Im 29. I'm desperate for a baby.
I'm married to a lovely, kind, hardworking man who I love dearly but who is a perfectionist. He loves kids and will be a great dad, but wants us to save some money and buy a bigger house before we have a family.
My husband is 32. We've been married for three years, together for 6. We own a lovely 3 bed house and he earns 100k+ a year.
I'm a freelancer earning a decent amount, but he'd like me to have a more stable career before we have kids. he wants to wait for another 18months/ 2 years.
I think this is all total rubbish.
We had a pregnancy 'scare' a few months ago and he was thrilled. We were both disappointed when my
period arrived.
Would I, in any way, be doing him a favour by taking the decision out of his hands or is it evil and dishonest to even consider it? If it 'just happened' he wouldn't have to worry about whether we were making the right decision at the right time....
Any help appreciated!
AIBU?
'man trapping'.....hear me out
Babiesonthebrain · 25/09/2013 14:21
oh, you'll want me to read the thread, too, now. got to remember, i just don't do that. 
you don't have to ask us. you know what to do. keep your mouth tight closed about it, but be very open with everything else. 
give him a christmas to remember. enjoy.
My husband and I talked. We're expecting a baby next summer
There was more than 'talking' going on there
Congratulations.
100 K salary?? Wants to wait until you are more secure (whatever that means)!!!! 
I think he doesn't want a baby and is making excuses. DH and I are not well off financially at all and we have 2 DC ande would like a third (or even a fourth if I am not too old and am crazy enugh). I think you need to talk to him, not trap him but he needs to be honest with you about whether he wants kids or not. Not fair to keep putting it off and making excuses.
Congratulations Babiesonthebrain, that's wonderful news!! 
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I wish people would RTFT!
xxAhhh, I may have just "got something in my eye".
Many congrats OP and 
for cheering me up.
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