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AIBU?

Would you report SIL who is driving 2 weeks after c-section?

165 replies

mrbloomrocks · 06/09/2013 20:26

She has not been signed off to drive by the GP, she reckons it was more strain on her scar to walk everywhere . That's not the point though is it? Her insurance wouldn't be valid, if she has an accident she could tear her stitches?

Who would I report it to anyway? The local police?

OP posts:

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Methe · 06/09/2013 21:05

I was driving 10 days after my section fully signed off by my gp ( who had a cursory glance at my incision site) and with my insurers aware.

I had a baby in NICU. I needed to drive.

If someone had reported me I'd have thought the an absolute cunt and it would have been the last thing I had to do with them.

StephenFrySaidSo · 06/09/2013 21:06

i'm guessing this was a wind 'em up an watch 'em go one seeing as OP hasn't returned.

MakeHayIsAWhaleNow · 06/09/2013 21:06

Yes, yabvu - it's a myth that you are not covered for 6 weeks. They have no issue at all (according to two lots of insurers that I have called post cs to clarify). As pps have said, as long as you are ok to lift both feet off the floor to do an emergency stop (not an issue for me as I had an automatic at the time) then you are safe.

Good for her for getting out and about. Reporting her would be very wrong.

mirry2 · 06/09/2013 21:06

I didn't know I had to get clearance from your GP or my insurance company. I was told it was better not to drive, not that it was forbidden, and nobody said it was incase I split op my scar. I thought it was because I'd had a major operation and might become a bit woosey

FeelingWeirdNow · 06/09/2013 21:07

Keep your beak out.

You sound like you just want to cause trouble.

What is your agenda??

dementedma · 06/09/2013 21:07

Sheesh.'I had 3 cs and never ocurred to me to ask either gp or insurance if I could drive. I just did, as soon as I possibly could.
Its really no big deal

MakeHayIsAWhaleNow · 06/09/2013 21:07

stephenfry I'd say you might have a point there....

Snazzyenjoyingsummer · 06/09/2013 21:07

I dutifully waited 6 weeks and then rang my insurance company to get the all clear, who were bemused and said it was up to me and I would have been fine to drive earlier if I felt OK and hadn't been told not to by a doctor. They really don't care and there is no blanket 6-week ban.

marriedinwhiteisback · 06/09/2013 21:08

Unanimous thread. Uncorks champagne.

OP 20 odd years ago I had my throat cut from side to side for a serious operation. I was back in the car after two weeks and probably more cautious in buisy. Places like Hammersmith roundabout!

A couple of years ago after hhobbling (and driving) on a fractured ankle for four weeks when I eventually went to a and e and the nurse gave me crutches pending an emergency apt with the consultant the following morning I asked if I could drive. She said if she gave me the crutches and the box was ticked that she had and if the insurers checked my insurance was invalid. So, OP, I said "and if I've a pair of crutches at home and promise to use them?". And she said "then I don't tick the box"

FFS OP - get a life or three - not sure whether to laugh or cry.

Madamecastafiore · 06/09/2013 21:08

In this sort of situation you should always think What would someone who wasn't a complete cunt do?

ScariestFairyByFar · 06/09/2013 21:08

I was told not to drive till I felt happy to do an emergency stop if I'd gone by that I'd have driven home from hospital! I waited 2 weeks.

Capitola · 06/09/2013 21:10

Seriously OP? What is your agenda?

I suspect this is a wind up...

caramelwaffle · 06/09/2013 21:10

Out of interest:

What is the law regarding this in England/Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland?

Also ROI?

HarryStottle · 06/09/2013 21:11

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Akray · 06/09/2013 21:11

YABVU

I drove 5 days after c~section ~ DH is self~ employed and could not afford not to work and we have no family to help out ~ it was the only way I could get other DC to school and back.

I felt silly for calling doc and insurance ~ they were completely uninterested.

No one would get in a car with DC, especially a new~born if you thought you were at risk.

VivaLeBeaver · 06/09/2013 21:13

I've never done an emergency stop but I can't believe if I did that I'd use my uterus to aid the stop in any way. Men seem to manage emergency stops without a uterus perfectly well.

The only other stuff that's cut is skin and fat....again neither of those will help that much in performing an emergency stop.

Obv if you're so tender you're totally hobbling about then it may be a struggle. But ime most women walk out the p/n ward on day 2 without hobbling.

slurredlines · 06/09/2013 21:14

"She has not been signed off to drive by the GP"

When I asked my GP whether I could drive again after my c-section she knew not the fuck what I was talking about. She referred me to my midwife, who (along with an obstetrician from the hospital) had sought advice about this and they confirmed that it was nothing whatsoever to do with them and that people should check with their own insurers.

I checked with my insurers and they were as bemused as the GP.

I drove 3 weeks after my c-section and was fine.

Incidentally, I've also had a forceps delivery and driving was far more of a challenge after that than the c-section.

I REALLY want to know who you were going to 'report' your SIL to, though. Who????

As an aside, I've noticed that this is an urban myth rolled out by the judgey mcjudge anti c-section brigade as a (made up) reason as to why vaginal birth is better than c section.

OP, may I just offer you a great big...

....PARP.

CoffeeTea103 · 06/09/2013 21:14

You are one nasty person. She is family and just had a baby!!

mrbloomrocks · 06/09/2013 21:15

I'm here, not posting & running. Well I'm glad I asked as I actually was under the impression that there was this 6 week rule and that she was therefore doing something wrong. I've spoken to her about it and she's also under the impression that she's not supposed to be doing it! So I can now tell her that as long as she feels fine she can go ahead & not worry about it. Maybe it was an old ruling that you had to tell your insurers and it's no longer the case? Her scar has flared up a bit actually but I suppose that could have been from all the walking around.

She is very independent, took out her own catheter in hospital, discharged herself & was home the next day cleaning her whole house top to bottom, ironing etc. I thought she should be taking it a bit easier and was worried that the driving was the icing on the cake & that informing someone might be the only way to stop her from causing herself any more harm. But I now realise that was stupid.

And the AIBU crowd didn't disappoint!

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ExitPursuedByADragon · 06/09/2013 21:18

Go girl

mirry2 · 06/09/2013 21:18

mrbloomrocks you've taken it all very well. good on you.

BrianTheMole · 06/09/2013 21:19

Why would you do that? Don't you like your sil? And your brother? Don't they like you? Actually you don't need to answer that, I'm sure they already sense your animosity towards them. Why do you think she's not allowed to drive?

StephenFrySaidSo · 06/09/2013 21:20

" So I can now tell her that as long as she feels fine she can go ahead & not worry about it."

oh she asked your permission did she?

BrianTheMole · 06/09/2013 21:20

Ha! Just seen your post. Well done op for taking it on the chin.

LookingForwardToSalmon · 06/09/2013 21:21

Nah

I did it, just rand the insurance company up and they basically said 'we don't give a fuck, just don't crash'

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