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AIBU?

Would you report SIL who is driving 2 weeks after c-section?

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mrbloomrocks · 06/09/2013 20:26

She has not been signed off to drive by the GP, she reckons it was more strain on her scar to walk everywhere . That's not the point though is it? Her insurance wouldn't be valid, if she has an accident she could tear her stitches?

Who would I report it to anyway? The local police?

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phantomnamechanger · 06/09/2013 20:36

MIL has just had some abdominal surgery and was told the driving ban was not only about the risk of straining yourself, making things worse in an accident, or delaying your recovery, but also because it takes a very long time for the GA to wear off completely - but 6 weeks ?
The hospital told her to check with her insurers and they said to wait till she had had her signing off/discharge appointment - it was 6 weeks in her case.

WillowB · 06/09/2013 20:36

YABU

I was driving 2 weeks after section. Insurance company were fine with it. This 6 weeks stuff is a myth based around the old 6 week check stuff. My doctors don't even offer a 6 week check for the mum!

I think you should mind your own business really

FoxyRevenger · 06/09/2013 20:37

Wow, what a nightmare of a sister in law you must be!

phantomnamechanger · 06/09/2013 20:37

calloh I think its also about the twisting about your middle to reverse etc

mykingdomforasleep · 06/09/2013 20:37

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phantomnamechanger · 06/09/2013 20:38

calloh I think its also about the twisting about your middle to reverse etc

SuperiorCat · 06/09/2013 20:38

Like Two I drove after 2 weeks to be able to get to my DD who was in hospital.

I checked with the insurance company who said fine unless medically advised against.

The guidelines are to stop the scar opening if you have to do an emergency stop.

RescueCack · 06/09/2013 20:39

YABU. It's an urban myth. All insurance policies have a clause that states you aren't covered if you know that you can't emergency stop for any reason. Surgery would be a good reason not to pay out if they could prove that you were

involved in an accident
2)because you couldn't emergency stop
3)due to pain from surgery.

I could equally not be covered in an accident because I had an ingrown toe nail that made me tentative on the brakes. We all have a responsibility every time we get in the car.

I believe that if you have a sneezing fit and it results in an accident you are expected to have pulled over after the 2nd sneeze. Otherwise you can be prosecuted for dangerous driving - a lot worse than not being insured! But really, who would??

There's no law about c-sections, no need for GP to sign you off, no criminality. But please, report her. They'll probably want to know...

NatashaBee · 06/09/2013 20:40

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MrsTerryPratchett · 06/09/2013 20:40

My MW said that as long as I could thump my foot down on the floor (i.e. emergency stop) I was good to go.

MYOFB.

BeetleBugBaby · 06/09/2013 20:41

I seriously think you should consider minding your own business, and considering the reason why you would want to report your SIL for doing sod all wrong.

YABU and you know it.

candycoatedwaterdrops · 06/09/2013 20:41

The 6 weeks 'no 'post C-section and any other major abdominal surgery are guidelines. Also, you sound very spiteful!

phantomnamechanger · 06/09/2013 20:41

that comment about sneezing is daft - who's going to know how mnay times you sneezed? unless you are a coach driver or something.

Onebuddhaisnotenough · 06/09/2013 20:42

Get yourself a hobby OP.

Or a grip

Sianilaa · 06/09/2013 20:42

YABVVU.

I rang my insurance after my second section and they couldn't have cared less, said it was up to me when I felt up to it and I didn't need to be signed off. I recovered really well and was driving within 10 days post-section with no problems and no pain.

UterusUterusGhali · 06/09/2013 20:42

I shagged my husband 4 weeks after a vaginal delivery.

Would I get reported to the Parent Police?

MissStrawberry · 06/09/2013 20:43

I doubt it is against the law.

When I had my emcs in 2001 I rang the GP to ask when I could drive and was told to ring insurers. I rang the insurers and they said it was up to me. They won't commit.

I drove at 5 weeks 5 days and ime it was harder lifting the pram in than the actual driving though I took it very steady and didn't rush to drive again.

NoelHeadbands · 06/09/2013 20:43

If course I would report it!

If you check out your local police force website there's usually a special number to ring and report. It's usually near the section for reporting Welshmen who've crossed the town boundary carrying a bow and arrow and the man who walked sheep down the city road on a Tuesday night.

Neitheronethingortheother · 06/09/2013 20:43

Do people really do things like that? And would you tell her you had reported her or would you just be two faced about it and chat away to her the next time you met up with her. As another poster said if would you not offer to drive her or do her shopping so she wouldnt need to drive?

olivo · 06/09/2013 20:47

Sorry, no time to read the rest of the thread but absolutely not. I was driving after 2 weeks, my dr said she trusted me to know, my insurance co were happy with that. It is an absolute myth that you have to wait six weeks, it really depends on your insurance co.

Fairylea · 06/09/2013 20:47

Yabu.

You don't need to tell anyone or have be signed off by anyone! If she feels safe enough to drive I'm sure she's probably fine. Lots of people feel completely back to normal after 2 weeks.

I nearly died during my c section and lost 3 litres of blood and had 3 transfusions and a drain in the wound so it took me 6 weeks to get back to driving safely but I was an extreme case!

Calloh · 06/09/2013 20:47

Phantom that's true - twisting may put more strain on it, but surely its mainly the neck or you move your shoulders and hips and not pull the abdomen?

it always seems to be about concern that women would avoid braking hard to open scar.

Either way I find it very frustrating and have had it reiterated by midwives. To me it isolates women at a tough time, adds further ludicrous feelings of incompetence and helplessness to those who had a c-s and doesn't seem to have much grounding in medicine.

MissPlumBroughtALadder · 06/09/2013 20:47

What the hell is wrong with you? In whose interests would it be to 'report' her? I'm not sure to whom you would report her anyway, as there is no law or ban or whatever you appear to believe she is driving in contravention of.
I was driving less than three weeks after a section. No discomfort at all. It was far easier on me than pushing the pram.

candycoatedwaterdrops · 06/09/2013 20:47

If I found out a relative was driving 2 weeks after major surgery and with a newborn, I'd be shocked.....and offer to drive and get them something, not report them!

Bugsylugs · 06/09/2013 20:48

I guess you have read DVLA guidelines which are that you can drive again when medically signed off and have informed your insurance. So to those saying nil to do with a Dr are a bit wrong.
Maybe give her some support offer to drive etc as I am sure she is tired

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