To find it amusing how some people get angry when others won't give in to their demands?

[floraldora]

DD (age 15) has a friend that she has known since primary school. Her friend's mum is ok, but I've always kept a bit of a distance because she is very demanding and there is much foot stamping and tantrumming (from the mum) if she doesn't get her own way.

DD has come home this afternoon:

"X says her mum says you've got to call her tonight because she wants to talk about the London trip with you"

Me: "If she wants to talk to me, she can call me. I don't call people when they demand that I have to call them"

DD relayed the information to her friend that the mum needs to call me if she wants to speak to me, and is now getting text messages from her friend saying how cross the mum is that I haven't called her.

After witnessing quite a lot of this type of behaviour from the mum over the years, I am actually finding it quite amusing imagining her spitting feathers because I don't say "how high?" when she demands that I jump.

[floraldora]

Squiggly, I laughed in the privacy of my own home. And I told DD to tell the other girl that I'm busy this evening so may not have the time. I haven't given her a reaction

[Nomama]

Ach! She's a big child and you're pissed off with it. NU given her track record and, to be very, very honest but not at all PC, who gives a toss if you are adding fuel to the fire. She needn't be in your life at all!

[PlumpPartridge]

If you're sure nothing has been lost on translation then I can understand how you feel and would probably do something similar. But then I have become a bit bolshy in my old age

If something has been lost in translation thrn you'll looklike a right prat though!

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

The problem is that your dd is stuck in the middle of all this - she is getting the texts about how angry the other mum is. Is this fair to your dd? As I said, I have been in this situation (and I was in my late 20s, not a teenager), and it was not pleasant.

[KillmeNow]

Im presuming you are including her DD in a trip to London with your family? If so she has a darned cheek to make you contact her to answer her queries.

If something had been lost in translation then the mum has the option of making the call herself. The outcome would still be that she has the information she wants.

No way would I accede to her demands. I would probably do the passive aggressive thing of 'getting it wrong' rather than an out and out fight.I might text if I was feeling kindly disposed . But I would never ever pick up the phone and call her.

[HerVagesty]

Oh, this is one of those threads...

OP: "AIBU and childish?"

Everyone: "Yes, YABU and childish"

OP: "NO I'M NOT BECAUSE [insert excuses here]"

[HayDayQueen]

Oh, so I'm not included then HerVagesty?

And I think it's a tad early to be labelling a thread like that.

[LadySybilLikesCake]

I don't think she's being demanding to be honest. Demanding would be if she asked you to drop everything to call her at a specific time, or (in the case of my ex), turning up at the drop of a hat to see his son, then yelling at you down the phone because you already have plans (non refundable train tickets, plans for a day away etc). Now, that's demanding.

[Marcelinewhyareyousomean]

I don't think the op is unreasonable.

I'm not sure if this is a trip with your family or a school trip. In any case two 15 year olds can converse about this.

A summons from a middle aged self proclaimed princess can be ignored. Texting is a marvellous invention.

[Tangerinefairy]

OP I actually have a friend who is 50 % wonderful and 50% like this. She can be incredibly kind and thoughtful and at other times really terse and demanding. I work with her too and she behaves in just the same way at work. It IS annoying I agree. There are ways of saying things and being polite and saying "You have to pick them up, I'm busy" and such like IS rude. It is in my book anyway. I wouldn't speak to someone or text someone in that way I'd say "would you mind or could you possibly....?"

[Tangerinefairy]

Op has said several times that this is one example of the things that this lady has done, it is typical of her, not the only time.

[Berryglitter]

Just call her op. It's just petty and childish and your children are stuck in the middle. Be the bigger person, at least for their sake.

[gobbin]

I have a male friend like this. We would often go out as a four or with other friends sometimes using Groupon vouchers for instance. It would always be 'Gobbin, can you ring and make the booking' which morphed into 'Gobbin will book for us'.

Until the day I said 'No, it's your turn to book, I'm not your staff!' He's wary of asking me to do stuff now and generally asks nicely when he does.

Again, petty, but these people are bloody irritating (even though we're good mates). They are often used to 'managing' staff at work and it can spill over into reality at times.

[clam]

Why is the OP being called petty? It's as unfair as when people refer to "personality clashes" between people, which are often down to one side being bloody unreasonable.

I wouldn't bloody phone her either. Dd can cope, I'm sure.