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AIBU?

To really want to say something to these abortion protestors?

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Crocodileclip · 07/03/2014 18:10

Firstly, I know I will probably never say anything as I appreciate that the protestors have the right to protest but it really pisses me off.

A small group of people have been protesting outside the Marie Stoppes clinic in Belfast since it opened in 2012. They stand outside the door on the days it is open holding anti abortion posters and trying to gather signatures for a petition. I pass them on my way to get to the station at home time and every time it annoys me. I can't imagine how offputting they would be if you were young and scared and just wanting some advice. Lots of pics of aborted foetuses etc. I find it intimidating enough myself and I am just walking past. I actually put my head down and walk quicker so that nobody asks me to sign the petition.

I'm currently pregnant with my second and am lucky never to have been in a position where abortion was an option but am of the opinion that there are situations in which it may be the best option available.

The clinic itself operates within NI law so only offers abortions up to 9 weeks and as far as I know is the only such clinic in Northern Ireland. I think I would be ok with the protestors doing their stuff elsewhere in the city centre it is the fact that it is just outside the only entrance to the clinc that makes me irrationally angry. Does this happen at other Marie Stoppes clinics elsewhere in the UK?

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StealthPolarBear · 07/03/2014 21:25

Suburban because a mother is an incubator

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SuburbanRhonda · 07/03/2014 21:27

Yes, of course, stealth, silly me thinking the mother was also a human being with rights.

Thank goodness we have these protestors to show people like me the error of my ways.

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RevoltingPeasant · 07/03/2014 21:27

My mum was picketed when she went to abort her fifth pregnancy, as she and DF had been told it had a small chance of survival and she didn't think they could afford it anyhow.

I would love to know how many of those people have adopted children. Presumably not many as they would not have the time to stand around outside clinics.

I think they should have the right to protest, but I would also like to see counter protests, including videos of these people being asked how they have supported a poor woman who decided not to have an abortion, and posters saying "ignorant lying bullies" directed at them.

If you can't take the heat....

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whereisthewitch · 07/03/2014 21:28

Im prolife (where the pregnancy doesn't compromise the life of the mother) and I live in NI but I agree these protestors and their posters are just awful. I remember them in cornmarket too as a child and being devastated at the posters and leaflets they had.
Women can't choose abortion in NI like in the rest of Britain, there has to be a medical reason isn't that right? So picketing the clinic is completely pointless.

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Zara8 · 07/03/2014 21:29

YANBU

I love the idea of adopting a protestor GrinGrinGrin

I live in Dublin and there's a Marie Stopes near my work. I used to get my pill/smears done there and used to delight in laughing at the rosary waving old biddies outside and shaking my head at them. That always confused them! The doctor working there had worked in a number of sexual health clinics across Europe, and told me (depressingly) that except for in Scandanavia, there are these idiots at all clinics everywhere.

When I was heavily pregnant Youth Defence were doing an awful mass billboard campaign. Two protestors dared to try and hand me leaflets as I was waddling to the bus, and my word, did I rain down an expletive-filled torrent of hormonal rage on them...!!!!

A few months ago I was pleased to see in the central city two female police officers/Gardai arguing with a male anti choice protestor (who had the disgusting dead fetus billboards) and ordering him to clear off.

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bumbleymummy · 07/03/2014 21:33

Flock, you don't know that they aren't doing anything else to campaign for change. I think it's ridiculous to assume that people are violent and/or abusive because they happen to be pro-life.

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Maryz · 07/03/2014 21:35

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UnknownGnome · 07/03/2014 21:36

Why can't people just be pro life for themselves? Why.must they try to control the beliefs and actions of others?

Don't believe in abortion? You'll never have to have one. Simple.

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Zara8 · 07/03/2014 21:38

Pure In Heart get my blood pressure going....!

All I can say is thank fuck for Boots introducing the morning after pill at their Irish stores a couple of years ago, other pharmacy chains have offered suit. Massively increases access and reduces cost for young people.

Doc at Marie Stopes told me they get lots of teens coming up from rural Ireland because they're scared to go to their local GP about contraceptives, STIs Sad

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anothernumberone · 07/03/2014 21:41

Fuck me Maryz we had loons like that from some bizarre cult not the usual Catholic cult we were subjected to come in to us in school I hoped those days were over.

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mustbetimefortea · 07/03/2014 21:42

Exactly suburban and YY to Ikea's* idea of forcing protesters to only show pictures of 7/8/9 week fetuses.

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anothernumberone · 07/03/2014 21:42

Why can't people just be pro life for themselves? Why.must they try to control the beliefs and actions of others?

Don't believe in abortion? You'll never have to have one. Simple


It seems so easy doesn't it.

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justwantitmadeforme · 07/03/2014 21:43

YADNBU.

After being in such an awful predicament myself I find these protesters abhorrent. Mind you I found them awful before anyway.

Praying on the vulnerable.

protest all they like but do it away from a fucking clinic. arseholes.

Makes me sick

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Maryz · 07/03/2014 21:44

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haveyourselfashandy · 07/03/2014 21:45

They protest outside the one in Leeds too.Ignorant bastards the lot of em.
It takes me all of my willpower not to pelt them with things and I hate that it makes me that angry and upset.

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Cocolepew · 07/03/2014 21:46

I did a nursrry nurse course in NI in the 80's we had someone from a pro life organisation come in to give us a talk. I got threw out for daring to ask questions Confused. We didn't have a pro choice speaker .

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TheBabyFacedAssassin · 07/03/2014 21:47

I am also in Northern Ireland and am currently 23 weeks pregnant. 3 weeks ago we were told that our baby has a lethal type of skeletal dysplasia and is highly unlikely to survive more than an hour after being born. Termination of pregnancy even when there is no hope for the baby is still illegal here. I would love for one of those anti abortion protestors to step into my shoes for a day to see how it feels to be denied an abortion and have to continue the pregnancy for another 3 months knowing that your baby will die. I would say there are very few of them that have been is this position.

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Maryz · 07/03/2014 21:47

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MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 07/03/2014 21:48

At the BPAS clinic in Southampton the staff advised us that there were some protestors outside as we were due to leave

They did all sorts of procedures at the clinic and they suggested we carry our own bag if possible and make our OHs walk a bit funny to look as if they had had the snip

They also suggested telling them to piss off if we felt like it Grin

I wasn't feeling terribly social and was all set for fisticuffs quite frankly - but there was no-one out there!

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winterhat · 07/03/2014 21:50

YANBU. You never see anyone handing out photos of women who've died from backstreet abortions, or any of the other negative aspects of unwanted pregnancy do you?

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RevoltingPeasant · 07/03/2014 21:50

Yeah but that principle of just deciding for yourself never seems to hold, does it. Like GPs here can decide not to refer women on if they themselves don't believe in abortion.

Because yes, signing a piece of paper to enable a woman to access necessary and legal medical care is SO the same thing as having an abortion yourself. Gosh, who would have thought that choosing to work in general practice for the state health service in a democratic country where abortio is legal would involve helping women access it? Hmm

This reminds me of those awful people in the US who picket people's funerals. Horrible bullying and all about themselves, not actually about the aborted embryos.

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RevoltingPeasant · 07/03/2014 21:51

Oh Assassin. I am so so very sorry.

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TheBabyFacedAssassin · 07/03/2014 21:51

Oh Maryz it's ok!
I just wish the ideal world like you described existed.

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SwingYourPantsNow · 07/03/2014 21:57

Everybody's entitled to their opinion, and if they're peacefully protesting, then that's up to them.

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