to not know what unconditional parenting is?!

[GirlOutNumbered]

Just read it on a thread. I have no idea what this is?

[GirlOutNumbered]

We have parents phone in to get their children out of detentions all the time. These kids believe that the world revolves around them and their parents reinforce that completely.

[DreamsTurnToGoldDust]

So what happens when a UP child goes to school and get disciplined? Do they have major meltdowns as someone has said no or not allowed them to do something?

[JenaiMorris]

I've told ds to tell Miss we got stuck in traffic, to make me look less crap (it doesn't work, and it's a crap excuse unless something remarkable happens such as the one road being closed for half an hour). We've only been 5 minutes late so far.

I certainly wouldn't expect him to be let off detention though.

I can't believe UP is so widespread that it's having a huge impact tbh and I live in exactly the kind of area where parents love that kind of toss.

[Domjolly]

Is tosh that what it is i think there are many parenys already letting there children do what the hell they like and has been ever thus for decades its called

Not setting boundries and being a bad parent

[mrsjay]

I have just read a bit of that guys website and oh well nowt as queer as folk i suppose

[DreamingOfTheMaldives]

Am I the only one who cannot find THAT thread?! Come on someone, give me a little clue............ you know you want to.

[mrsjay]

TBh I think following any sort of parenting style to the letter is weird and culty

[pictish]

NOOOOO!!! LeQueen - I have been, I have seen. Stay away. I'm warning you!
I had a look and left the thread, quietly closing the door behind me.
It's not werf it lahv!

[Domjolly]

Yes there are a few kids at my sons school who get to decide when they want to attend school what lessons they will part take in

And weather they will simply just walk out of school


Hhha hahaha i never heard such twaddle alot of americans like this up shite says it all really

[Hullygully]

I haven't read the book, but I agree with the blurb.

[mrsjay]

the teenagers I was talking about earlier are member of my family and it is really difficult to engage with them sometimes because they are so rude and up their own behinds with their own self importance. their mum is lovely just a bit feeble. she doesn't practise UP just lets them do as they please because 'their opinions matter and they are equal'

[tempnameswap]

It is an extension of a long-standing psychological concept en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unconditional_positive_regard so not just new-fangled parenting nonsense!

I think it is a good thing, fwiw, but hard to re-condition ourselves in the heat of the moment!

[Domjolly]

I think these children will get a shock when they start high school or try and join the working world just not going into work because you dont feel like it not really goning to cut it



But like mosy have said its the new age tyoes who home school and give rice cakes as treats who do this sort of thing so can avoid boundries that is until its time for little prince or princess to get a job

[GirlOutNumbered]

It does just stink of not wanting to get into any type of confrontation doesnt it?

If I dont give boundaries, then I don't really have to discipline.

[LetMeAtTheWine]

Am I the only one who cannot find THAT thread?! Come on someone, give me a little clue............ you know you want to.

Nope - I can't find it either

[BeCool]

EC = elimination communication
i.e. what we did with babies before nappies were invented.
What many many cultures still do.

[mrsjay]

i.e. what we did with babies before nappies were invented.
What many many cultures still do.

I guess they just pooped on the floor

[Hullygully]

I have only known one awful child like the ones described here. He could never be left alone with another child out of sight because that one would reappear crying and bleeding. His parents would say, "Oh dear X, oh dear etc" If he displayed aggression publicly they'd say, "Oh darling hit me, hit me, hit my big fat bottom."

He was a monster. They were always moving his school becasue the school was a t fault.

But they didn't "unconditionally" parent, they "hopeless" parented.

I think people confuse the two.