Saying "ta" instead of "thank you"

[saffstel]

Dd2 (10 months) is staring nursery in a couple of weeks. We did an intro hour yesterday.

Her key worker (who was also dd1's key worker) says 'ta' to the children when she hands them toys, food, etc.

This is a pet hate of mine and it annoyed me when she did it with DD1.

Wibu of me to ask her to say "thank you" instead of "ta"? The discussion sounds really petty when I have it in my head, but I really, really hate "ta".

[Kubrickian]

PrimalLass don't even bother asking about 'pardon', unless you want to be bored to tears.

Pardon = common and you are suppose to say 'what?' instead.

For the people that have a life this would not even register as an issue.

[BringBackBod]

I think words such as lazy, rude , ignorant, horrid, common are a bit much tbh.
In the north of England ta is commonly used (as is thank you).
It doesn't necessarily make people who use the word any of the above.That's quite insulting.

[NoraRobertsismyguiltypleasure]

I don't like 'ta' either. When I worked as a nursery nurse I always said 'Thank you' or if a child already said 'ta' then I would say 'Yes, ta, thank you'. Now as a mum I find I do say 'ta' occasionally to my daughter simply because she is more likely to say that, but I continue to say 'Thank you'.
I don't think you can ask the nursery to only say Thank you to your child, but you could ask them to say both and explain that you would like her to learn them both.

[LittleBearPad]

How is this an issue.

Do unclench people. This is the epitome of middle class fussing. Will you all faint if the DCs say perfume, mirror and serviette too.

[LurkingCinners]

I went to uni up North and everyone said it "ta, luv"
I do say "ta" sometimes in a very informal setting. Can't see any harm.
Don't use it with my dc because we speak another language

[perplexedpirate]

I loathe the word 'pardon', though not as much as 'serviette'.

If it makes you feel better to assume I have 'no life' (what does that even mean?) then go for it, kiddo.

[msmoss]

Anyone else pondering how often those so in favour of thank you stoop so low as to offer someone their thanks?

[EST0106]

I also can't bear it. When DD was about your DD's age nursery did say 'ta' a lot. I assume it's because it's easier than thank you. She grew out of it though and now says thank you or thanks, and we're in Yorkshire ;-) She's 2.6. I wouldn't bother saying anything, she will grow out of it in time.

[EmperorTomatoKetchup]

Gosh motherhood is such a struggle at times isn't it?

Have I actually read correctly that some people would seriously consider changing nursery over use of the word ta??

[M0naLisa]

My 14mth old says 'ta' it's very cute I think

[crazzzzycat]

Agree agree. Hate the word ta. it just sounds so awful. 15m DD saying thank you with no problems. As did DS slightly younger.

And pardon too..... yuk. Have to grit my teeth very often amongst all the ta and pardons from my MIL and SIL.

[newyearhere]

"Ta" is an extra word for "thank you" but with a different feel to it (friendlier and warmer). It's a dialect word which is perfectly valid.

I wonder how this thread would go if some of the other historic regional variations were criticised, such as Cockney rhyming slang, or Geordie, Scots or West Country accents or phrases. They're a part of the cultural identity of many people.

[Nanny0gg]

Just imagining some of you clutching your pearls whilst in earshot of common little babies innocently saying 'ta' to their chavvy parents - oh the horror


Oh dear, some of you really need to find your missing grips!

I don't have a problem with the dislike of certain words or phrases; I have quite a long list myself.
But, really - the over-dramatization of the horror that is the word 'Ta'! The world won't come to an end because one or two of us are a little common
(and you can tell that I must be as I am a Nanny in real life too, and that is a real MN Hate)

[madmayday]

My daughter has a speech delay and it's looking increasingly like she's a mute.

If she said "Ta" by way of giving thanks, I'd probably weep with joy.

Most kids learn their proper P's and Q's eventually. Some of you on here are being bloody ridiculous.

[BringBackBod]

Where I live 'duck' is often used after ta, although probably not in a nursery setting.
Can you imagine that?

[CouthyMow]

If I'd have said "what" instead of "pardon" if I hadn't heard something, I would have got into trouble for being rude with my Scottish Grandparents. Yet if I said "pardon" instead of "what" in that situation with my English Grandparents, I would have got into trouble for being rude...

Odd how different people, from different areas go the Country, that the complete opposite phrase can be seen as 'rude' or 'common'.

Made it a minefield...

Then again, (outing myself here), my Scottish Granny has a 'phrase' that comes out as "beppon" when she doesn't hear something. It's a contraction of "beg your pardon". It is so much a part of my Granny that it will always be intertwined with what makes my Granny who she is, to me.

"Beppon?"

[Morgause]

Ta is fine until a child can say thank you. Manners are as important as good English.

My mum said it was common to say pardon. I'm not sure how she knew this but she did have a mysterious list somewhere in her head of all that was common.