To hate it when women trying to lose weight

[lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout]

Say "Oh I was dead good today. I never had any chocolate/cakes/crisps ect. What do they mean they were"good'. Going shopping for a poor housebound old lady/man. Giving up your time for a good cause. Donating to charity Iw being " good', no saying 'no to chocolate ect.
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[BoulevardOfBrokenSleep]

No, I hate that whole good/bad thing; it's just food! Eat it or don't eat it, whatever, no-one died.


DM is a prime offender. 'Ooh, aren't you good!'
No, I just don't fancy cake right now. I'm still a porker

[NoodleOodle]

I kind of agree with livelablove, diet conversation is boring if you're not currently in to discussing diet, as are many topics of conversation. The good/bad thing is just a part of diet lingo, often annoying and inaccurate, but it's efficient short hand for high sugar/fat foods with low health/nutritional value, where others in the conversation will understand what is meant without lengthy discussion and definition.

[lovingmatleave]

Ooh don't get me started! my office is full of that crap chat. ooh I'm being good today as I've got Weight watchers tonight so I'll just have one of these cup a soup things and baked not fried crisp things that have absolutely no nutrition in them at all.

These too are the usually the people that bring in big chocolate cakes and try and persuade everyone else to have a bit while they watch on revelling in the ooh I shouldn't really but it looks so nice chat it generates.

In my small team I have to put up with weight watchers, protein shake replacements, no sugar, and Atkins diet chat. All different people. All overweight. It's endless.

[Kleptronic]

Actually I think ears would be nice braised slowly until they're falling apart. In gin. No calories in gin.

[EarthWindFire]

You are way over thinking it

[Joysmum]

I believe in praising and acknowledging the achievement of others. So I praise my daughter for doing things I find a doddle but she finds hard.

If you can't understand that I feel sorry for you.

[emms1981]

I find it more annoying when someone says I've lost x amout this week, I'm doing 1000k a day and people say oh that's great.
No it isn't.
I've been naughty I had chocolate and a biscuit but I don't care

[IAmTheGodOfTitsAndWine]

I think it, but I don't say it to other people because diet talk bores me to death IRL and I won't inflict it on others. To me, it means I've done really well making healthy choices. Acknowledging it, even to myself, means I'm more likely to carry on doing it. It's just a phrase.

[AlleyCat11]

Hate when people say that. It's like "I've managed not to stuff myself with crap for one day! Yay me!" Not eating a biscuit is not an achievement.
I used to work with a bunch of women who would send out to the shop for a Flyte bar & consider themselves "so good" for not having a Mars Bar. Nonsense.
They would often peer into my lunch, which was mostly a nice mixed salad of various fruit, veg, cheese & nuts, and say "ooh, you're sooo healthy". If I had a smoothie for breakfast, because I liked them, whilst they scoffed McMuffins I'd always get a concerned "you don't eat enough, you know".
Rage-a-rama! YANBU, OP.

[DoJo]

I hate it too. If you want the cake, bloody eat it. If you don't, then don't eat it. It's not about being "good" or "naughty", it's about self discipline. I also hate it when I see people nibble at food. Eat it or don't eat it, but don't sit gnawing on miniscule bits of chocolate bar for the best part of an hour.

But surely that's a contradiction - the point is that someone wants the cake but recognises that it is better for them not to. Instead of giving in to the immediate urge, they are exercising self discipline - there's no discipline to not eating something you don't want! And caring how quickly or slowly people eat their food just seems churlish - advice on limiting high calorie foods recommends that you eat such foods slowly and really appreciate them to make you think about how much you are eating rather than mindlessly shovelling handfuls of food into your mouth and then regretting it later.

Sorry - some of the posts on this thread just seems like another form of fat-shaming to me - people don't have to diet the way others want, use the terminology others prefer and eat in the way others decree is appropriate. If they are doing something that makes them feel good about themselves, then criticising them for it is unkind and unhelpful.

[SquigglySquid]

I dunno. Why do women say "I have sinned" when they eat junk food?

They're being good because they followed their own rules for themselves.

[GoshAnneGorilla]

Boulevard had said what I want to say already.

