To think this teacher is fucking loopy?

[OverReactionMuch]

DS2 (just 5) apparently broke a branch off one of the trees in the school playground. He was swinging on it (normal boy behaviour?).

Teacher, who is Head of KS1 then paraded him around all the KS1 classes with the offending branch lecturing the other DC on how naughty my DC was and what a terrible thing he did.

She also phoned me (I did not know she had taken him round the classes) to inform me of my DS's 'crime'. I said I would talk to him. She also took the 'dead' branch into the afterschool club and showed all the DC there and so the staff could show me the offending article when I picked him up.

DS has said that he did not mean for the branch to come off.

I am actually quite furious that she has demonised my DS to the other DCs. DS has found it very hard to settle into school and I actually had a meeting with this woman before he started at school as I was concerned about how he would settle (undiagnosed SN is my mother's gut instinct) and she has totally ignored every thing I said.

AIBU to loudly voice my displeasure on Monday?

[ninah]

at my last school the HT encouraged children to climb trees, dig holes and make dens around the edge of their large outdoor area. It was a great place to work but I suspect somewhat unique

[ninah]

I prefer coffee btw

[HollyBerryBush]

I climbed trees, I lived in trees all summer - but those were the days when dinosaurs roamed the earth and we buggered off up the woods all day and came home for tea.

[edam]

Of course girls climb trees! Even I did it, and I was a pale bookworm who neither particularly physically adept nor brave. Still am, really, but have given up climbing trees.

[eslteacher]

Well I'd guess your DS did need to be reprimanded, but the punishment sounds really severe in relation to the crime, unless there's something more we don't know about. Even then...it does seem pretty sadistic taking him round the whole school like that.

I definitely think that you should speak to the teacher to find out more about what happened, both in terms of what your DS did exactly, and what his punishment was and why.

[aJumpedUpPantryBoy]

Sort of makes me wonder if it's because the playground duty teachers prefer to stand around chatting drinking tea rather than actually supervising the DCs playing.

Yep - that's playground duty

Along with supervising a large number of pupils, often with areas that can only be seen from certain spots
Sorting out/preventing/pre-empting argumements
DEaling with upset children
Making sure children aren't being left out
Doing your best to ensure no bullying is happening
Thinking that you need the loo but won't be able to go until dinnertime
DEaling with any accidents

[FlouncingMintyy]

I don't know why any of you are bothering with the op tbh. From the way she posts it isn't the teacher who comes across as "fucking loopy".

[Jemma1111]

Imo , it doesn't matter whether the op's dc was in the right or wrong for swinging on the tree (although I can't see the problem with it ).

What would totally piss me off if this was my dc would be the fact that the teacher paraded him around from class to class obviously humiliating him . I would definitely be seeing the head and making an official complaint .

[countrykitten]

Beginning to wonder tbh...feeling sorry for the teacher on Monday already! I must say, the old 'boys will be boys' from parents as an excuse for poor behaviour does grate somewhat as it really smacks of the 'my child can do no wrong' brigade.

Hope the teacher manages to put your mind at rest OP and that you manage to be civil to her.

[Catsdontcare]

Not sure why the OP is getting such a hammering. What her ds did wasn't outside the realms of normal for any 5 year old. It would have been perfectly fine for the teacher to have had stern words and mentioned it at home time.

Parading him around the school was OTT and an exercise in humiliation. I would definitely be having words about how this was managed.

On the subject of SN the OP suspects it and has seen her GP. He has said she needs a letter from the school, I and many others know this is not the case but the OP might not be aware of this and like many would take the GP's word at face value. I think it was pretty shitty of hollyberrybush to suggest that the OP should just get on and get him diagnosed it's not that simple and it takes a long time.

[yellowbrickrd]

OP, you've got an attitude problem.

That said, I used to go in and help when ds was in ks1 and once witnessed the head of ks1 bellowing at the top of her voice at a little boy, in front of the whole class, because of 'rough play' at break. No one had been injured and the boy was never disruptive or violent to others. The poor boy was bright red and literally squirming with fear and humiliation. So it can certainly happen and should be confronted.

[OverReactionMuch]

Anyway, thanks all input. I know IANBU and pretty much knew I would get this response.

DD said the teacher told them at the afterschool club that DS had been very, very naughty so carried on demonising him to the end of the day. Not all teachers are lovely, inspirational people and this one has been an absolute cow to my little boy IMO so I shall stand up for him and make sure she is aware of my view of her.

[Pagwatch]

If you know you are right and thatyou would get 'this response' I wonder then that you posted in aibu...

Go back to the GP though. If he needs support a diagnosis is a good start.

[OverReactionMuch]

My attitude is perfectly fine. Are you referring to me standing up for myself against the many rude and irrational posters on here?

[Fairenuff]

I suppose you can phrase things to give a different impression.

The teacher paraded my child around the school.

The teacher walked my child around the school.

The teacher accompanied my child to several classrooms.

The teacher demonised my child...

[Pagwatch]

We need an "iANBU and you can fuck off" section

[BOF]

Can you pinpoint what you have found rude and irrational? I'm not sure what you mean.

[Pagwatch]

We need an "iANBU and you can fuck off" section

[BrigitBigKnickers]

Tree murderer!

Totally nuts! I could vaguely understand her being cross if he had been told repeatedly not to do it but he is a 5 year old boy- swinging on trees is part of being 5! Total over reaction!

[EndoplasmicReticulum]

I think when the Op is saying "rude and irrational" she means that some posters do not agree with her. Which begs the question why post a thread in AIBU if you have already made yourmind up that you are not?