to not tie myself in knots trying to be discreet while breastfeeding.

[DaleyBump]

I'm about to namechange anyway so I don't care about the flaming I'm about to get.

I have massive boobs and oversupply so breastfeeding discreetly is difficult. I also use a sling so I get very warm with DS's body against mine. If I wear a vest top underneath my normal top I overheat. It it really so bad to not give a shit who sees what while I'm breastfeeding? It's not like I'm waving my boobs about, just lifting my top to feed my baby but that might mean a flash of nipple now and again.

[pointythings]

Aaaargh, I meant to say YAcompletelyNbU!!!

[TiredFeet]

'BF is not a shameful thing that needs to be hidden away'. Totally agree pointythings

[TiredFeet]

Yanbu! I also have big boobs and oversupply, and being totally discrete is just impossible. I got so stressed about it with ds that I ended up very isolated when he was a baby. This time round I don't have that choice as ds needs to be out and about.

[PurplePidjin]

I just yanked my top down and to one side, no one ever batted an eyelid!

Well, apart from the one time my mum insisted I cover up (getting measured for nursing bras in vair naice department store, first time we'd made it out in public together, ds only a few days old)

It's the only time I've actually sobbed in frustration when trying to breastfeed no that it was alway easy, but this was proper heaving sweating stressiness

We are only the centre of our own little universes. The rest of the world are remarkable oblivious. When was the last time you noticed a mum breastfeeding in a cafe? Bet you they were there, you were just caught up in your own world, like me

[tmae]

YANBU, I wish I didn't care, I too have big boobs, and my LO has lip tie so comes off all the time so I wear this stupid apron thing that draws loads of attention because then I'm faffing around trying to get him on because he hates it and then he doesn't feed properly and so he isn't happy and I end up going home! I'm hoping I get more confident all being well!

[TheScience]

I'm not particularly discreet either - I prefer wrap dress or buttoned shirts as I find it easier than vests and tops. Once the baby is on you can't see any more flesh than if I was wearing a low cut top anyway.

[pointythings]

YAcompletelyBU. I'm not very big - back to C cup by the time DDs were about 6 weeks old but buckets of milk - but both of mine became Mrs Popoff from about 3 months because hey, looking around is sooo much more interesting than food. Even if you're starving, apparently.

You soon learn not to give a shit. I had no legal protection, so I developed a death stare instead. To be honest, the vast majority of people were fine and although I got a few looks, the only comments I got were positive.

BF is not a shameful thing that needs to be hidden away.

[BornFreeButinChains]

YANBU

[PastaandCheese]

Of course YANBU. I was more discrete with DC1 I suppose but that was for my benefit.

[Longdistance]

Just go for it. My baps were a 38k after dd's births. I even bf with my norks out in front of the priest in the church. They hated being covered up with a mussy or bf wrap.

Meh!

[callamia]

No way! I figure as long as no one is getting milk in their eye, then you can feed however works for you. I've got a very distractible and squirmy baby, so I'm pretty sure that even with the best nursing tops on, the world and its dog has seen my nipples. Nobody has ever seemed to care though.

[angryangryyoungwoman]

I breastfed my dd in a sling while walking around supermarket earlier. Had to get shopping done, she is happy, I really don't give a rats arse what people think of that. It is natural and noone else's business but mine

[Pregnantberry]

Yeah, Dads say that kind of shit.

Meanwhile, you can legally BF anywhere in this country with as much boob on show as you like.

I am surprised you thought you would get more YABU's on MN, the home of organizing mass breast feeding protests.

[Inertia]

Don't bother about discretion- just get yourself and baby comfortable.

Your dad can mind his own business.

[ElvisJesusAndCocaCola]

I found doing just what you describe so much less attention-grabbing than rooting around for a muslin, draping it over me, dropping it on the floor then starting all over again. So I probably flashed a few unexpecting people, but I'm a clumsy fool with the hide of a rhino so never noticed one funny glance in my direction.

Go for it.

[GimmeDaBoobehz]

I'm sure.

My Mum has said this too. To be honest it's what they are made for, so I don't see why I should have to.

[DaleyBump]

My dad was telling me to be more discreet, I'm so surprised I haven't got lots of YABU's :) Mavis I usually do the same but I didn't want to say because I'm a big wuss.

I'm sure you'll recognise me at some point Gimme

[weasle]

YANBU.

One of the many things I hate about the new fashion for BF covers is that my DC, who were all BF, now are older and don't see any babies being BF. So how can it be normalised for them if it is invisible ? My older DC did see his younger sibs BF for years but I think they've all forgotten. And my youngest has no younger sibs to see BFing.

So when we go out if I see someone BF I'm delighted, so carry on! Your baby is benefiting, sod anyone else.

[GimmeDaBoobehz]

Oops posted too soon.

Don't nc as I won't be able to MN stalk you to see what your up to :)

[MavisG]

Yanbu. I go for top down, which shows more boob (baby hates cloth in eyes/face & I occasionally get a raised eyebrow. I have no intention of changing how I do it.

[GimmeDaBoobehz]

Glad I am not the only one.

Don't nc

[Amiawake]

NU at all. I don't whip my boobs out but I also don't try to hide away under a blanket or anything. No one can see anything anyway. People don't routinely stare at a woman's chest at any other time, they don't have to look when she is feeding.

[whatshallwedo]

Yanbu, I will happily feed dd (2) anywhere and everywhere, although she doesn't tend to feed when we are out now through her own choice.

I always think to myself that if someone doesn't like it then they should be the ones to move or look away. Bf is what nature intended for our breasts and that is what I shall use them for

Now, what annoys me is the people who feel the need to tell me how great my boobs used to look and that they no longer do . Thanks for that, it really helps!

[Mouldypineapple]

Sounds fine to me. I think as long as its not 'let it all hang out' no-one can really have a problem. I was in a cafe the other day and a Mum nearby was struggling to get a breastfeeding cover in place, get the baby under it etc. was much more of a drama than if she'd just shoved her top up and popped the baby on. Always worked for me.