To expect my 18yo to learn to drive?

[redwiner]

We have lived in the house where we are now for about 10 yrs, its handy for me for work, handy for bus for dd to get to work but a fair way for dh to get to work therefore we are looking at moving about 5 miles up the road to save him tens mins or so on his journey and have seen a lovely, much bigger house that it our absolute dream.
Unfortunately its more in the countryside than where we are now and there won't be any buses for dd to get to work. Last year on her 17th birthday we bought her a car and insured it, got her some driving lessons but she really isn't bothered about driving. The problem is that unless she does drive we cannot move to the new house we have seen and absolutely love.
I want to know if you think that we should put our dream of moving on hold (the new house has got room for chickens, loads of parking and over half and acre of land) until she either decides to drive or move out, or if I can give her an ultimatum of say, learn to drive by the end of the year or she will have to ask for lifts/get taxis etc or even think of getting a flat share?
I don't want her to move out but I do want to move house, however I am now caught in the middle between dd and dh! Advice please!!

[DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow]

You need to ask her why she is reluctant to learn to drive. Given the fact that her dad died in an RTA it's not all that surprising.

[TheFlipsideOfTheCoin]

she should be bloody grateful that she got a car, lessons and insurance!

[redwiner]

Everyone, I really appreciate all your thoughts and input. I think I shall go with the general consensus and try to go ahead with the house. It might be hard but we are not going to rush into anything and dd will be consulted all the way. Thanks so much for your time and energies!
x

[Shesparkles]

OP it might not feel like it just ow, but you really will be doing her a favour by taking a stronger stance on buying the new house, whilst we all give up a lot for our children, there comes a point where as a young adult she needs to know that there has to be some compromise in life

[WorrySighWorrySigh]

VeganCow - we paid around £1600 for DD1 from Admiral for a Ford Ka. It is one of their 'LittleBox' policies.

DD loves the freedom.

[VeganCow]

thanks for that worry, will try and get a quote!

[WorrySighWorrySigh]

DD has just had her first report back and is delighted to find herself an excellent driver!

[Dawndonna]

Redwiner
May I have the name of the insurance company too, please.

Your dd will bugger off one day anyway and you will be left where you are, so that may as well be in your dream house. She will learn soon enough, if not, she'll scrounge lifts from friends, get taxis, whatever. It's your turn now.

[WorrySighWorrySigh]

Dawndonna - not sure if OP is still on this thread but I was able to get insurance for DD(17) when she passed her test for around £1600 for a 2001 Ford Ka with an Admiral Littlebox policy.

[Dawndonna]

Bless you Worry, Thank you!