to be shocked at medical staff small talk

[Nobodyelse]

so there I am with a gamut of instruments up my jacksie in a big hospital, and the nurse (who I've never met before) is doing her best at small talk to stop me passing out. So she blurts out something about my husband's job. WTF? How did she know? He is in a community facing role so there is no way I would make an issue of it, so I thought I'd rant on here instead. The medical care was fine, btw, and she did succeed in distracting me.

[diddl]

So does the husband work at the hospital?

If so, would he have told staff that you were going in & what for?

[thebody]

Get over yourself.

[blueraincoat]

Colonoscopy seems most likely.

[sashh]

Am I the only one wanting to know why the OP was in hspital and how the instruments got where they were.

[Loveweekends10]

Are you just trying to be mysterious op? Or maybe just trying to show off? I don't know but either way your post is annoying because you are telling half the story. It's left everyone trying to guess who your husband is.
YABU because the nurses was trying to distract you from discomfort and pain. If nurses don't always choose your subject of choice then that's unfortunate but we are not mind readers you know.

[BridgetBidet]

I hate having to make small take with medical staff.

I was having minor surgery last month and was sitting on the trolley in the room next to the theatre and they were asking me about my baby son. And one of the staff members said 'I bet you heard an awful lot of bad baby names in the maternity hospital'. And I said 'Yes, and there was one baby called X' and the nurse standing next to me pipes up 'That's my grandson's name'. I was mortified, never has a general anesthetic been so welcome.

They just shouldn't talk to you or limit it to the weather or, I dunno, cats or something.

[cumfy]

she did succeed in distracting me. ++

Cunning bastards these medics!

You're not the OP who had their starfish mauled by a moggy are you ?
They are famous in their own right!

[blueraincoat]

*what happened

[blueraincoat]

If your husband works in the NHS it may have been that your referral letter said Mrs Nobodyelse wife of so please can we see them quickly.

This used to really bug me when I booked appointments, didn't take any notice of it, just treated them like any other patient because its the NHS Grrr... not saying this is what happens, maybe she just stalks you.

[vintageviolets]

Does he have a beard?

Does he wear glasses?

Are you Mrs Claus

[propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS]

My friend is a midwife and she says her and her mates can guess which couples ticked the 'related to each other' box in the maternity notes. Guessing that one is a big game apparently.

[Sinkingfeeling]

Shocking. Is your dh Prince William???

[VivaLeBeaver]

I met someone who's husband was a chicken sexer once! It does open up an opportunity for small talk. She probably was just trying to take your mind off things.

[propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS]

If your dh is famous then fair enough that the nurse knows him and your connection to him. If dh is an ordinary old plain Jane then I agree that it is rather odd and unexpected for her to launch into a conversation about him.

[VivaLeBeaver]

I sometimes have a nosy in notes to see what patients or their partners do for a job. I have a game where I try and guess the occupation and then have a look to see if I'm right.

I can spot police officers, armed forces, teachers and doctors with nearly 100% success rate.

[Nobodyelse]

Ahhh, that would make sense if he was named in the records. OK maybe it was just normal polite small talk and I will let it go ... thx all and sorry for any confusion x (I am terribly chilled about most things, obviously have the wrong shock triggers!) x

[jamdonut]

It's probably in the referral letter from your GP...they often mention stuff like that in my experience from working as a clerical officer in a hospital out-patients.

[BalthierBunansa]

I am so confused.

[Needathickerskin]

Is he your named Next of Kin in you records?
Was she just trying to be nice?
Not sure what you felt was inappropriate here.

[VivaLeBeaver]

Mmmm, maybe it's in your medical notes? Dunno.

Or he's famous and that's how she knows what his job is.

But you're not answering questions so its hard to know.

Either he does an ordinary job and you can't understand how she knows he works at Asda.

Or he's famous and you can't work out how she knows you're his wife.

[OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos]

It's a small world Nobody, six degrees of separation and all that.

Why is it such a big deal though? Are you married to Father Christmas?

[Nobodyelse]

lurked how did you guess? Shhh!

[MulleredWhines]

oh X posts- different names blows my theory out!

[VivaLeBeaver]

Kate?