Hello, it's this old chestnut.
Firstly, I like some of the other posters on this thread am from a northern mining village with parents who left school at 14. I was the first person in my family to go to a grammar school and to get a degree. It was quite the norm in the 30s/40s/50s/60s/70s (right up until the point when grammar schools were turned into comprehensives or went private in most of the counties) for grammar schools to promote social mobility and I am a positive example of that.
I think the contentious issue is that the systems differ in different parts of the country and this causes a disparity in education which can have far reaching and adverse effects on many pupils.
I still believe ideologically that a good comprehensive with the right type of leadership can produce the best educational outcomes for all of its pupils. But that probably relies on a very school senior management team (and governors), flexibility in approach (which is presumably where the whole academy idea is attractive?) and a socially and culturally diverse intake of pupils. I can't quote statistics but I do wonder whether the best comprehensives outside London are in towns/large villages where the comprehensive caters for all the local children rather than specific demographics?
In some counties where all the children sit the 11+ and there is the perceived divide and associated stigma twixt grammars and secondary moderns/comprehensives, then there is an issue. And I can well see why people are disgruntled with the options. Fine and dandy if you have bright DCs but not if you don't....
In London boroughs you could argue that there is generally more flexibility and we potentially have the best of both worlds. Around where we live, are two of the best performing comprehensives in the Country, several good comprehensives with selective intakes and seven of the super-selective grammars. Also the non-selective comprehensives are up and coming generally.....
And yet looking at the an article in the Daily Telegraph earlier on this month, in SW London we have five or six of the most sought after (in terms of applicants per places) schools in the top twenty state schools in the UK. And bear in mind that this is a part of London where many children go to private schools too so are excluded from those numbers. I think that says something about the panic to secure places at the good schools and I'm sure it must be evident elsewhere in the UK too.
I have to admit that we did debate long and hard about school choices for our DS and although we did include three comprehensives in our list of six on the CAF he has gone to one of the super-selectives. For us the decision was about ensuring that our bright son does the best that he can and he himself was very keen on going to a grammar school. Even at nine/ten/eleven that was his goal.
And whilst we did practice papers with him in the lead up to the exams, he was not externally tutored (we couldn't really afford it and as graduates felt that we should have the right skill-set to help him ourselves). He passed all three 11+ exams he took. It seems from what he says that many of his peers are still being tutored - it is also very apparent that the teachers dislike it but what can they do to stop it?
It seems as if the grammar schools are actually trying year-on-year to alter the goalposts to reduce "the tutored effect" but I'm not sure if they will ever manage it...