.
Kids are stressful yes but not to the point where you are housebound???
She does like me, it's honestly not an excuse to get out of seeing me. I hate to say it but I feel sorry for their children. 
AIBU?
To think kids don't affect your life to the extent that you can't leave the house ever.
McBear · 27/07/2014 19:26
No she doesn't qualify. She's doesn't want to take him to nursery yet. Says he's too young. She was talking about it but as she was taking her sister in laws kids to school it wasn't logistically possible. Now she's stopped doing that but there's no further mention. I think she needs the break. I always offer to look after her kids while she goes for a meal etc but she says no.
All SAHMs need a break as they'd be driven crazy. She gets them looked after overnight about once a month but I don't think it helps.
I've been trying for over two years to help her. I am at a loss
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