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Original poster

Would you report SIL who is driving 2 weeks after c-section?

165 replies

mrbloomrocks · 06/09/2013 20:26

She has not been signed off to drive by the GP, she reckons it was more strain on her scar to walk everywhere Confused. That's not the point though is it? Her insurance wouldn't be valid, if she has an accident she could tear her stitches?

Who would I report it to anyway? The local police?

OP posts:
StephenFrySaidSo · 06/09/2013 21:21

i'd say cleaning the whole house would cause her far more difficulty after a section than driving tbh!

NoelHeadbands · 06/09/2013 21:21

So what was the general consensus do we think?

Could someone tot up the votes and see whether we thought OP was being U or not U?

slurredlines · 06/09/2013 21:23

"She is very independent, took out her own catheter in hospital, discharged herself & was home the next day cleaning her whole house top to bottom, ironing etc"

Leave her alone.

Rufus43 · 06/09/2013 21:23

madamecastefiore Grin

caramelwaffle · 06/09/2013 21:23

Perhaps she (and you) are getting confused with the rule that women MUST take two weeks off work (plus more if working in certain workplaces/industries) after giving birth...?

Original poster
mrbloomrocks · 06/09/2013 21:23

Ha ! I think I was definitely BVVU! I love MN, tells it like it is.

OP posts:
caramelwaffle · 06/09/2013 21:25

Heck - I'm on the Wisteria Lane white picket fence

Bowlersarm · 06/09/2013 21:25

Naughty, naughty OP

DontmindifIdo · 06/09/2013 21:26

OP - tell her to call her insurance company! Some do insist on a letter from a medical professional (either GP or midwife) but most don't, but expect to be told. I spoke ot my midwife at day 13 post C-section, who said in her opinion I was fine to drive. I called my insurance company, htey said as long as I was sure it was ok, it was fine, and they didn't need any proof of this, but they did put a note on my file and i think if I'd had an accident and not told them it could be a problem.

DontmindifIdo · 06/09/2013 21:27

Oh and BTW - no one ever told me I couldn't drive! Not the consultant, not the hospital staff, not the midwives, it only came up when I asked about it. If you didn't know there was some mythical 6 week not driving rule, you'd but unlikely to know...

HoopersGinger · 06/09/2013 21:30

You sound like a very public spirited member of the community OP. Tell your sis in law about your current dilemma and then plan a visit where she drives around a quiet street and you dive unexpectedly from behind a hedge into the road. She can test her responses and if her scar splits when she has mown you down you can, at least, have the last laugh.

50shadesofmeh · 06/09/2013 21:31

It's not illegal it could just invalidate her own insurance , I drove 3 weeks after my c section and cleared it with my doctor and Insurance. You have issues OP

eatriskier · 06/09/2013 21:32

For the first time knowingly, I haven't RTFT (flame me if needs be, I probably deserve it). But in my case my GP was very insistent both times I could not drive until 6 weeks after. Which I took rather nonchalantly as I can't drive anyway. I found it odd as some friends who could drive found their GPs saying it was ok before the 6 weeks.

But YABU from what I gather from medical professionals and drivers

NoelHeadbands · 06/09/2013 21:34

Grin @ Hoopers

Calloh · 06/09/2013 21:39

I love Madamecastefiore's advice. It should be printed on speech bubbles and stuck all over the place.

OP you took that impressively well!

mirry2 · 06/09/2013 21:42

I'm not sure I understand how a scar can split from driving. It's a horizontal cut, very low down and just above the pubic bone (well, mine is) not a vertical one.

OTTMummA · 06/09/2013 21:56

How did she take her own catheter out? They have a little bubble filled with fluid to anchor it in up there which has to be emptied out by syringe before it comes out.
I should know I nearly tore my urethra trying to do it before!

Pachacuti · 06/09/2013 22:03

It's right where the lap bit of the seatbelt sits, mirry, so in an emergency stop situation you'd have a lot of force applied directly on the scar. I doubt it would split entirely open but wouldn't be surprised if that caused some problems.

Flatasawitchestit · 06/09/2013 22:08

I was driving after 12 days as I had no choice, baby being transferred to another hospital and they wouldn't let me travel with her.

Why you would report anyone let alone family is beyond me.

Ezza1 · 06/09/2013 22:26

Oh, I read it that she took her own catheter to hospital. Taking one out would make more sense... Blush

Anyway OP - who was it you were thinking of reporting her to?

MajesticWhine · 06/09/2013 22:30

I don't think it's necessarily because the scar might split, I think it's incase you don't slam on the brakes in an emergency, because your scar feels sore, and you don't want to hurt it.
But no of course I wouldn't report.

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 06/09/2013 22:31

Oh do fuck off.

Lovecat · 06/09/2013 22:32

Damn it all to hell! I was all set to respond on page 2 and then I got distracted and the OP came back all reasonable like. :(

I was soooo wanting to post

Bitch, are you on glue???

:o

eatriskier · 06/09/2013 22:36

pachacuti I really need you to stop posting on anything, everytime I see you all I can do for the rest of the day is sing 'do the pachacuti'. Its driving my family nuts Grin

lovecat I am disappointed that comment wasn't made early on too

wigglesrock · 06/09/2013 22:40

You should check with your insurer, but there is no law against driving if your insurance policy doesn't cover you. You are obviously financially liable but if you have an insurance policy in place in the first place it's not against the law. I'm sorry I've made that very "wordy" but I hope you know what I mean Smile

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