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to think putting on your make-up in public isn't rude or anti-social?

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MomentLostToTheSky · 09/03/2013 16:32

A thread I just read reminded me of an incident a couple of weeks ago.

I was on a really long flight and was waiting for my connection flight. The first flight had been overnight and I hadn't slept.

Was sat in departures, extremely bored and looking like a hot mess and decided to retouch my make-up. It wasn't busy and still a few people were staring at me.

A few people on the thread said that doing your make-up in public is rude and anti-social. I really just don't get how it's rude, it's just make-up which doesn't have a smell to it and as for anti-social - I wasn't planning on making conversation with the strangers sat opposite me.

I agree that in a certain situation such as in the middle of a job interview then yes it's rude.

But overall I really don't see the problem.

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DoJo · 09/03/2013 21:18

Hold on, what's the problem with wet hair? Have I been inadvertently infuriating people by not owning a hairdryer?

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crashdoll · 09/03/2013 21:28

On a previous thread, I got told I smell like a wet dog because I don't blow dry my hair. Grin

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scottishmummy · 09/03/2013 21:41

Applying make up in public is gross and common

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Adversecamber · 09/03/2013 21:43

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ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 09/03/2013 21:57

Gross and common apparently. There, you have your answer [hmm[

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ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 09/03/2013 22:02

Hmm fail

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janji · 09/03/2013 22:03

Must admit I would have a sneaky look at anyone doing make up in public but only because I am always on the look out for tips/am fascinated how others apply theirs!

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BalloonSlayer · 09/03/2013 22:11

OP you said this about my post:

See I really take offensive to that. I didn't start this thread to judge anyone who wears make-up or who decides not to wear make-up. It's personal choice.

But you have judged people that do by saying that they are wearing a mask. I don't wear so much make-up that if I went without it I would be completely unrecognisable.

I wish to clarify what I said. I called wearing make-up "wearing a mask." I did not mean "a mask" in the sense of something that renders someone unrecognisable. I meant "a mask" in the sense that disguises what someone truly looks like.

I wear make-up every day. Whether I am ill or well. Whether I am going out to a party or staying in all day. If I am going out to an exercise class first thing and likely to sweat it all off. If I were not going to see another human being for the whole day.

I feel deeply uncomfortable without it - I look as if I have just been dug up. However, as I do not wear mascara, or eye shadow, most people think I don't wear make-up at all. To me, make up is to make me look OK, healthy, a tad younger. Not to make me look like someone with fab make up.

I would still call it a mask. Because it masks the haggard horror that is my reality. Grin

This is why I cannot comprehend why someone would stroll off to the station without make up on (like my sister used to) then sit and trowel it on in front of everyone on the train. If you consider that you look rough enough to need that much make up then IMO you need to apply it before you see anyone, even fellow commuters.

However, having read the OP again, any make-up is likely to have disappeared after a long-haul flight so I do not think these rules [of mine] apply in those circumstances.

Apologies OP, I did not mean to offend you.

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pixwix · 09/03/2013 22:11

I very rarely wear make-up, and someone refreshing it in departures wouldn't bother me - in fact - I'd probably be agog, and sidling up for tips!

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ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 09/03/2013 22:22

That's what I think. I would rather go without any than put it on in front of people, because I want them to think the make up me is how I look!

Sad innit?

I am much more comfortable wearing none at all these days, having said that.

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znaika · 09/03/2013 22:38

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EvenBetter · 09/03/2013 23:45

I used to put full face of makeup on on the 1.5hour long arduous bus journey to work because I refused to get up even earlier in the morning to do it. I value my time and sleep. Many people behave disgustingly in public but smearing coloured gloop over your face isn't offensive.

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cupcakemumma · 09/03/2013 23:54

I often end up putting my make up on when on the train going to work, quietly minding my own business. I'm not in the habit of elbowing anyone, causing any noise, i don't shove my bag on anyone, nor flick make up on anybody.

I suggest that people should just concentrate on their own journey's to work rather than watching other people, as quite frankly staring at others is rude and bad mannered.

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scottishmummy · 10/03/2013 00:09

So don't put your make up on on train,you're in no no position to assume any moral high ground

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VBisme · 10/03/2013 00:17

I put my make up on in my office, (handy having mirrored photo frames of DH and the kids), but I'd have no issue with someone putting it on during a flight / on the train / in a bus.

No idea why anyone would care? It's not like picking your nose or singing.

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Mimishimi · 10/03/2013 04:12

I don't think it's rude if others do it but I never do it myself. I even feel shy if I touch up at the mirror in the women's bathroom - do it whilst in the cubicle, before going to the loo (yes, one of those women who holds everyone up Blush). I spend quite a bit of effort putting it on to look as natural as possible whilst actually still improving the way I look so I guess I don't want to shatter the illusion Grin. Mum has always inculcated the notion that it's declasse to do it in public and I guess that has stuck with me although she never had any qualms applying lipstick in front of the mirrors at the women's loos.

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maddening · 10/03/2013 07:56

I reckon there are places you just wouldn't do it and times and places you can please yourself as with most things.

I remembered the woman done for applying makeup while driving and the photos in the paper so while driving is a definite no.

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FreudiansSlipper · 10/03/2013 08:20

Oh well I am common :) and I often touch up my make up in public :o Shock

never give it a second thought when I see others apply their make up in public unless I am liking the colour of their lipstick

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cupcakemumma · 10/03/2013 08:33

Scottishmummy, your tone is rude, hostile and unnecessary.

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Lomaamina · 10/03/2013 08:39

It is foul having to sit on a crowded commuter train with someone troweling on their beige masks in front if you and no, you cannot ignore it when it's happening in front if you as someone up thread suggested! I'll mannered and unhygienic - waving around used sponges etc. his anyone can think it acceptable!

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Lomaamina · 10/03/2013 08:41

HOW not HIS

ILL not I'LL

But you got my meaning...

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cupcakemumma · 10/03/2013 08:59

Trowelling and waving sponges around sounds more like the style of a clown applying make up in the rush hour commute.

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XiCi · 10/03/2013 09:23

I don't think there's anything wrong with putting make up on on the train but I really object to people doing their nails. Twice in the last week I have been overwhelmed by the smell of nail varnish on the train. The smell is disgusting.

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Binkybix · 10/03/2013 09:57

Anything that involves shedding (like nail filing, eyebrow plucking) is not on, but otherwise I find it strangely relaxing watching people apply make up. I would probably be looking, but not judging. I like the powdery smell of some make up for some reason, so maybe that's it.

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crashdoll · 10/03/2013 11:01

Trowelling and waving sponges around sounds more like the style of a clown applying make up in the rush hour commute.

You've obviously never been on a First Capital Connect train towards central London at around 8 am!

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