to think putting on your make-up in public isn't rude or anti-social?

[MomentLostToTheSky]

A thread I just read reminded me of an incident a couple of weeks ago.

I was on a really long flight and was waiting for my connection flight. The first flight had been overnight and I hadn't slept.

Was sat in departures, extremely bored and looking like a hot mess and decided to retouch my make-up. It wasn't busy and still a few people were staring at me.

A few people on the thread said that doing your make-up in public is rude and anti-social. I really just don't get how it's rude, it's just make-up which doesn't have a smell to it and as for anti-social - I wasn't planning on making conversation with the strangers sat opposite me.

I agree that in a certain situation such as in the middle of a job interview then yes it's rude.

But overall I really don't see the problem.

[MrsCosmopilite]

Pagwatch summed it up pretty well on page 1.

I have vague inklings of it being a bit vain, but I can understand that if you've had a rough night and want to look a bit more human, make-up if a must. However, I do think that the bathroom is the place for putting on your face.

[Lomaamina]

Ooh crashdoll I'm on the First Capital Connect train towards central London at around 8am too! From the north - a semi-fast train - said she mysteriously, but meaningfully.

There's someone on my commute who does this regularly and I have been know to move seat (assuming I can) to avoid her 20 minute toilette.

[Lomaamina]

been known

must start previewing my overexcited postings

[ArielThePiraticalMermaid]

Blimey, how much are people wearing? Beige masks? Trowelling? Sponges?

[Acandlelitshadow]

Probably down to the circumstances the slap's being applied in.

Acres of personal space and preferably the other side of the room to me no problem.

Trapped in a train seat or other enforced in-facery and/or splattering others with the by-products - hideously grim.

Still not as grim as the moment I walked into the ladies at work and found the secretary shaving her legs on the bench and leaving the trimmings on the floor though

[Lomaamina]

"Blimey, how much are people wearing? Beige masks? Trowelling? Sponges?"

That's it, isn't it: my own make-up routine takes 2 minutes flat, including a light cover of foundation, mascara, lip liner and lipstick, all done at home, I hasten to add. 20 minute sagas are beyond belief, but do exist, I'm afraid

[ArielThePiraticalMermaid]

Mascara and a bit of powder for me.

The trouble as I see it with an elaborate routine is that it sets a precedent, and people become unwilling to go out without their full face on. It's limiting. I'm not judging, I hasten to add, but it dies puzzle me.

[Happymothersday]

I have a terrible fear of flying so back in the days I used to give myself a manicure on board as the concentration took my mind off things. A few businessmen used to comment about the smell of nail varnish. But it was still better than me running through the cabin screaming " we're going to die!" which is what I do now.

[Lomaamina]

OP: I don't know if someone's already pointed out, but the anti-social aspect of putting on make-up in public is not that you aren't engaging in conversation with your fellow travellers, but that you're imposing yourself - nail shavings, skin particles etc. unnecessarily on them. It's the equivalent of blowing your nose and then chucking the tissue on the person facing you.

[ArielThePiraticalMermaid]

Well it really really isn't is it? Simply because putting on a bit of mascara or lippy doesn't involve smearing snot over your fellow passengers .

[Bunbaker]

"I have a terrible fear of flying so back in the days I used to give myself a manicure on board as the concentration took my mind off things. A few businessmen used to comment about the smell of nail varnish. But it was still better than me running through the cabin screaming " we're going to die!" which is what I do now."

So you use nail polish on a plane? How thoughtless and selfish.

[scottishmummy]

your tone cupcake was belligerent to anyone not liking to see makeup applied

[Happymothersday]

Bunbaker, can't work out if you're being sarcastic or whether i was really being thoughtless and selfish.

Anyway, those days are gone. Can't even take a cup of water through customs now.

[Lomaamina]

Ariel - fair enough to putting on lipstick and I have fond memories of my grandma retouching her lipstick delicately after a meal, but no to anything that involves foundation-laden tissues, nail filings etc., which can potentially spread germs.

And of course there's the yuk factor too . What's acceptable to some people, isn't to others, so why not hold on till you can get to private space and do it there?

And what on earth do women do with their mucky hands? Or are they magically able to put on make-up without getting anything onto their hands?

[ArielThePiraticalMermaid]

I wasn't saying I do it! I rarely wear much make up and when I do, I would rather people thought I was so naturally and flawlessly beautiful I couldn't possibly be wearing any!

I just don't see why it bothers people so much, and as for the assertion that it is exactly like blowing your nose and wiping the snot into someone's face....

Life's too short and all that.

But then I've already said that from this thread I can't believe the amount that people wear, and also I never travel on public transport at rush hour so have never encountered the phenomenon.

[Lomaamina]

Sorry Ariel that was a plural 'you' - I didn't mean to seem personal.

... I don't think anyone has said "it is exactly like blowing your nose and wiping the snot into someone's face...." but I suppose poetic licence is permitted on AIBU .

[ArielThePiraticalMermaid]

Well it's one of the perks

Why should anyone try and be reasonable dammit?!

[ArielThePiraticalMermaid]

Oh it was you wasn't it!

Come on, that's what you MEANT wasn't it? You DEFINITELY MEANT it was as bad as wiping bogies on people's faces.

I am having a bad day. I reserve the right to be as unreasonable as possible

[whiteandyellowiris]

how very odd for people to think its something to be done in private

i am actually shocked

[Lomaamina]

OK Ariel, if I can help improve your day, I'll say it was you singular and I definitely meant it was as bad as....... (too yuck to bear repeating) .

[Pagwatch]

It is really shocking that anyone thinks differently to you whiteandyellowiris. I know, we are all a bit thrown really.

This thread is going the way of shoes on/off in the home - from 'it's ok/I don't like it' to 'how dare you have a different opinion/it's like shitting on a bus' in 100 messages

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

Pag

Maybe it is an age- related thing?

< head tilt>

[Pagwatch]

Yes. Verily.

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

Happymothersday


I am thinking of alternatives....

What about colouring books? They are pretty absorbing

[whiteandyellowiris]

so i wonder what alot of folk on this thread think to breast feeding when out about