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AIBU?

to think my dd eats a lot and worry about her weight?

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PinkHardHat · 05/02/2014 22:57

My exH is morbidly obese. I had weight issues in my teens but have been a size 8-10 for the past nine years or so. Dd is 6, around 105cm tall and almost 4 stone. She looks fine from behind but has always had a big tummy that protrudes out of clothes. She does loads of exercise but her tummy seems to be growing bigger. We eat healthily but have McDonalds once per month, which we had at the weekend. She was sharing various things with her cousins and declared afterwards that she'd eaten ten chicken nuggets as well as a box of fries. That's more than I could eat! She's told me before that her dad has given her Pringles and she ate the entire tube Confused

Today she had:

Two slices of brown toast with choc spread and banana and a yoghurt
Milk and Apple at snack time
Lunch consisting of three crackers, cheese, ham, peppers, cucumber, carrots, strawberries, melon, grapes, small cake
After school snacks of pineapple, cherries, popcorn and a bowl of cereal
Dinner of two Yorkshire puddings, broccoli, peas, cauliflower, five roast potatoes and four chipolata sausages
Pudding of jam sponge
An hour later was asking for yoghurt and fruit

If I reduce portion sizes she asks for more. She isn't eating due to boredom as she is always busy but she eats loads more than me and weighs almost half what I do. Aibu to worry about her eating and weight at this stage?

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georgeousgeorge · 07/02/2014 14:13

www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/Healthyweightcalculator.aspx

Don't know i anyone has posted this before but.... form the details she comes out at "very overweight"

playing around with the calculator though an 3st6 would make her a healthy weight and 3st "average"

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JerseySpud · 07/02/2014 14:14

Flipping heck that list in the OP is more than my 7 and 2 year old eat together!

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brettgirl2 · 07/02/2014 14:14

I think her lunch sounds fine. Sausages are better than crisps. For dinner round mine she would be having something based around protein, mince pie for example if she likes that meat, or a casserole or lasagne (which is really more protein than carb).

I would also try giving her more porridge see how much it takes for her to say 'no more'.

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georgeousgeorge · 07/02/2014 14:16

....while some people seek to ridicule BMI, it is an indicator only, and shes not just indicated at overweight but very overweight.

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capsium · 07/02/2014 14:18

I think the changes you are beginning to make are great pink. It will save a lot of heartache in the future. Smile As long as you can instigate the changes with the minimum of fuss, hopefully she will just forget about them.

I remember when my mother stopped allowing sugar on cereal and in tea when I was very young. I just accepted it my taste changed and it was thing I didn't have to give up when a habit was more established.

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Bettercallsaul83 · 07/02/2014 14:26

I get a bloated tummy and am ravenous if I eat too many carbs in a day.

Currently dieting and doing well with 50% or less of carbs per day, no idea if this is good for a child or not, but maybe use My Fitness Pal to track her food (unknown to her) and then you can see a breakdown of carbs/fat/protein.. You can then make better choices for her, or see what type of snack might be better?

High sugar foods make me bloat and make me hungry.

Also, is she bored in the evenings and wants food to cheer her up, have something to do? Are they any ways to distract her from that mindset?

All I will say is that you sound like a great mum, and she'll be happier in the long run if this gets sorted now as she's growing, rather than be stuck in a cycle of dieting when she's a teen/adult.

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Bettercallsaul83 · 07/02/2014 14:28

As for the exH, he should know better if he's overweight too! But try talking to him, or adding in more exercise to compensate for his lack of parenting ability.!

Have you got a Wii ? Wii Dance, Wii Fit etc is great fun.

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MummyPig24 · 08/02/2014 13:37

I hugely underestimated my 6yr olds height, having measured him today he is actually 114cm and 3st 2lb. He eats a lot but much less than ops dd. He is a naturally active child but I can see that he has potential to get a bit round if his sweet stuff intake isn't carefully monitored.

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BorcestshireBlue · 08/02/2014 15:05

DS is 6, 128cm and around 4st. There is no way he could eat the volume of food your DD manages to eat.

There is nothing wrong with giving her the food she likes (although I would maybe try and get rid of the chocolate spread and educate your Ex), her overall diet looks ok, you just need to look cut down on the portion sizes.

DS will often want to snack if he is bored - distract with a game or book or a jogging on the spot competiton rather than giving the snacks.

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