To have politely informed this woman that I will not pay to attend her wedding

[AmadeusRocks]

Received an invitation to a former colleagues wedding about 8 months ago (wedding im november this year) and was a bit shocked that they had listed out the menu inside with the price (£35 per head) underneath. Accepted the invitation thinking they were just being showy bastards and bragging about how expensive the food will be, DH thought the same, however this woman was once a good friend of mine so we accepted. I was a bit about the mark Jacobs perfume on the gift list as well.

I have just received a message on Facebook as follows:

Twatwoman: hi Amadeus, sorry to bother you so soon after the birth of your new baby but was just wondering if you could possibly transfer the £70 for yours and H's meal at the wedding to me soon, the caterers are getting on our backs! Account details: XXXXXXX

Me: hi twatwoman, me and ds are fine thanks for asking, I'm a bit confused, are we paying for our own meals at our wedding?

Twatwoman: haha yes, it's a bit modern isn't it, but I suppose it's only the same as going to a restaurant but with all your friends

Me: hmmm I'm not sure it is the same really, I mean at least when I go to a restaurant I don't have to make an 80 mile round trip, sit through hours of watching you pose like a duck beside a tree, listen to your drip of a husband moan about how wonderful you are and I get to select my own food. I think me and DH will have to decline on this occasion. All the best.


She has not responded.

Aibu?

[DeskPlanner]

I want to read the other thread. I can't seem to find it.

[Neighbourhoodwatchbitch]

I want the OP to come and report back if the friend has replied yet!!

stamps foot

[WorraLiberty]

That's the funniest pile of shit I've read in ages!

[samandi]

Thanks margaery and shewhowines.

In that case, OP is not being unreasonable.

[nogreythatmatters]

Your response was good.
Anyone who charges guests attending their wedding deserves contempt and derision.

[MrsPHollywood]

Pose like a duck. Suppose it means basically the same.

[MrsPHollywood]

I was a wee bit horrified by the 'pose like a dick' and 'drip of a husband' but if you only put the last 2 sentences in the reply then you bloody rock, OP.

[changeforthebetter]

I think your reply (if you sent it) was blunt but very funny. I think the bridal couple are taking the proverbial

[TheRealFellatio]

PMSL at Crowler and her journal.

[Crowler]

That is the absolute cheekiest bridal stunt I have ever come across.

I'm going to record it in my journal now.

[morticia74]

No, not rude. She is.

[OrmirianResurgam]

"I mean at least when I go to a restaurant I don't have to make an 80 mile round trip, sit through hours of watching you pose like a duck beside a tree, listen to your drip of a husband moan about how wonderful you are and I get to select my own food"

Ooh naughty!

But no, if you can't afford to treat your guests as guests, go somewhere cheaper.

[Lavenderloves]

Jesus and she asked for gifts!

I will bet they have a bucket for contributions to her dress!

[shewhowines]

Just the last two sentences

"I think me and DH will have to decline on this occasion. All the best."

[PointlessPost]

OP

Please tell me exactly what you wrote not the bits you imagined

I am curious.

[shewhowines]

Presumably its expensive and odd to be on a wdding list. people don't usually put personal items on them, do they?

[PatPig]

Charging for the meal is very gauche, but what's wrong with Marc Jacobs perfume?

[shewhowines]

I think it's been a funny thread. Thanks op.

I would have wanted to write the same, but like you, am too much of a wimp to actually send it.

[ouryve]

You weren't being unreasonable for not wanting to go to a wedding you have to pay for.

You were for being so rude about it, though.

The ultimate invitation my ex and I declined was one where a couple were having their wedding at a castle - there was a formal dresscode for day and evening AND we would have had to book a room at the castle. It would have cost us hundreds of pounds - ex was in a postgrad trainee position at £9K and I was a student. We politely declined, explained that we couldn't afford it when asked and at no point told them that they were a bit full of themselves, no matter how much we were thinking it.

[GiveMumABreak]

I think the last two setences say enough really (the rest of OP's thoughts can be left to the imagination) YANBU by the way. How very cheeky of them!

[JackieTheFart]

YANBU.

But, YABU posting this in AIBU, you ought to know the catsbums will come out!

[SoupDragon]

And I think this thread proves nicely why you shouldn't make jokes in an OP without making it quite clear it was a joke :) Even when it was clear people thought she'd actually said that, the OP didn't say.

[shewhowines]

AmadeusRocks Tue 18-Jun-13 19:31:13
I genuinely did write it the last two sentences anyway

Was the actual post

[margaery]

samandi, OP's real reply was " I think me and DH will have to decline on this occasion. All the best."