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HeffalumpTheFlump · 04/06/2013 19:16

After an awful week, we had a ray of sunshine today. We had a scan and found out that our baby is 100% healthy as far as they can see and were told that they think it's a little girl! We are over the moon. Grin

In your experience what are the best things about having a girl? We would have been thrilled either way, but I am now so excited about the prospect of being a mummy to a girl, and would love to hear your stories.

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Notafoodbabyanymore · 05/06/2013 06:12

Don't forget that letting them be who they are works both ways. I hate pink and girly and would dress both dds in practical, funky, non-pink clothes, but dd1 loves pink and wants to wear pretty dresses all the time, so I have to let her be that person. Although I do make her wear trackies and leggings a lot of the time and in other ways she's more of a tomboy - loves digging in the mud, running around outside, playing sport etc.

Dd2 is only 6 weeks old so I still get to choose everything she wears!

Congratulations. Having kids is wonderful. Hard work, tiring, frustrating, but SOOO much fun!

nooka · 05/06/2013 06:18

I have one of each, and they are both lovely and wonderful. Some days ds is the best, and other days dd is :)

I think the best thing is not to have too many expectations of who/how they might be, but keep an open mind and let them develop into the individual unique people they are. Sounds like you've already got that spot on. I'm sure you will have a lot of fun together.

exoticfruits · 05/06/2013 06:48

I agree with nooka and wouldn't have expectations beforehand and then you won't be disappointed if you have the 'wrong' sort of girl. She may love being dressed and styled by you- she may resist from an early age. She may love shopping with you and taking your advice- she may loath it. She might grow up to be a woman who sees you as best friend, she may not. You need to support the child you get- and just have fun along the way! (No different to a boy really).

exoticfruits · 05/06/2013 06:51

there isn't anything in the world as wonderful as having a daughter

Yes there is! Having a son! (They are not second best!)
I think that should read 'having a child'.

foolmouse · 05/06/2013 06:56

Agreed that girls clothes are far better than boys. Really really struggle getting my DS decent clothes that aren't tacky and/or boring. Where as DD's I can walk into pretty much any shop and pick up something cute.

But other than that they're no different from boys, both as precious and lovely. I've found my DDs to be more hard work and full on than my son though Wink .

20122012 · 05/06/2013 07:17

Congrats Heffa

Ditto Tallulah i think if one is a girlie girl then you'd absolutely love the clothes, the dresses, and aside from pink there are such beautiful colours esp in the summer...lemons and lilacs...polka dots and stripes alike.

I always struggle buying friends boys / my nephews clothes. Boring.

Looking forward to her being older too and gong shopping together. Going for coffee. Having another female voice in my household to back me up :-)

shewhowines · 05/06/2013 07:19

You are less likely to freeze your bits off standing for hours on the sideline, on cold winter days, with the wind and rain cutting through you.

You are more likely to be sitting in the warm, watching little girls twirl in their pink ballet outfits Smile

ElleMcFearsome · 05/06/2013 07:20

Looking forward a loooooooong way - I felt like I understood female teenage hormones and angst. I could empathise (and remember... just!) being a teenage girl. Many congrats Heffa Smile

Cooroo · 05/06/2013 07:23

I loved reading my DD all the books I loved as a child (most of which would have worked with a DS, TBH!)

Now she is 16 I have a real friend. Never bothered much with the clothes - she preferred boys things. Now she has a real sense of her own style and looks amazing - it's such fun watching a girl finding out who she is. That's prob true for a boy as well, I'll get my coat.

crockydoodle · 05/06/2013 07:35

I have 3 ds and one dd. She is a delight, we are more in tune, the boys are on a different wavelength altogether. I wouldn't agree with the posters that say there isn't much difference between boys and girls.

ZolaBuddleia · 05/06/2013 08:09

DD loves her dinosaur jammies, dinosaur anything in fact.

HeffalumpTheFlump · 05/06/2013 09:35

Thanks so much again, I can't believe I'm lucky enough to have this baby, learn all about her and have all our experiences together like you all have. I am more excited than ever now Grin I have pcos so there was a chance I could really struggle to have babies, I was really scared I would miss out on all of this. Thanks again for your fantastic stories Grin

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Dorris83 · 05/06/2013 09:43

The most amazing thing will be that she is YOUR girl. Therefore whatever her temperament, preferences etc, they will be perfect because she is yours.

My DS (7weeks) is the most scrummy bundle of gorgeousness. When I got pregnant I thought I had a preference to have a girl, but now I realise that it realy didn matter and that MY baby will be the most special thing in the world. he is just wonderful. I can't imagine him any different.

i hope you will feel the same with your DD. congratulations!

Southwestwhippet · 05/06/2013 09:45

QUOTE"Boys have better pyjamas though and there are definitely not nearly enough girl clothes with dinosaurs on."

What stops you from buying those pyjamas and dinosaur tops for a girl? Surely putting them onto a girl makes them "girl clothes"?QUOTE

Nothing stops me, DD wears boy PJs all the time. I was particularly offended though when Sainsbury's brought out its "Gruffalo" range and the girls' PJs were sickly pink with a pink Gruffalo on, the boys' were a lovely blue with the Gruffalo in his traditional brown colour. DD, of course, had the boy ones.

I guess my point was (not made well) that it frustrates me that you have to go into the 'boys' section to get dinosaur stuff. Its the marketting side I hate, trying to tell parents and girls that they should have cakes/ponies/butterflies etc rather than pirates and dinosaurs. My DD likes both.

cory · 05/06/2013 09:47

With a boy it goes straight in your face, with a girl it trickles up their back and gets in their hair.

These are the only definitely gender related differences that seem to hold true for the whole of my family.

I actually find it easier to understand ds' reaction; his personality is more like mine, so his reactions (even when wrong or stupid) seem to make sense to me. Dd might as well come from an alien planet. But it is interesting to get to know her and see the world from a different perspective. And thinking about it, she is very like my mother, another woman whom I loved dearly but never really understood.

fortifiedwithtea · 05/06/2013 09:54

There is every chance you will freeze your bits off supporting your child regardless of gender. DD1 girls football and muddy kit for 3 years. DD2 ice skating, gets really cold watching that, at least the outfits are very girly and pretty.

For all dinosaur clothes lovers - Natural History Museum on-line shop Smile.

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RhondaJean · 05/06/2013 13:02

I really wanted sons. I too was terrified of repeating the toxic mother-daughter cycle.

I have two daughters. I don't always get it right, but I'm so proud of how they are turning out, and they like all the things I wanted to do with sons AND I get to shop for girls thing too, best of both worlds really.

Going through another set of teenage girls dramas is proving to be challenging however, and I have yet another lot still to come.

trackies · 05/06/2013 22:20

i have a girl who is a bit of a tomboy tornado and a boy who is a bit less adventurous. She hates dresses, but we have been shopping together and have a lovely time. My boy is alot more cuddly at the mo, but I think my girl and I will be close forever. DS will probably drift once he's found a DP.

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