tbh I'm not sure it's fair to make it into a contest about who will feel the worst and why etc etc.
This notion of action vs reaction makes me deeply uncomfortable. After all where do we draw the line at that?
I don't think anyone is in any doubt that the two DJ's could never have foreseen that someone would commit suicide following their prank. No-one could have foreseen that. And yet there are plenty of people saying that they should in some way be held accountable for her death, that they are partly to blame.
But let's look at it in a slightly different light. I used to know a woman who, before I knew her, went out with a guy. For whatever reason, the relationship ran its course and she ended it. When she did, the guy told her that if she left him he would kill himself. She left him, and he killed himself. By the theory of action verses reaction, she was in fact to blame for his death. And unlike the DJ's, she knew the consequences of leaving this man could be that he might commit suicide, but she left him anyway, and he carried out his threat. Should she be held responsible? Should she have stayed in the relationship? After all, if she had, he would still be alive, surely?
If someone came on mn and said their partner was threatening to commit suicide because they wanted to end the relationship, would people advise them to stay? Or would they blame them if he then carried out the threat? especially as they would have known this might happen?
You see, it's a very very dangerous road to start down, this idea of opportioning blame. Because once you start blaming one person, you then have to start blaming others. someone who leaves a relationship knowing the ex has threatened to kill themselves is culpable if they carry out their threat because they knew what the consequences of their actions might be. Yet no-one would seek to blame them, well perhaps the close family might, but on the whole society wouldn't. Yet these DJ's couldn't have foreseen what the consequences of their actions might be, and yet they should be blamed for a woman's death? How does that work?
Suicide is a senseless and entirely selfish act. But it is also an act of personal choice. The individual who commits suicide may feel they have no choice, but they do actively choose to end their own life. You cannot opportion blame for that to anyone except the individual who goes through with it.