You shouldn't feel embarrassed by your home, unless it is filthy.
I have 2 good friends from DD's school. One is someones who I would call posh, biggish house on a naice street, just 1 DD same age as mine. The other I would call lovely but a bit frazzled. She has 3 DC from 3 to 9, she and hubby both work, her 3 full days, him 6. Live in a house that is across road from where I grew up.
Posh friend (who is very, very lovely) was always inviting us in for coffee's/parties etc etc. Frazzled friend always said 'I'd love to have you all around but house a mess, having building work done, etc etc and would feel embarrassed.' I've always said 'just call in, house might be trashed if you come when I've been busy but call on a good day and you might get a piece of cake'
Both been in my home several times. Sometimes tidy, sometimes it looks like we have had a 'bad day'.
Eventually frazzled friend invited me in one day whilst I was collecting DD. Apologised for mess before I got over step. House was immaculatly clean, though untidy as you would expect with 3 DC. Told her as much and that she had been silly.
Went round to posh friends house for her DD's birthday party. Dear lord the filth pmsl. Dust bunnies 3 inch thick everywhere, couldn't see the side's in the kitchen for clutter, filthy floors, dirty washing waiting in a huge pile on kitchen floor and this is when she is expecting 6 mums to be dropping off/collecting DD's pmsl.
Me and frazzled friend walked home in silence. Frazzled friend got to her front door (her house is before mine) and said in a small voice ' house wasn't what I was expecting, was it you?' 'No' I said. 'Bit too lived in I think'. 'Do you want a coffee?' she asked? 'House might be a bit untidy but.......'
And the moral of that long winded story? Everyone has different standards of cleanliness. As long as you don't have limescale down your loo stained with poo, and as long as I won't get something awful from drinking from a cup in your house and the dog hasn't left a turd on your hall carpet (or if it has you've moved it and cleaned it a bit) I wouldn't judge you or think less of you.
We all now (gently) take the piss out of posh friend for her slovenly housewife skills. And she is a F/T SAHM so really has no excuse. She takes the piss out of us being anally retentive over cleaning and (gently) says you can tell a posh persons house by the layer of dust. The thicker the dust the posher they are. I don't agree but hey ho.
Some emergancy tips for a quick 2 min clean when visitors are descending and you don't have time for a full clean.
Get a washing basket and launch anything in there that is making it look untidy and shut it in your bedroom/cupboard.
Squirt some furniture polish in the air, smells clean then.
Chuck some bleach down your loo and wipe your basin with a flannel or anything to get rid of the toothpaste/soap grime. Fold a large towel over the side of the bath, it will hide at least half the tidemarks if you have them.
Quickly fill the sink (if you dont have a dishwasher) with hot soapy water and as the kettles boiling say 'oh, I'll just finish these pots'.
Shove any paperwork/newspapers/magazines in a pile and mutter something about the recyling needing to go out.
And when you do have the time to clean properly do 1 room at a time properly. De clutter, pull out furniture and move anything that doesn't 'live' in that room. As you start the rest of the rooms keep the ones you have done clean and tidy. Shouldn't take long at all once the main cleaning is done.
Be ruthless with junk and clothes and clutter. If you can't bear to throw away clothes that no longer fit get some of those vacuum bags and either shove them under a bed or in the loft. Once they have been 'out of sight' for 12 months or so when you find them again you will be more inclined to recycle the fuckers.
And stop stressing. DP's have some friends I was in absolute awe of. House always, always immaculate. Both work, 2 DCs under 7. After asking them how they did it they laughed at me and said they didn't. One of their mothers had the children 2 days a week whilst she worked. The mother didn't drive and lived 2 buses away so used to be dropped off by her DH at 7.30am, take kids to school for 9am then had 2 full days to clean for them. And iron. And do the washing.
Jealous much?