Most food talk really depresses me. This diet or that diet, or this is Not a Diet But A Special Way of Eating.

It just seems like so much mental work and effort, but I absolutely don't say that to be fat-shaming, which is something I hate.

[Kleptronic]

I'm absolutely all for people doing something which makes them feel good about themselves. I don't necessarily want to hear them banging on about it every day in the bloody workplace. Especially when a great deal of it seems to be false consciousness. I haven't smoked for 3 months, shall I mention it every time I want a cigarette, because it makes me feel good about myself? No, I shan't, because it would be boring. Actually now I come to think of it, I will. Every time someone says something about food/weight/size/exercise I'm going to harp on about smoking/vaping/not giving a flying fuck because it's none of my business what people do or do not put into their faces or what size clothes they fit into and I couldn't give a shiny shite about it. I swear there's weeks of my life, if not months, no years I'll never get back from this, what I assume is, group bonding shared experience type stuff and it's yet another thing women yoke themselves with and it needs to fucking stop in the vicinity of my ears. Before I lose them .

[VashtaNerada]

YANBU. It's sensible to eat healthily but it's not a moral issue. I don't think fat people are "bad" people. I know it's just a turn of phrase but it winds me up too. It also winds me up that people assume I'm dieting because, as a woman, I owe it to the world to look aesthetically pleasing (in a very narrow sense of what that means). No, I'm dieting because I don't want diabetes or heart disease. Why is that so hard for people to comprehend?

[TSSDNCOP]

Hate it. It is usually said by someone that cannot follow a diet for longer than 3 days.

[shockinglybadteacher]

Presumably, if not eating chocolate makes you "good", people who do eat chocolate are "bad"?

Weight is nothing to do with morality FFS. I'm with you on this one, OP. It's an unhealthy way of looking at the world.

[GarlicJunoWho]

Yanbu! Exactly what shockingly said. What to eat is not a moral choice ... well, unless you're considering whether to roast next door's kids on Sunday.

[GoshAnneGorilla]

" I swear there's weeks of my life, if not months, no years I'll never get back from this, what I assume is, group bonding shared experience type stuff and it's yet another thing women yoke themselves with and it needs to fucking stop in the vicinity of my ears. Before I lose them."

Yes. I once worked somewhere, where the number 1 topic of discussion was diets. It was incredibly depressing.

I also agree with shockinglybadteacher that weight and morality are not linked.

[bibliomania]

I don't mind a bit of diet chat (better than football) once it doesn't spill over into commenting on my food choices.

[squoosh]

It's like when celebrities are photographed smoking and are always described as having a 'crafty cigarette'. When there's clearly nothing 'crafty' about it, they're just choosing to have a smoke.

[JoeyMaynardsghost]

SquigglySquid

Why do women say "I have sinned" when they eat junk food?

Possibly because they're doing Slimming World who classify such things as "syns"?

[spegal]

The overweight people at my work have suggested a few times that I have an eating disorder as never join them in cakes, McDonalds, chips and don't eat proccessed food.

They call my food bird seed and ooh I don't know who you do it don't you fancy x and y and life's to short without x and y.


So I take nutrition seriously, fuck off I don't talk about it.

[IrianofWay]

I dislike the 'good' thing too. It seems a bit childish somehow. I am losing weight atm and I never think if terms of good or bad - the only person who loses out if I break my own rules is me so not 'bad' just stupid.

[MrsGoslingWannabe]

Ooh reading this has made me want to finish up the fruit & cream flan I made yesterday.

[IrianofWay]

A few years ago we had a party for H's birthday. As it was his 50th we had invited family instead of just friends as we usually do. MIL was in one of her diet phases. She has a very irritating habit of making faces and odd noises to emphasis what she is saying - it is incredibly annoying - her favourite is when she is talking about something she really likes and she makes this oooh noise and rolls her eyes. DH offered her a slice of birthday cake which happened to involve cream and strawberries (H's birthday is the right time of year for PYO). She made that noise and rolled her eyes at the cake and said 'I really shouldn't, that is so naughty' so he said 'Oh, OK then....'and took it away. Her face was a picture.

I did offer her some more later.....

I wanted to say 'It's not naughty, it's cake! Food cannot have a moral compass'