Saying "ta" instead of "thank you"

[saffstel]

Dd2 (10 months) is staring nursery in a couple of weeks. We did an intro hour yesterday.

Her key worker (who was also dd1's key worker) says 'ta' to the children when she hands them toys, food, etc.

This is a pet hate of mine and it annoyed me when she did it with DD1.

Wibu of me to ask her to say "thank you" instead of "ta"? The discussion sounds really petty when I have it in my head, but I really, really hate "ta".

[HoratiaDrelincourt]

tl;dr

Round here people use ta with small children but it's taaaaaaaa with really exaggerated inflection and I hate it.

Mine signed "thank you" before their first birthdays [smug] so I could wait for a spoken "thank you" instead of "ta".

I don't mind ta in general, just as a stupid alternative to a perfectly normal word.

::goes to rtft::

[FunLovinBunster]

That's lovely, Donna.
It does not change my opinion on this issue.

[FootieOnTheTelly]

FunLovinBunster. Really? You actually think its ignorant to say 'ta'. That is very judgey pants of you.

[newyearhere]

It's a friendly and informal part of northern dialect. It doesn't stop people saying thank you in more formal settings.

[charitymum]

DawnDonnaAgain I am in POW most weeks and here ta and ya(h) everywhere! And a few choice other words too.

[FunLovinBunster]

It's very judgey pants of you to take umbrage at my opinion purely because it doesn't agree with what you think.

[charitymum]

Hear. Hear. FFS PhD and I can't spell!

[HoratiaDrelincourt]

re baby talk...

Using baby language such as exaggerated inflection, repetition, unusually high pitch and consonant reinforcement (doggy for dog, etc) aids language development.

Using bullshit made up words ("going bobos" for "sleeping") doesn't.

HTH

[SpecialAgentFreyPie]

This is an issue?

Can't be arsed, wanders off thread

[Grennie]

Be as snobby as you want, but baby talk helps speech development. Staff at a good nursery would know this.

www.hanen.org/Helpful-Info/Articles/Fact-or-Fiction--The-Top-10-Assumptions-about-Earl.aspx

[Grennie]

www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2535343/Hearing-baby-talk-helps-children-learn-words-quickly-It-effective-increasing-vocabulary-regular-speech.html

[Dawndonnaagain]

Charity haven't been up for years, thank the heavens! The language can be a little ripe, yah!

[breatheslowly]

I think the nursery that DD went to at that age had a policy of not saying "ta". Probably because the owner was rather posh. They used baby signs for please and thank you which worked really well.

I'd rather that my child wasn't taught "ta" or "pardon" but those are probably the only words I can think of that I have a preference for. Though she particularly enjoys saying "poo" at the moment, so perhaps my focus should be on that.

[melika]

We say 'Ta' in the midlands and I am not the slightest upset by it, it shows manners, that is the point. YABU.

[PrimalLass]

WTF is wrong with 'pardon'? In what context?

[newyearhere]

It's not "baby speak". In certain places where it's the dialect, adults will use "ta" at any informal time. It's warm and friendly. Obviously they wouldn't say "ta" at a job interview, or if the Queen paid them a compliment, they'd say "thank you"!

[notso]

It didn't occur to me to use it with DC but I don't say it so it wouldn't. They all managed a form of thank you pretty quickly.
I don't see the need to use words you don't normally use when speaking to a baby.
I don't like the way the accent of my area says the letter a it is a horrible hard nasal sound one of the only accents I have heard that made the name Grace sound awful.

[msmoss]

Primallass some people think the use of the word pardon is common

I can understand pedantry when it comes to spelling and grammar, particularly in a formal written context, but I'm just totally baffled by the application of class consciousness to words, particularly words that are being used to be polite. Communication is about more than the actual words that are used Ta and pardon are used by people with good manners, if you can't accept the sentiment behind these words and would rather just write off the person speaking as common then you clearly have no manners.

[CassCade]

I hate "ta"!! I think, if you feel like you do, then stick with 'thank you' at home but don't mention it to the nursery. And I don't agree that "thank you" is so hard to say that you shouldnt bother trying to teach it - a child's name is sometimes hard for the child to say but you're not going to simplify that into an easy one-syllable sound, are you?? All words are hard to say when a child is learning language - otherwise they'd sound like perfect mimics from day one! Anyway, I'm sure your child will be more likely to copy you, who she speaks to all the time than a nursery worker. :)

[rainraingoAWAYNEVERCOMEBACK]

I wouldn't complain but I am so with you op, I do not understand it, you do not usually shorten other words why shorten thank you....

Its horrid.

[rainraingoAWAYNEVERCOMEBACK]

I dont care if its common or what the Queen herself uses, I just dont like the sound of it!

[DownstairsMixUp]

Are you the woman at my nursery who complains EVERY single day to our manager about one of the keyworkers?

[Gatorade]

I don't know what I would do in this situation but I completely understand. Last year I decided not to employ a nanny who was perfectly acceptable and lovely but for the fact she kept saying 'ta' to my DD everytime she was handed something.

[scantilymad]

I don't particularly like 'ta' but isn't it good your daughter is being taught the concept of responding politely when someone hands her something? I wouldn't make it an issue as you may just alienate the staff. Then just work on it at home?

[YummyDollie]

Everyone round here says ta is it a yorkshire thing... i always say it to DD (9 months) but then i say it to adults to i.e hands me a drink "or ta for that" don't see the problem with it personally