to think this "friend" is a massive wankbadger?

[Objection]

I moved in with a friend temporarily whilst our (OP and myself) house is completing. OP is living with his DPs (no room for me).
It was originally going to be for about 6 months whilst we bought and renovated but my "friend" turned out to be a demon from hell (disgusting messy, loud, strangers over in the middle of the night, screamed at me at the slightest inclination etc) that I had to leave. So I lied (I know I know) and after a few weeks of trying to sort it out/put up with it I told her that things had changed with the house and now OP and I needed to move in. I felt this was a better reason for "you're a complete psycho and I can't put up with this any more".

I gave her 4 weeks notice (ending on Dec 2nd, when the house should be ours). After screaming, storming off and generally having a paddy we sorted it out and that was fine.

She spent a week or so looking for a replacement housemate and found one she loved who said yes. Great.

But yesterday evening she comes into my room demanding to know when my house will be sorted. I told her about the call to the soliciters I'd made that day and said that I'd let her know as soon as I knew but I'd be out by the 2nd.

"Well, you have to be out by this weekend."

"Sorry?"

"My new housemate starts her job on Monday."

"Right. But I can't move out until I have a house to move to."

"That's not my problem. You screwed me over about the six months so I don't see why I should be loyal to you for the 4 weeks notice. We had nothing in writing, you have no legal standing. You don't exist."

To cut a long story short, after calling my family psychopaths (because I'd confided in my grandmothers mental illness the night before) she threw me out. It was 9pm at night, freezing cold.

Now I'm living out of my car and sleeping on my mother's sofa - over an hour away from where I work.

AIBU to rant and to think she is a nasty piece of ?


(On a different note, I'm concerned that my computer didn't recognise the word "badger" but had no issue with "wankbadger" )

[havingastress]

It's not for landlord to dictate who tenant has living with her.

No, but the landlord has the absolute right to know who that person is, and do background checks on them! So actually, the landlord does get to say who lives in their house!

If the tenant has picked a flatmate unbeknown to her landlord, and is then charging her, then that is subletting - and is against tenancy agreements.

[ConfusedPixie]

caitlin~ RE this: If a family member had moved in and also helped out would that have to be declared ? No.

Yes you do have to declare that to your landlord. My sister wanted me to move in with her and when she inquired they said no.

[munchkinmaster]

My last lease specified no guests present for more than 31 days wand no subletting.

Years ago when travelling me and my pal rented a flat (then moved in our 6 mates to share the rent). Clearly such lodgers are in violation of any tenancy arrangement!

[Caitlin17]

The landlords might have said ,"no" but they and your relatives are confusing what is meant by tenant, sub-letting, parting with possession and other terms relating to the occupancy of a rented house and the creation of enforceable rights and the right to a family life. None of these relatives have any rights as against the landlord if he wants to end the lease.

It wasn't that long ago leases only ran in the husband's name only

[AchyFox]

A rather interesting "friend" you have.

Do you think she's on drugs ?

Just goes to show you never know what's happening behind closed doors.

[ophelia275]

I would still report her to HMRC/letting agents/landlord anyway. If she is not doing anything wrong, then she won't have anything to worry about will she.

[bochead]

I'd just walk away. An awful chapter is over. Heave a sigh of relief and enjoy spending a bit of time with your family.

The woman clearly has major problems, (whereas you are just a few months off your first home of your own with a wonderful partner). Karma will catch up with her in due course and won't need your assistance with a lifestyle like the one you are describing.

I can't see the point in making spiteful reports to the authorities, or prawns etc about someone so pitiful. A life well lived is usually the best revenge in all but the most extreme circumstances.

[Objection]

A life well lived is usually the best revenge in all but the most extreme circumstances This is the exact approach I've decided to take. At the end of the day she is 38, single, renting an awful worse-than-student-accomadation house, with no money and no wherewithal to do anything about any of this and clearly hating the situation she's in. (I say that as I have no problem with the above its that's what the person is happy with)

I actually, when I'm not angry, I feel a bit sorry for her really.

I think if I took "revenge" it would end up making me feel worse and probably come back on me at some point anyway!

So no prawns i'll can amuse myself with the thought though! And of course rant on Mumsnet!