Bad news

[123bucklemyshoe]

My sis rang tonight to let me know my mum has died. I had got closer to my DM in the last few years & I feel sad. Although she was quite elderly we thought she would go on & on...

We are on holiday about 2 hrs from home. Sis says don't come home - nothing can be done at mo & she is right and my other sisters are there & can help. Need to tell dcs, although part of me doesn't want to & stay in the bubble ofour holiday. Just celebrated ds's birthday. We are due back on Friday & Dd goes away with friends that eve. I know I have to tell them - give my Dd the choice about going away (dd is 11, ds is 7) & make it feel real for me ....

DH being lovely & happy to go home if I want to....

Not sure I need advice/opinion -has made it feel more real posting

[123bucklemyshoe]

Probably going to be some kind of formalities according to sis - so don't know yet. Not likely to be this week. Dd due to be away next week so need to talk to her about this.

[ShadowsCollideWithPeople]

Sorry, I missed the bit about your DD being away next week. Do talk to your DD and DS, but give yourself a chance to breathe and gather your thoughts. And look after yourself. This is bound to be a tough time for you, so please be kind to yourself.

[Monty27]

84! Bless her :)

Banana and parsnip cake indeed.

You'll have to bake one.

Where are you? Do you need any support?

[123bucklemyshoe]

Thanks Monty - will have lots of support when home - 4 sis & a bro. Feel a bit disconnected...

Maybe we should have a feast in her honour...tinned salmon mousse pie, white dinner (steamed fish, parsley sauce, mashed spuds, cauli)...

[123bucklemyshoe]

Need to sleep - thankyou for support.

[jumpingpillows]

sorry to hear about your Mum x

[SueDoku]

So sorry to hear about your Mum 123. Happened to us with both my DM and DMIL - both died very suddenly...

Whatever you decide to do today, be gentle with yourself - and let your DC help you come to terms with things, as they will want to talk about Granny. Your DH sounds lovely - let him take over a bit and allow yourself to start the grieving process.

All the very best for the next few weeks

[OliviaIsOffTheGinMumsnet]

Hello OP
So sorry to read this - do let us know if you'd like us to move this out of AIBU wont you?
Kindest

[Tiredtrout]

So sorry for the loss of your mum

[gordyslovesheep]

I'm so sorry for you loss x didn't want to read and run x look after yourselves xxx

[123bucklemyshoe]

Thank you mumsnet. It was originally an AIBU in my mind - re holiday etc.

To everyone we have told dcs - they are ok. Been an odd day - thank you for your support last night.

[MissMarplesBloomers]

Hope you've all had some cuddles off each other.

Take care.

[BewitchedBotheredandBewildered]

Well done you.

Very thoughtful of you to update, thank you.

Very best of luck with everything.