"You are not raising your children during this time. They are obviously receiving childcare and not being raised during these times. providers are only given permission to care, when you raise your children you are totally responsible for all their needs."
By your logic, morethanpotatoprints, we are only raising our children during the times when we are interacting in person with them, is that right?
So in the morning, in the evening, and on the weekends I am raising dd, but then during the hours when I'm in the office I'm not.
And if on a Saturday I pop out to the shop and leave her at home with her dad, I guess I'm not raising her anymore for that hour? But he is. I never realised there was so much at stake! Am i giving up my role in my child's life every time I lose the coin toss on who has to go for milk and bread?!
I suppose we both cease to raise her, effectively leaving her parentless, for a couple of hours on the odd occasion that we leave her with a sitter to go out for an anniversary meal or something...
Or is it only time spent working that counts against a parent when it comes to your assessment of whether she's "raising" her own child? Do you really think that "raising" a child means the same thing as "minding" one?
This is what raising our child means to me and dh: providing her with security and making a home for her, providing opportunities for activities, travel, and education, setting an example for her, planning for her future, making the decisions on everything from food, activities, clothing, entertainment, bedtime, which childcare to use, which school to attend, yes or no to this or that sleepover, making sure she gets to the doctor when she needs to, advocating for her always, making sure she brushes her teeth, eats her veggies, gets some exercise, learns to tie her shoelaces, sitting up with her all night when she's sick, teaching her new skills, fretting and worrying about her constantly, keeping an eye on areas where she needs support, and providing that when we're with her and making damn sure the childminder (or, in a year or so, the teacher) is providing it when we're not, being the disciplinarian even when we don't want to be, because it will help her learn how to get along in the world, planning her birthday parties and ways to make the holidays special, teaching her our values, passing on family traditions and beliefs, making sure she knows that she is the most important thing in our world and always will be, and that EVERY decision we make has at its heart our best judgment of what's in her best interest now, and far into her future.
And a million other things that I do without thinking about it because I am her mother. Even when the childminder is giving dd lunch, fingerpainting with her, or bandaging her scraped knee, she is well aware that she isn't "raising" dd (which is why she runs everything past us, dd's parents). We are the ones who decide what dd is going to eat, we're the ones she proudly hands her fingerpaint creations to so that they can be hung on the fridge, and we're the ones with the magic kisses to make her scrape feel all better.
Do you really think that working mothers don't do those things? Or are you just going out of your way to be insulting?