AIBU to find humour on male rape uncomfortable?

[BabstheChicken]

Hi everyone,

First time posting, on a relatively random topic. I'm watching the film 'Horrible Bosses' and thought I'd canvas some opinions.

The film is fairly funny, but some of the humour makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. There is one man whose female boss sexually harasses him, and even goes as far as taking pictures of them in sexual positions together which she threatens to use to blackmail him. I'm just very aware that, if the genders were reversed, nobody would be laughing. Am I being over sensitive or is this an issue which society ought to address?

Oh and as it's the season cheer - Merry Christmas!

[TheDoctrineOfSanta]

Please replace have sexy with have sex above, thanks.

[Lazysuzanne]

Oh persay = per se

[Birdsgottafly]

Those that are saying that it wouldn't be considered funny, if the roles were reversed, haven't seen many films, Family Guy/Simpsons/American Dad, stand up comedians (the list is endless.

I like Adam Sandler, but most of his films have male on female harassment situations in them. White Chicks spring instantly to mind.

Watching Bag if Bones last night, with my DD's, the roar could if been more subtle.

Female tape makes good television.

[Birdsgottafly]

Then, of course is how the media report male rape as opposed to female.

I have just asked my 16 year old DD (lovely Xmas topic) but she has just named four, without much thought.

[Birdsgottafly]

Auto correct "the rape could if been more subtle".

[Bahhhhhumbug]

My DH works in the building trade and apparently jokes about male rape are rife and classed as acceptable because they are about men and are from men . It's almost as if because they are no longer alllowed to do the wolf whistling and make suggestive remarks about any passing females that this is now the last bastion and gone into overdrive. Things like 'If that plasterers not finished by tomo , l'm gonna bum him into next week' Any' builders bums ' on show always get remarked on in a sexual or suggestive way. Young male labourers are apparently subject to lots of innuendo and joke suggestions which they have to take in good humour to fit in etc.
I agree it is wrong but rather than being wiped out in these industries were it is rife and deep rooted it has just shifted and evolved to be aimed at men rather than women.
I feel sorry for any young lad starting in the trade who is maybe a wee bit shy or sensitive because his life probably could be made a misery and it would be bullying rather than banter to him.

[Bahhhhhumbug]

'...where it is rife..'

[Lazysuzanne]

Bahhh, machismo lives regardless of cultural shifts!

[Lazysuzanne]

Lives on*

[Lazysuzanne]

Thats why I rarely get more than 5 minutes into a film, always the same old crass stereotypes

[AnyFuckerForAMincePie]

All rape jokes are shit

That film is shit

Some of the other films quoted here are shit

I try with the "uproar" but it very often gets drowned out by the general response "you are humourless and must hate sex" so I give up (for a while anyway)

[TheDoctrineOfSanta]

[Andrewofgg]

MrsDeVere I wasn’t sure what you were drawing from the absurd “humourless bitches” reaction to complaints about rape jokes. I hope I did not get you wrong and if I did I apologise. I meant only that some men reacting like that does not make jokes about male rape any less unfunny. I don’t think we are disagreeing. In all honesty if I disagreed with you this is not the forum where I would say so.

[ShinyBauble]

Isn't the point that the genders are reversed, and it's a novelty?

Sexual harassment or sexual abuse of women is so bloody common as entertainment in films, but one example of a man being sexually harassed, and sadface threads must be started...

[lollerskates]

Yeah, sexual violence against men is obviously the number one massive issue in society today. Two women killed by their partners per week in the UK, nobody gives a fuck, and you want people to get up in arms about this. How about no.

[Andrewofgg]

MrsDeVere I don't think we are singing from different hymn sheets.

[GoshAnneGorilla]

I find so much supposed "humour" in those types of comedies to be utterly hateful. YANBU.

[BabstheChicken]

lollerskates Please don't twist what I've said to suit your agenda. I'm well aware of the figure you've quoted, thank you, but that doesn't make violence against/harassment of men any less of an issue. Less widespread, undoubtedly, but no less of a heinous act. Implying that violence against men should be ignored in favour of addressing violence against women doesn't achieve anything, other than creating an inequality between the sexes (and yes, I'm aware that women face more frequent instances of inequality, but an eye for eye makes the whole world blind and all that).

[lollerskates]

Babs please take your handmaiden agenda elsewhere.

[lollerskates]

Women cannot penetrate men.

[lollerskates]

Women cannot force the life changing and potentially lethal conditions of pregnancy and childbirth on men.

[lollerskates]

Women do not KILL men on a routine basis.

[lollerskates]

Do not insult women with the grossly inaccurate claim that female to male violence is a problem that is in any way comparable with the endemic levels of male on female violence that our culture is saturated in.