About Mother's Day!

[ilovemydoggy]

I have just seen a post on Facebook about someone moaning that they didn't get breakfast in bed and only got a card and bunch of flowers! I'm sure there's more on here and people will be upset about what I am saying. But don't these people know that they are lucky enough to be celebrating Mother's Day and the best present they was even given was their children. There is plenty of childless women out there today who wishes that they had someone to call them mummy! Rant over.

[JugglingFromHereToThere]

Ah, that's good Microchips

I lived in Japan for a year and they do have a children's day there. It used to be boys day and the tradition was to fly a carp (fish) kite from your rooftops if you had a boy. Now it's children's day and children aged 3,5 and 7 get dressed in their finest traditional costumes for the celebrations.
To be precise I think it's boys of five and girls of three or seven.
There's also a very traditional dolls day just for the girls.

I think I've got those details right. Any Japanese readers feel free to correct me!

[MicrochipsAndMemories]

oh Juggling, we will love that. We just don't want to force him to take part in it which we feel we would be if right from even before he's born we buy each other mother's day gifts from him. if you see what I mean.
Gifts he's lovingly made or bought himself at any time of year will be received gratefully but we won't make him feel like we expect ANYTHING from him. We chose to have him, where is the Children's Day?

[BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack]

Mothers Day is bitter sweet for me really.

Nice because I have a DS and he gets really excited to give me a card and pressie but sad because my mum is no longer here and it just feels like I am getting my nose rubbed in it.

I try to avoid the internet on days like that otherwise I feel crap for the next couple of days.

[JugglingFromHereToThere]

I feel just the same about both Valentine's day and Mother's day Microchips - both can be so much more trouble than they're worth too for all those where as my friend puts it everything isn't "hunky-dory"

Only thing is your son may go through a stage in his middle years where they're all making Mother's day cards at nursery or school. These can be really sweet and I hope you'll both enjoy them and give him a big hug

[MicrochipsAndMemories]

My wife is 34 weeks pregnant. We decided in advance that we don't want to celebrate mothers day. We don't want our son to feel like he HAS to buy us both cards, flowers, or anything just because we're his mums and Clinton's says he should. Would much rather a hug or thank you on a random unprovoked day.

We don't celebrate valentines either, for the same reason.

If you don't feel appreciated the rest if the year, either as a partner or parent, a thoughtless gift one day a year wouldn't really have meaning anyway.

[JugglingFromHereToThere]

Thanks Mama
It's hard for me this year because of a recent family bereavement - much too young as well

[DioneTheDiabolist]

I am bored of people moaning about other people moaning about their Mothers Day. The OP could have messages or poked or written on a wall or whatever you do on FB to get her point across. Instead she came on here to start another moan.

Chain Moaning is annoying.

[JugglingFromHereToThere]

Personally Slack I feel that on this moaning about moaning is entirely valid.

Moaning about moaning about moaning now that would be going too far

[bishbashboosh]

Couldn't agree more op
And Facebook is disgusting , brag book, fake book, I refuse to be part of that one x

[Slackgardener]

But people always have sad stories, this is not about competitive misery. If you're kids are driving you mad, it's ok to you can say that, even if other people have lost their dcs or couldn't have any - it's just a ridiculous thing to say - you have a right to be disappointed.

[Mama1980]

I'm so sorry this day is so painful for so many.
My two birth children were born at 26 and 24 weeks- I promise I know just how lucky I am.

[GiveItALashJack]

People might be upset Slack but I think peoples stories of loss and loneliness should give them perspective. Its one fricking day.
If you are not being recognised or respected as a mother every other day, then you should be addressing that. A bunch of flowers isnt going to fix that.

[phantomnamechanger]

care to elaborate Dione? Have you not seen enough sad stories on this thread to realise the OP has a point about the selfish, entitled, ungrateful attitude some people have?

[Slackgardener]

Some people are upset that today was not recognised by their family and they wish to express how they feel on a parenting forum, I think that's pretty normal - how many threads like this one are we going to have today?

You'll always find someone worse off than you but that doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid. Moaning about moaning - is becoming a bit tiresome.

[JugglingFromHereToThere]

Some people do have a ridiculous lack of perspective I agree OP.

Mother's day is properly difficult for many people due to bereavement or not being able to be mothers themselves.

Those that don't like the flowers they've been given or haven't had a card this year or whatever else should look at things as they really are, not through the commercialised lens of mother's day hype.

[DioneTheDiabolist]

YABU OP.

[ajandjjmum]

Feel for your nieces Worral - my Dad died 11 years ago on Mother's Day, and this is the first on that date since. Does feel like there are two anniversaries of his death each year.

[phantomnamechanger]

for blizy

best of luck with the IVF sweetheart

[phantomnamechanger]

YANBU - count your blessings is my motto. I have 3 children and one who we did not get to bring home from hospital. I always tell DH he's not to buy flowers for mothers day or valentines as the prices are just stupid. I got a book and a candle and a card. Lovely. DD2 is cooking dinner largely on her own.

One lady locally has lost her husband in a tragic accident this week. she has 3 children who are coming to terms with the fact they will never see daddy again. It made the national news - he was doing a sponsored bike ride and his fundraising page has now topped £80K I believe due to people being moved by this story. I hope this brings the family some comfort in future years. At the moment it must be unbelievably bloody awful for them. I have thought of them a lot today.

[Caitlin17]

I don't understand the need for one's worth as a mother to be validated on this random day.

[MorrisZapp]

I haven't seen anybody throwing a strop because all they got was home made cards and or presents.

[blizy]

I agree ilovemydoggy I'm just back from visiting my dad and SM (my mum died giving birth to me), I know she will be moaning that I had "only" bought her a candle and some wine. I hate Mother's Day, always have, but even more so now that my own dd was stillborn (3yrs ago) and now facing IVF in a hope to conceive again.

[Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme]

I had some lovely school-made cards and a clay model thrust upon me this morning. They were so excited and so pleased to give them to me, along with lots of kisses and cuddles. My youngest was literally jumping up and down with excitement as she gave me her present. They could have given me anything, it was just their sheer pleasure at giving something to mummy that made me smile.

They've been shouted at since and been little buggers, naturally, they can't be expected to hold that angelic stance all day.

Loving the name op.

[JohnFarleysRuskin]

Agree with Morris.

Obviously someone who is throwing a strop about not being a princess is an idiot but for many, Mother's Day does shine a light on how unappreciated/taken for granted they are. And just because their children are (blessedly) healthy, they still have a right to those feelings.