To be FUMING. What do I do about this party situation

[ParanoidAnnie]

Right, I'll try and keep it short. DD2 is 7 in August. We are having am early party tomorrow. 6 friends, small pool on garden, friends parents staying for a few drinks. All organised.

One of the girls she has invited was under duress. She has a birthday the day before DD and there has been some minor falling out with her in this group of friends. I explained to DD that it would be unfair to leave her out. She kind of agreed and reluctantly invited her.

I've just found out that the mum has organised a sleepover for her DDs birthday tomorrow night and left mine out! Even though she has agreed to come to our party during the day.

Fucking fuming is not the word. She has never done an early party. Copied us last year and got her invites out early for the same party on DDs actual birthday. So this year I done it early as DD missed out on her party last year.

I hate to be annoyed by parties as I know there is so much more going on in the world but I am so amazed by this. Speechless.

[LJL69]

sorry, only read first page. I take all of that back and apologies for it wholeheartedly. However if it happens again I was thinking recorders in party bags as they are horrendous

[LJL69]

Yes That is shitty treatment to your DD. The woman sounds a total arse. Dont uninvite the child. Let the others see the bitch is her and not you. Do what HSMM suggests and have something planned for the evening and have a blast with the kids. Make sure there is lots to do so the kids are completely wiped out and will be grumpy and unbearable on the sleepover so the bitch has to deal with it. Also hand out party bags at the end that include things that make a lot of noise and treats that have major additives so they will be tired, hyper and fucking noisey all night xx

[Raum]

On the day your daughter is missing out take her somewhere very special so she doesn't feel left out off her group most of the kids won't even realise what's going on

[FriendlyLadybird]

Oh bollocks. Didn't read whole thread. Sorry ... (hides head in shame)

[FriendlyLadybird]

Look, are you absolutely sure the mother did this on purpose? I mean, August birthdays are always going to be a problem wrt parties. She probably didn't think of doing an early party before you did it, but then thought "what a good idea". I don't see anything wrong with that.

There are probably fewer children going to the sleepover. Maybe her DD accepted the invitation to your DD's party under duress. If her DD and yours aren't getting on at the moment, why on earth would your DD want to go to the sleepover? If she had been invited, would you have made her go?

I think you're just taking this too personally. She wasn't rude enough to arrange a competing party, now, was she?

[pollywollydoodle]

oops...sorry...am on my phone and was going from my (obv crap) memory

[UniqueAndAmazing]

no, she was given the wrong instructions.
it's a single [ followed by the word followed by a single ]

so type [
then grin
then ]

[FunnysInLaJardin]

CHJR it's like that!

[DumSpiroSpero]

You may feel like a tit but at least you didn't act like one!

Enjoy your DD's party!

[Justforlaughs]

I'm trying to work out which is funnier, the OP's mistake or watching CHJR trying to get to grips with mumsnet!

[pollywollydoodle]

you left in the blanks inside the brackets, i think

[CHJR]

//blush //blush //blush //grin
If that worked I'm due for a glass of wine

[ParanoidAnnie]

Glad I've given you all some enjoyment

I'll be extra nice to her tomorrow

[RhondaJean]

Too funny!

Glad everyone's happy though.

[ImperialBlether]

I'm laughing so much here. I'm so glad you didn't lob a brick through her window. Can you imagine if she'd come tomorrow and you'd said, "You needn't think YOU'RE coming in!" I'd love to see the complete bewilderment on her face.

[Fakebook]

Hahahahaha, I just splurted my drink out all over my iPhone when I read the "wrong end of the stick" comment after all the ranting and raving comments. //😂😂😂😂😂😂 too funny!

[InLoveWithDavidTennant]

ok i totally just lol'd

op... that was close! imagine if you went round and had a rant

[ParanoidAnnie]

I am a complete numptee. I'm drinking and contemplating that!

[pollywollydoodle]

CHJR
if you are on the computer version type eg grin or blush but with no spaces

op...sooo close

[CHJR]

Gets worse than that. I still haven't managed to make an emoticon despite perfectly clear MN instructions,. Cut and paste isn't doing it. pleese pretty pleese can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong and I'll post my blushes for all to admire...

[softlysoftly]

brilliant You avoided this going awesomely pear shaped and ending up in classics by a whisker.

dammit

[CHJR]

Teach me to communicate by MN!

[CHJR]

LOL I did, sorry! Hadn't seen there was more than one page! Think for the first month MN should make sure you can't post except at the bottom of the LAST page, just for dolts like me...!

[ilovechips]

Lol chjr - did you post before reading the thread...

[CHJR]

I think your main job here is managing your DD's feelings. Suggest frankness with her: that you think the other mother is wrong, but just because someone else is being badly behaved is no reason for her to do same, she should feel proud of herself and take the high moral ground. (Not easy at 7!) Also, since you know the other mothers, consider calling them and asking them to coach all their DDs not to talk about this sleepover at your DD's party! (Risky though. What if there is ONE OTHER not invited and she learns of this sleepover from you?) A third option: without actually rescinding your invitation, call this other mother and point out to her that she's put you in a difficult position, and sweetly ask her if she can make sure HER DD definitely doesn't discuss her party at yours.

To be fair, a sleepover party is a much bigger commitment than a day party, and calls for more restricted number of guests. (I wouldn't have a sleepover party at 7yo anyway.) The other mother sounds like a PITA. I wouldn't hold it against her DD, who's going to be the real loser in the long run if her mother is as difficult as this makes her sound.