to have told my work colleague that she isn't being healthy?

[KatyPurrey]

My work colleague is going away for a weekend to Bristol for some music event. She made a big thing about how this week she is going to be really healthy in next for week.

She then gets out a massive salad drenched in sauce.

Was I unreasonable to point out that this is actually not very healthy and contains a lot of calories??

[JohFlow]

Maybe she is doing it in stages - mini steps = success.

I am not sure why you felt you had to comment ; she asked you to comment specifically?

I think I would be de-motivated by your comments rather than feeling that I was moving in the right direction.

Surely she is allowed to enjoy what she has brought in without feeling judged.

[JockTamsonsBairns]

She took a photo of her lunch to post on Instagram? Goodness, is this what passes for interesting nowadays?
Are you both on work experience days?

[Itstartshere]

I love how low carbing is taking over the world Mumsnet.
Waves to other low carbers.
Tucks into giant salad with mackerel and olive oil.

[captainmummy]

So snazzy - colleague talked about how healthily she was going to be on her weekend to a festival, and then brought out an entirely healthy salad with mayo/dressing/sauce. The OP then showed her ignorance of nutrition commented on it being 'unhealthy' and 'full of fat'?
The OP was definitely BU to comment at all, let alone on a healthy lunch. ANd then to come on here to broadcast it a bit more, about how unhealthy it was, is smuggery of the nth degree.
But I think the OP now knows this.

[Snazzyenjoyingsummer]

Right, the key thing here for me is that the office person started this conversation about virtuous eating. The OP didn't just launch into criticism of her lunch. It was a response to a line of conversation - and one that can get pretty tedious. So yes she WBU if she'd just told the colleague apropos of nothing that her lunch didn't look healthy. But she is not BU for me because, 'she started it'. Don't witter on about your lunch if you're not prepared to handle any comments you might get in reply, I say.

[CairngormsClydesdale]

Oh dear. How embarrassing for you to discover as an adult (via this thread) that you have so many misconceptions about food and don't actually know what "healthy" is. :(

[TartanRug]

There are few things that bug me more than people commenting on what I'm eating.

[lavenderhoney]

It doesn't really matter what she had, its just you felt the need to comment on it out loud! I hope she just ignored you and munched away. How rude, op, are you going to apologise?

I think you are more annoyed by the endless talk of her going partying than a bit of dressed lettuce.

Can't you all go out for lunch? Give each other some space?

[GoshAnneGorilla]

I detest all and any diet talk. I wish my ears had an automatic shut off so I wouldn't be subjected to it. Eat it, don't it, shut up about it, goes for adults as well as children IMHO.

YABU

[ephemeralfairy]

Sounds to me like salad lady was humble bragging!!
Agree about the low carb weight loss thing though. And I guess the OP's comment was a bit blunt and uncalled for.

[loopylou6]

mind your own business is what I'd recommend.

[nonmifairidere]

Sorry, punctuation fail - colleagues'.

[nonmifairidere]

You were not the least bit unreasonable and you should definitely monitor all your colleagues food choices. You should invite yourself 'round to their homes to do a 'fridge and store cupboard audit and publish the graded and annotated results so they can get the full benefit of your nutritional guidance.

[DuckToWater]

And anyway I disagree with the OP that a salad coveredin dressing is "unhealthy". Say it was caesar dressing, this has a lot of fat, but fat fills you up and is an essential part of a healthy diet. Don't make the mistake that all fat is unhealthy.

[DuckToWater]

No such thing as healthy/unhealthy food, it's the overall diet that matters.

[redexpat]

I posted about a year ago about unwanted comments on the contents of my lunchbox. I never talk about food in terms of what's healthy and what's not because I think it's really boring. If it's an ooh what's that you've got? How do you make it? type conversation then that's ok.

But I find people who go on and on about diets and healthy food incredibly tedious and I admire you for calling her on it, but as others have said, you don't know for sure what it was. So you are both NBU and BU.

I'm now going to remove the splinters from my arse.

[candycoatedwaterdrops]

I eat salad every day for lunch - loads of different veg, tuna, chicken, egg, whatever with a fair amount of low fat dressing. Ok so it isn't the healthiest ever because of the crap in the dressing but it's a huge change to eating sandwiches of white bread, butter and cheese every day. If I'd made a throwaway comment at work and later, you'd said that about my salad, I'd have flicked a pickled onion at you.

[Ladysamantha]

What was in the dressing OP?
Yabu.
That is the end of that!

[mrsjay]

A healthy diet is one that has the right amount of nutrients, vitamins and minerals in it.

that really, many women suffer bone damage from dieting as their nutrition is lacking

[Belchica]

OP you sounded smug. And for that, YABU.

[Fakebook]

My biggest pet hate when working was my colleagues looking at the contents of my lunch and counting up the calories and telling me I shouldn't buy my lunch from the supermarket and I should make it at home because its healthier. I told them to fuck off (in a nice way). I hope your colleague did the same.

[MotherofBear]

Seriously, people need to stop getting 'healthy' mixed up with 'free of fat/calories'.
We need fat, carbs, protein, fibre and various other nutrients to be healthy. It's the amount of each that matters. So, she could have a salad with dressing every single day and still be healthy, depending on what else she is eating.
She could have salad with no dressing for breakfast, lunch and dinner every single day and that would not be healthy - quite the opposite in fact, as salad alone doesn't have enough nutrients in it.
A healthy diet is one that has the right amount of nutrients, vitamins and minerals in it.

[Birdsgottafly]

I eat Malaysian and similar food a lot, as I am vegan.

What "we" call dressing is called sauce in their cooking and can be used as a dipping sauce or poured over food.

So a stuff on a salad or veg can be a sauce, gravy or dressing, depending on the origin and how pedantic you are.

I am finding that I have to add dressings etc to get close to eating 1200 a day and I don't always make the fat and carb quota on My Fitness Pal, luckily it leaves room for alcohol, if you eat "fresh".

I like my cocktails by the pitcher, so I plan ahead and have a lean couple if weeks.

YABU.

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

was the "sauce" made from cocaine? or vodka? or chocolate?

If not, you are being so obviously unreasonable that I cannot believe you do not know that already.