This morning I went to Tesco to get DS and DD some pajamas, DD didn't want any of the girls pajamas (cats, cakes, butterflies etc on them) so I said we would look the other side of the shelf for some for DS and go somewhere else for hers.
On the Boy side we selected some with monkeys on for DS and DD saw some with green and blue crocodiles on, and said she liked those. They had her size so I picked up the pack and asked her if she was sure those were the ones she wanted. She was sure so I popped them in the basket at which point an very friendly assistant who had been setting out shoes told me the Girls pajamas were around the other side of the display, I said thank you but we were fine. Then while i was selecting myself some knickers she appeared with a pack of pink pajamas and asked me if DD preferred those. DD bless looked at me and said 'I like crocodiles' so just said again no, we are fine and walked away.
I am sure IANBU, but do you think I am and if I am could somebody please explain what makes crocodiles unsuitable for girls? I am not bothered by the shop assistant she probably has really girly daughters and thought I was trying to make a point and was making sure the crocodiles weren't being forced on DD.
AIBU?
AIBU to think crocodile pajamas are unisex and perfectly suitable for DD?
CockyFox · 16/05/2013 12:32
Grr, this really irritates me. Are there no girl crocodiles then? Do they not exist? Also I HATE it when to make animals like monkeys and lions 'girly' they just have them pink and will put long eyelashes and eyeshadow on them 
Really annoys me.
Animals are unisex. Imo everything is unisex, if a child wants to wear something and feels happy wearing it then whatever. Doesn't matter if it's a boy dressed as a fairy, girl dressed as a builder. Whatever makes them happy.
Yanbu btw, at all.
Yes indeed Minty82. 
I was absolutely 
when the mum told me, but then I remembered all the parents who said they wouldn't let their little boys play with dolls or push buggies, and all the parents who say things like 'she loves running, she's such a boy' or 'he loves dressing up, he should have been a girl'. It gives me the rage. Some people are so ignorant.
Yes loofet, eyeshadow for pigs so you know it's a female pig, or they put bows on the animals' heads. WTF does an owl need a bloody bow on its head to make it suitable for a girls' shirt?!
Now if it were actually bloody, that might make it unisex again, because manly things are violent and aggressive, right, like crocodiles
This makes me so cross and I wonder how we got to this.
DD2 is 13 and still prefers boys toys and a lot of boys clothes. She gets very cross at the pigeonholing that goes on. She likes Pokemon and Skylanders and lego and dinosaurs and reptiles and electronics sets and all the action stuff. All these things are clearly aimed at boys - why? Why should girls not like them?
The trouble for her now at 13 is that boys PJs are not cut to fit her shape. We found her some Skylanders pyjamas in age 12-13 but they are very wide and not really right. She keeps checking girls clothes for something non pink and fluffy but said with a sigh the other day that girls were never going to get skylanders or pokemon.
She is into onesies as they all are at this age but all the girl onesies are very much pink and bunnies. So she currently has a crocodile onesie which is actually an extra small mens which she loves!
It does worry me because she wants to go on and be a scientist and I know she is going to have to fight her way to be seen as good at a subject which is still supposedly the domain of boys. We're been to a few science workshops at various places and even at places like the Royal Institute she still felt they were praising the boys for their input and taking much less notice of anything she said. And that's where all this gender discrimination that starts at babyhood leads.
I feel very strongly about it and think that it's crazy that in this day and age. The situation is if anything much worse than when I was a child. My lego set was obviously unisex as were a lot of my toys. Rarely happens nowadays.
CockyFox, you are right on both counts, but this mum actually said to me 'everyone tells me I'm going to turn him gay'. Just because he likes to grab a cloth and 'help her' with the dusting. He was 2 years old. 2
Totally agree about animals too. When I'm looking at animal pictures with children, I try to use 'he' and 'she' equally, like 'Ooh look it's the tiger, she's got a long tail' or 'ooh look, the giraffe! He's eating leaves'. It's disturbingly tempting to refer to all animals as he, just shows how much we've all been indoctrinated.
at the pink globe.
And if you saw me most of the time SDTG then you'd know it wasn't the pajamas that encouraged dungaree wearing.
Musicposy I'd a science degree 25 years ago and it makes me 
that girls still pick up that message.
I was an engineers DD and far too thick skinned to care and DD1 wants to do something scientific and has never worked about it being for boys, but both of us do tend to be top of our groups which helps.
DD2 is far more socially aware. She does pick these things up and mutter that the boys are better at maths. In vain do I say they certainly weren't in my class and that one of her friends mum's has a first for maths. If she works there is no reason why she shouldn't be as good as the boys.
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