Could be along one but hang on in there need some constructive advice not just LTB!
I have been with DP for 3 years, we have a 6 month LO.
Just had a row (him at the bottom of stairs me at the top) because I didn't bring him his sausage butty in to the front room while he was sat on his fat arse,he did have LO on his knee though.
Firstly we usually get on great and hardly ever argue He is quite passive. He would give me his last penny. we love each other a lot.
BUT I cant cope with his laziness, its always been an issue and its what we argue about if we do.
Ive always done 99% of the house work, I don't know if it's because I lived on my own for suck a long time, I just get on with things when they need doing or Im mothering him and why the fuck should I /why do that? The other 1% is when I remind him to wash his plate.
So before I had LO I worked full time but came home before DP and did chores and did evening meal, which would be ready for when DP got in. The odd occasion he did cook, he would completely fuck the kitchen up so in the end I just said don't bother.
When I had LO nothing changed, id had EC and lost a lot of blood, I really struggled. DP skipped of to fucking work every day, its something i still throw at him while I was doing fairy steps trying to breast feed LO with bleeding nipples, no sleep and clean the house I cant sit in mess, so I don't know if im being anal
fast forward to 6 months on still nothings changed, probably got worse actually. As DP is now paying all the bills Im sure it gives him even more right to think he is the king of the fucking manor. LO is in bed by the time he gets back so he literally sees her for 1 hour before he goes work in the morning.
I bring her in for cuddle in bed. I normally deal with her during the night as he wakes her up more bumbling about. Then I will get up to get her breakfast as I pass the landing he will shout "can u run the bath..." so I did then as I go down stairs he will shout " can u just iron my shirt" .. which I have started to refuse to do.
If he makes a drink, he will leave cupboard door open, juice bottle on side, empty glass then fucking walk away from it!
When we have tea at night, he will leave his empty plate next to him and sit the all night not moving, waiting for me to walk past to take it in or when I get up ask me to 'just make him a drink, or pass him a towel when in the bath, once or twice I don't mind but its EVERY time.
He will come in from work and unchanged on the spot, put his foot ball kit on and walk out leaving a pile of clothes there like he has just vanished.
When he comes home, when I try to talk to him about something he is that absorbed with sky sports he cant take his fucking eyes off telly to acknowledge what ive said, I did actually talk to his the other night about the ignorance and he apologised.
All I do is nag now, I hate it. He called me a stupid idiot this morning, I called him a lazy cunt, he stormed out to work. All because I didn't bring his butty in and hand it to him. I actually forgot to, baby was crying as she was tired as LO has not slept well so neither did I I was just more concerned with thinking that I would have to take LO off DP as he cant settle LO and eat my sarnie with her on my knee, pulling my hair and putting her fingers in my mouth and hoping the caffine in my coffee would kick in sharpish.
Im so fed up, ive had a cry. I know he is taking the piss big time, and if he cant see that he is bang out of order then we have massive problems. He does NOTHING. I am the cleaning fairy,the food fairy, the washing fairy,cleaning fairy ect...
I'm not his mum, waitress,maid! His dad is the fucking same.
I have talked to him over this before and he always says sorry he knows he should do more but nothing ever changes. I have to 'ask' him to help with LO too. I could punch him in the throat.
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gettingrightfuckedoff · 21/09/2013 10:55
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