MIL said this about my children because they were being shy yesterday. I just smiled and moved on but was annoyed because:
- they weren't being shy with her, it was someone else whom they hardly ever see, and being in a strange place (they usually see MIL at our house or theirs, and this was out, and the other person was completely new). MIL knows this, when she comes to our house the dcs come running to her.
- It's a fucking dig and it's not fair. I do not have time to BREATHE. I had to skive off existing commitments to do my own daughter's birthday cake. I supermarket shop online when I should be working, I do laundry at home when I am supposed to be working, I do not have time to have a haircut, we are barely keeping afloat with everything we have to do: 2 small children, 2 adults, 2 full time jobs, and we have just moved house, and, for some reason, all kinds of major things have just broken and are proving hellaciously endless to fix. MIL lives about 6 miles away, does nothing, and has a car. IF YOU THINK YOU SHOULD SEE THEM MORE THEN COME THE FUCK OVER AND STOP TRYING TO MAKE ME ORGANISE EVERYTHING AND DO EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME.
- For clarity, when I say "come the fuck over then", what I actually mean is: phone up, suggest a time, and come then. Not say vaguely "I'll pop over at the weekend". When? We aren't just sitting there for 48 hours waiting for something to happen. We will make time for you, gladly, but it would really help if you could give us a clue which bit of time would suit you.
- or, as a radical suggestion, not that you have to, but you could maybe come round in such a way that actually helps me. If you were to sit with the dcs for 2 hours (which they would love), at a time arranged with me, which I know about, and can plan for, and then you actually show up at that time, and I could get on with something else, then this would actually be net gain in my life and be incredibly easy for you and YOU HAVE NOTHING ELSE TO DO. You don't have to, but you know what, your life is a lot easier than mine so stop bitching at me.
AIBU?